How to choose a wife?

[giggz83]

frankly speaking its near to impossible to find the "perfect wife". as times had changed, the people now and last time, say our parents era is totally different. so maybe we just have to give and take .. and also pray that we bump into the "right" girl.

few months back i remember one of my girl friend told me this. she and her boyfriend had come to a stage in their relationship where they're talking about marriage. but she's a degree holder while the guy is a ITE fellow.

well, she say .. say if she's at level 8 and he's at level 4.. she dont mind lowering down 2 level to level 6 to be with her bf .. BUT, is the guy willing to climb up 2 level to met her at level 6?
and she told me .. its not materialistic.. but she's simply being very practical.

and if the guy isnt willing to .. she will leave him.

well, i dont know are they still together .. im not so busybody to ask her.

but i kinda agree with her.. it really reflects the society now. there is really no such thing as. you married a chicken you follow a chicken you married a dog you follow a dog .. times has changed.

[analog539]

How to choose a wife?

VERY carefully.

You can do everyting right, and die.
You can do everything wrong and it will be fine.

Its like that. The problem is, you're dealing with a moving set og goals posts with women, especially if you marry one. If you just date, go out, the moment she goes phsyco, you get rid of her. If you're married, not so easy lah.....especially after kids.

I'm afraid to say that luck plays a big part here.

Good luck,
jim

[Randi_Candi]

Originally Posted by giggz83

frankly speaking its near to impossible to find the "perfect wife".
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and if the guy isnt willing to .. she will leave him.

well, i dont know are they still together .. im not so busybody to ask her.

but i kinda agree with her.. it really reflects the society now. there is really no such thing as. you married a chicken you follow a chicken you married a dog you follow a dog .. times has changed.

George Bush, Ronan Keating, a neighbour n the perfect woman took a lift.
The lift cable broke and the lift plunged all the way down, who din die?

The perfect woman. Y? Does perfect woman or man exist?

Yeah........follow up or b left out. If u r not up 2 par, there will b others who r

[caycan]

My test is simple: if everything is going well and you're just about to get married, then both of you must go on a vacation....with special conditions.

The conditions are simple:

1) it must be to a place where both of you do NOT speak the language (brazil or eastern europe or south america)
2) you can only have US$30 to spend per day. Yes between the 2 of you. No credit cards, traveller's cheques or debit cards.
3) both of you agree that certain places have to be seen by a certain time limit
4) No phone calls allowed.
5) Only 15 kg of luggage per person.
6) Minimum 10 day duration and NOT a conducted tour.

For us who have gone to the army, this is really nothing. But if you want to see a ger's true colors, then it's a good test.

Why? The test is a trial marriage in some ways. It forces you to rely on each other (since no phone calls allowed) in a semi-hostile climate (no english/chinese spoken by natives), to jointly achieve the same goals, with limited resources.

If she can't make it by day 4, then congratulations - you just saved yourself a lot of future heartache and $$$.

If she can carry on, and hell even inspire you, then congratulations also, you have found the One.

Either way, you can't really lose.

Yes, it seems to be asking too much but if a ger doesn't have the same tolerance as you, then marriage is going to be tough when times get tough.

[ProjectSawadee]

perfect wife where to find? what i think is important to a marriage

Most important:

1. A great sex life( she must be able to satisfied you in your desire) (vice versa)

2. Of course must be good looking presentable in business and dinning occasions.

3. Best if can cook well ( a bit hard la but still possible)

4. Respect you as the man of the house. big dicision you make and she support. (vice versa)

5. smart woman. not just IQ but also EQ


if the above conditions are met unlikely you will go out to play around or you worry she go out and play around.

of course the most important thing is MONEY. No money no honey. it is crap saying that love is bread is not lor.

cheers
PS

[SassySammy]

hmm so much talk about choosing a good wife. Care to share pointers on how to choose a good husband??

Hard to find a faithful guy who only lusts after his gf/wife nowadays.

Especially when we read about demoralising news (recent one on the uncle who gives his china mistress 2k/mth & supp card, goes shopping with her and leaves his pregnant wife to go for checkups alone when she's pregnant.

[giggz83]

Originally Posted by caycan

My test is simple: if everything is going well and you're just about to get married, then both of you must go on a vacation....with special conditions.

The conditions are simple:

1) it must be to a place where both of you do NOT speak the language (brazil or eastern europe or south america)
2) you can only have US$30 to spend per day. Yes between the 2 of you. No credit cards, traveller's cheques or debit cards.
3) both of you agree that certain places have to be seen by a certain time limit
4) No phone calls allowed.
5) Only 15 kg of luggage per person.
6) Minimum 10 day duration and NOT a conducted tour.

For us who have gone to the army, this is really nothing. But if you want to see a ger's true colors, then it's a good test.

Why? The test is a trial marriage in some ways. It forces you to rely on each other (since no phone calls allowed) in a semi-hostile climate (no english/chinese spoken by natives), to jointly achieve the same goals, with limited resources.

If she can't make it by day 4, then congratulations - you just saved yourself a lot of future heartache and $$$.

If she can carry on, and hell even inspire you, then congratulations also, you have found the One.

Either way, you can't really lose.

Yes, it seems to be asking too much but if a ger doesn't have the same tolerance as you, then marriage is going to be tough when times get tough.

erm.

i think this is something like Commando's Ranger Course. hahaha.. a one week survival skill with a buddy to be.

[caycan]

No, it's not difficult at all. When I was in the army in early 90s, I went to visit Koh Samui & Ko Pha Ngan on precisely such a budget. US$30 is about average for a backpacking style holiday in the countries I talked about. Had a lot of fun, met lots of people.

I think my ideal wife would have enjoyed it too.

If she was the f**king princess type, all the time must have this (e.g. aircon) or that (running water), then I would have dumped her. Sorry lah, girlfriend, you're not my type.

[asdfghjkl]

Originally Posted by caycan

if you want to see a ger's true colors, then it's a good test.

i doubt this can work if the guy got money.. if got few billions, the girl will likely tahan for even one year..