why would people are like that? im confused

[HCKing]

Originally Posted by PikachuDoraemon

but what if i choose to broke off, but he keep pester me and wouldnt want me to leave? i'm way too soft hearted and just worry it might go back to square one.

find new bf 1st then break off lor.

[sane]

Originally Posted by muscleboi

nowadays making new friends is like making 酒肉朋友.

Each to his own but just don't be influence.

Originally Posted by HCKing

find new bf 1st then break off lor.

Jump from 1 pit to another? Like v messy leh ...

[ALonelyPerson]

Never play with an relationship , Karma always do return. If the other party did no wrong with you and you feel both of you are not compatible, end it quick before further damage is done... Once a relationship process long, breaking up isn't as easy as it will be .. If the other party is not willing do.. definitely letting go will be a tough thing and your life will be miserable too

[HCKing]

[QUOTE=sane;8976598Jump from 1 pit to another? Like v messy leh ...[/QUOTE]

no leh many females i knw often do this, very effective de leh.

[sane]

Originally Posted by HCKing

no leh many females i knw often do this, very effective de leh.

Like that, like never ending, jump till when

[HCKing]

Originally Posted by sane

Like that, like never ending, jump till when

jump till found the right one lor.

[sane]

Originally Posted by HCKing

jump till found the right one lor.

by that time 恐怕已经伤痕累累 。。

[curiouslala]

Originally Posted by sane

Sorry to say but I wouldn't fall in love with a guy like that, it made me look down on him especially when the only reason is just he's plain lazy to look for a job.

I was sort of dating this guy during school days, he had the cheek to ask me to buy things for him when we were just friends. The impression of him change 360* though he's a looker. We remained as friends but nothing more.

hmm.. agreed also..
having a jobless father is enough for me and i dont want to have a jobless guy as my bf or (worst) hubby..

my guy dont have to work in a big company or have a high title in company and get a big salary per month.. and i dun care if he's just an o level guy or diploma guy or have no study background..
as long as he work in the right way, not a drug dealer, gangster or hitman), a dishwasher in a restaurant or a cleaning services is okay for me.. and he must be okay with me if I earn more than him..

Originally Posted by sane

A woman have to be independent, don't appear too needy, yet maintain her charisma and mystery feel to capture her man's heart

i only have 2 tendencies.
1) be needy to someone whom i care about
2) not needy at all to those whom i dun really care about
and no choice in between.

so, when i care for my partner, i'll be having no 1 tendency. but when he dun response to those, i'll go down to no 2 tendency. and when i'm at this point, i really tired to care about him.

maybe jie can teach me on how to be in between?

[sane1]

Originally Posted by curiouslala

as long as he work in the right way, not a drug dealer, gangster or hitman), a dishwasher in a restaurant or a cleaning services is okay for me.. and he must be okay with me if I earn more than him..


i only have 2 tendencies.
1) be needy to someone whom i care about
2) not needy at all to those whom i dun really care about
and no choice in between.

so, when i care for my partner, i'll be having no 1 tendency. but when he dun response to those, i'll go down to no 2 tendency. and when i'm at this point, i really tired to care about him.

maybe jie can teach me on how to be in between?

Mei, same as u, I put character as the main priority when choosing a partner.

As for part 2, it's very hard to teach u as it's more to my character issue.

People have been telling me that I live in my own world with a nonchalant and cant be bothered attitude.

I value "me time", freedom, privacy and being alone is a form of relaxation to me.

I actually enjoy shop, eat, drink, workout or just exploring small shops/alley by myself. 1 of the fav past time is to read papers and sip coffee at a cosy cafe.

I actually dread it when my friends offer to join me. That's y at certain moment, I will always off my phone and stay out of reach.

Sometimes I will just reject lunch kakis to go lunch but tabao salad and chill by myself while surfing net, I will get annoyed when anyone interrupt me at these moment.

However I m not anti social, I enjoy the accompany of others too but end of the day, I just enjoy being myself

N sorry to TS, if I got a bf like that, I will go berserk. He is more like a burden rather than a partner to me. I think I will invite him home rather than to stay and keep me accompany.

[curiouslala]

Originally Posted by sane1

Mei, same as u, I put character as the main priority when choosing a partner.

As for part 2, it's very hard to teach u as it's more to my character issue.

People have been telling me that I live in my own world with a nonchalant and cant be bothered attitude.

I value "me time", freedom, privacy and being alone is a form of relaxation to me.

I actually enjoy shop, eat, drink, workout or just exploring small shops/alley by myself. 1 of the fav past time is to read papers and sip coffee at a cosy cafe.

I actually dread it when my friends offer to join me. That's y at certain moment, I will always off my phone and stay out of reach.

Sometimes I will just reject lunch kakis to go lunch but tabao salad and chill by myself while surfing net, I will get annoyed when anyone interrupt me at these moment.

However I m not anti social, I enjoy the accompany of others too but end of the day, I just enjoy being myself

N sorry to TS, if I got a bf like that, I will go berserk. He is more like a burden rather than a partner to me. I think I will invite him home rather than to stay and keep me accompany.

Ah.. I see..
Then I'm half you only leh..
There are times when I want to be alone w/o anyone disturbing..
But still, a simple msg or reply from my partner would be very appreciated..

People said "if you don't want to be ignored, don't ignore people"
And I hate to be ignored. If he hv no time, he can just say sorry, I'm busy, ttyl..
And I'll do my stuffs..

About TS, same like you leh..
I will just break up with him. No need to waste time with a guy like him..
I can't imagine to spend a month with that kind of guy..
He will cut my spending and gift for myself bcos i hv to spare him my self earned salary for his spending..
Not to mention a marriage life.. Its gg to be hell..
He probably will act like a boss and rob my savings account..
Jeez..

[sane]

Originally Posted by curiouslala

Ah.. I see..
Then I'm half you only leh..
There are times when I want to be alone w/o anyone disturbing..
But still, a simple msg or reply from my partner would be very appreciated..

People said "if you don't want to be ignored, don't ignore people"
And I hate to be ignored. If he hv no time, he can just say sorry, I'm busy, ttyl..
And I'll do my stuffs..

About TS, same like you leh..
I will just break up with him. No need to waste time with a guy like him..
I can't imagine to spend a month with that kind of guy..
He will cut my spending and gift for myself bcos i hv to spare him my self earned salary for his spending..
Not to mention a marriage life.. Its gg to be hell..
He probably will act like a boss and rob my savings account..
Jeez..

Usually I text then I forgot about it unless I m asking something but I do agree with u, it's rude and I feel really bad about it.

That's y i say u r meticulous, really take effort to reply every postings and pm. I tried my best but still will miss 1 or 2 , feel v paisay when I realise I missed it and as for pm, I usually reply 1 sentence/few words and sometimes I forget, I just click empty folder n if ask me to recall the sender, I really cant. Then if I already reply out of courtesy and the other party keep asking, I will just give up, feel really lazy.

I think r/s is about giving and taking, a 2 way traffic. It could not be a party who is usually giving, both must be active or else it is very hard to maintain it.

[HCKing]

Originally Posted by sane

by that time 恐怕已经伤痕累累 。。

bo bian, no one knws who will be the right one unless they try.

problem with girls is they tend to be irrational when in love, choose to stubbornly hold on to a hopeless relationship even though they themselves can see there's little hope for a happy ending. should learn to let go and move on for the benefits of both parties.

[huhu123]

TS how old is yr bf?

[sane]

Originally Posted by HCKing

bo bian, no one knws who will be the right one unless they try.

problem with girls is they tend to be irrational when in love, choose to stubbornly hold on to a hopeless relationship even though they themselves can see there's little hope for a happy ending. should learn to let go and move on for the benefits of both parties.

This is fine if they r in late teens/early 20's, disastrous if drag to the late 20's til the 30's. u r right, a woman's youth is very short..

There's once i met this interesting gal in pub 2 yrs ago, she told me that she broke off with her bf at 28. Since then, she has been in and out of r/s but not a single serious one and she seem to be very experienced in dating, even can categorized different types of men and methods of handle them.

She say many married ones has been hitting on her, they will treat her very very nice but it's just fun they are after and boil down to nothing at the end of the day.

By 35, she started to get panic and wonder is she going to stay single forever?

This is quite true for my single friends hitting 30, harder and harder to find someone as they reach older.

Originally Posted by huhu123

TS how old is yr bf?

morn

[huhu123]

Originally Posted by sane

This is fine if they r in late teens/early 20's, disastrous if drag to the late 20's til the 30's. u r right, a woman's youth is very short..

There's once i met this interesting gal in pub 2 yrs ago, she told me that she broke off with her bf at 28. Since then, she has been in and out of r/s but not a single serious one and she seem to be very experienced in dating, even can categorized different types of men and methods of handle them.

She say many married ones has been hitting on her, they will treat her very very nice but it's just fun they are after and boil down to nothing at the end of the day.

By 35, she started to get panic and wonder is she going to stay single forever?

This is quite true for my single friends hitting 30, harder and harder to find someone as they reach older.



morn

Morning early bird catches the big fat abalone

i am 35 yet singles, am i rotting on the shelve. Die i am start a thread looking for gf liao. ANy ladies out there?????