I am ashamed for unknowingly committing incest - Page 5

Botakhead · #61 18-02-2012, 09:24 AM

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Originally Posted by jamesdeak

i don't normally post replies, just enjoy the reading. but i guess when a bro is in need, the best is to give encouragement. suicide is only going to make matters worse for everyone except yourself. y torture them more now? instead, think rationally and live with it. heads up and stay strong!

Thank you for your encouragement. It's been a bad feeling down and out, lucky for me F and C both forgave me for the misdeeds I had done. Got to stand up and walk the way in front, looking forward to better days ahead.

Botakhead · #62 18-02-2012, 09:27 AM

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Originally Posted by ugotbabe

after reading the story. find that this is simply too hard to believe.

I'm also caught unaware, out of the blue, like got slap left right centre up down front back..... Idon't believe it too initially, could not take it, boils down to me....I'm the trouble of all evil. Well, in the end what's done had been done, got to take it like a real man, face the music.

Botakhead · #63 18-02-2012, 09:29 AM

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Originally Posted by greddy

bro, through I seriously find this story unbelievable but I am gald you are coping alright and assumed responsibility for the act you have done unwittly, you gained my respect for this. kudos....

Thank you for your concern, all responsibilities lies with my reach, got to do my best to salvage this bad situation.

izerkudie · #64 18-02-2012, 09:32 AM

Nice for knowing your experience

Botakhead · #65 18-02-2012, 09:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Johnston

OMG because fucking with protection feels different from fucking without protection and OMG TS when young probably wouldnt have a condom in his
wallet

I always asked before I do it raw, no issue if no pregnancy, because I had a few flings end up with either abortion or have the kid born into this world.
Jokings asid : TS your calm and comfortable life must suddenly be now like a very complicate taiwan drama.... i wouldnt wan to be in your shoes now.
Yeah, you bet, now have to do my calculations so that I won't have to make more mistakes. It's going to be tough time from now onwards. Money is not a problem, it's the time to contribute my love.

Stay Safe.

Now I've given up my fantastic, colourful, raw sexual lifestyle. For the past 4 years, I've been a dedicated husband, loving father.

Botakhead · #66 18-02-2012, 09:39 AM

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Originally Posted by FarAway

TS bro, this is indeed a tricky situation no one should ever get himself in, well in your case you just have to do what you need to do.
It was not only tricky, but sticky too. Can only do whatever I can to cover this big hole....
Well I seriously think you should not let your wife know about your 'other family' and also never should your grandchild know that you are the biological father, as this will cause a permanent scar. One can hardly imagine a child growing up knowing that his father = grandpa. Let the child go for more thorough checkups too just in case. These secrets you may torment you every now and then, but that's for everyone's best interests.
I'm still in a dilemma, got to think through carefully, very carefully, so as not to do more harm and damage.
Financially wise do what is necessary to sustain your families, best of luck and may the force be with you bro.

I'm blessed with a good job, so financially, still can cope, just the love, not enough to split around....

Botakhead · #67 18-02-2012, 09:41 AM

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Originally Posted by izerkudie

Nice for knowing your experience

Thank you, I wish that I can say that I'm make amends to redeem myself.

bonkning · #68 18-02-2012, 09:55 AM

can't undo the past liao, just the best for the future. we are not youngsters anymore, think u know what u should do.

and some things are better left unsaid, 'bu zhi shi fu', unless telling them will make e-v-e-r-y-b-o-d-y feel better...

i have a friend who had sex b4 marriage with his gf about 20 years ago liao, and he kept it from his current wife and they are v happy now. if he bring it up now , m not sure what will happen...feelings of betrayal.....destructive...

glad he kept mummmm...

my half cent.

Megafan1981 · #69 18-02-2012, 01:46 PM

Wow all the best to you..

You should be most concerend about C's child. Does he or she have any birth defects?

Megafan1981 · #70 18-02-2012, 01:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Johnston

OMG because fucking with protection feels different from fucking without protection and OMG TS when young probably wouldnt have a condom in his
wallet

True. I never have a condom in my wallet.

Until now, one of my ex-flings still occasionally SMS me saying she's pregnant, etc and I have since deleted her contact. I can only blame myself for not bonking her with rubber.

Botakhead · #71 18-02-2012, 02:59 PM

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Originally Posted by bonkning

can't undo the past liao, just the best for the future. we are not youngsters anymore, think u know what u should do.
Yeah man, age is catching up real fast, wink of an eye, times flies and by the time you realise, all the chidren would have their own families too.
and some things are better left unsaid, 'bu zhi shi fu', unless telling them will make e-v-e-r-y-b-o-d-y feel better...
Still undecided if I should let the wind out of the bag.....because my beloved wife, she's been tough and rough times with me, she bailed me out of terrible situations before. I was on the brink of bankruptcy, she came forward and solved my money problems.
i have a friend who had sex b4 marriage with his gf about 20 years ago liao, and he kept it from his current wife and they are v happy now. if he bring it up now , m not sure what will happen...feelings of betrayal.....destructive...
Well, we can't always have the best of both world. But end of the day, what's been done,had already happened.
glad he kept mummmm...
Wish him luck.
my half cent.

Thank you for sharing and visiting my thread.

Botakhead · #72 18-02-2012, 03:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Megafan1981

Wow all the best to you..

You should be most concerend about C's child. Does he or she have any birth defects?

Yes the child is my main concern now, being the youngest. From what I've seen, she's doing just fine (lucky) for the moment. She's been to clinic for yearly check up but nothing of the extraordinary turned up. So it is just some consolation for now.

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Originally Posted by Megafan1981

True. I never have a condom in my wallet.
I always asked if rubber was needed before my every fuck session with whoever was my partner, if need I'll use, but it'll never be the same ever.
Until now, one of my ex-flings still occasionally SMS me saying she's pregnant, etc and I have since deleted her contact. I can only blame myself for not bonking her with rubber.

It will be pain in the ass if you were to go for DNA. You can never be sure, until the results are out. Then if not yours, ok, but if it's yours, never ending story....

Good Luck.

neyney · #73 18-02-2012, 03:30 PM

If go for dna testing, i think botakhead will go jail.

Especially when the test may show up that the resulting pointing to incest.

n30n · #74 18-02-2012, 03:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Botakhead

I'm still not sure if I should be doing that, in the end the results could be really hurtful. So will let C make the final decision, she's a big girl now.

About the 2 mothers meaning me beloved wife and my beloved F? Still not decided if there is a need to let my beloved wife into this little secret yet.

Maybe i didn't phrase properly.

I mean have enough savings so that you can provide financial support in case next time the little girl comes into any health misfit. If you read about genetic disabilities it's a lifetime health issue so can be quite a liability if anything were to surface. ChoyChoy.
Whether C want to check anot, doesnt matter. But when the situation arise, at least you can ease the health support and lifestyle bills.

As for the two mom's i'm referring to C and F.
They two made the same mistake, which led to such a confused situation. Wouldn't want the little girl to go through similar kind of situation. Break out of this vicious cycle.
Hope the girl will grow up to love and respect herself more.

From the way you speak of your wife, i think she's not a very open minded type of person. Even if things already happened in the past ( don't know if there are things that happened during dating and marriage time), i don't know if she can take it and support you. So better keep it from her.

bonkning · #75 18-02-2012, 05:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Botakhead

Thank you for sharing and visiting my thread.

since she been thru so much, all the more shuldn't hurt her with this info. it is not necessary for her to know. it only makes her sad, right. just do all u can to keep it from her- for her sake, and

bu zhi zhe - can't blame, u dun know it at dat time ma, if u know sure u won't do right.-my humble 1 point to u.