Wife & Sex - going through the motion

[TheEvilDoer]

Originally Posted by iluvsyt

2) gal friend (MILF) - frequently,2-3times weekly,
as and when we meet (hotel, car, pitch tent)

In a tent, lol

[highlysex]

Originally Posted by Hotcoffee

Good for you then. My wife only have sex when she feels horny. I'm so frustrated when most of the time I got to pcc. Sometime I told her things we could do to spice up our sex life but she also says no to all and brush off the topic.

Sigh. Wtf!

Same same here

[tamtam]

Originally Posted by swinger38

Well, I'm married for a good 10 years with 2 kids and I totally undrstand what you brudders went through. Allow me to share my 2 cents worth.

This is the list of things we did to relive our sex lives.

1. Watch porn together.
2. Go on single dates just like courtship days
3. Bring her out for drinks, alcohol helps to increase libido.
4. Help wife slim down and encourage her to wear some sexy outfits. Every woman wants to look good and they always enjoy attention from other men. Makes themselves feel wanted.

Did all mentioned here...This is what i get for the following answers to the points above:

1) She fell asleep half way...all the time.
2) Dear children how, their homework not done yet,how to go for our date?
3) Why waste money unnessarily ? Dear...
4) Why? you want me to dressed like a prositute izit??? What you take me for ?

So after countless attempts, and her promise of improving our sex life if i leave my girlfriends/fb....now our life go back to normal again...That is ZERO SEX !!!

So as usual, i starts to cheong like no tmr again...She did'nt kept her promise,why should I ?

[asdfghjkl]

Originally Posted by tamtam

1) She fell asleep half way...all the time.
2) Dear children how, their homework not done yet,how to go for our date?
3) Why waste money unnessarily ? Dear...
4) Why? you want me to dressed like a prositute izit??? What you take me for ?

they are my ans too..

[Botakhead]

Originally Posted by asdfghjkl

they are my ans too..

Are you married? I always thought you were a working executive leading a single and carefree lifestyle.

[notti4u]

Originally Posted by asdfghjkl

they are my ans too..

becos of your answer, that why man will have to settle with his both able hand to DIY or look for prey or get laid by woman hahaha......

[analog]

Originally Posted by tamtam

Did all mentioned here...This is what i get for the following answers to the points above:

1) She fell asleep half way...all the time.
2) Dear children how, their homework not done yet,how to go for our date?
3) Why waste money unnessarily ? Dear...
4) Why? you want me to dressed like a prositute izit??? What you take me for ?

So after countless attempts, and her promise of improving our sex life if i leave my girlfriends/fb....now our life go back to normal again...That is ZERO SEX !!!

So as usual, i starts to cheong like no tmr again...She did'nt kept her promise,why should I ?

Bro! Agree completely!

Ladies, just so you understand:
1. Fucking someone else is breaking your marital vows,
2. NOT fucking your husband is ALSO breaking your marital vows.

Women do not or refuse to understand point 2. You do not get married to become a monk or a nun. Failure to have sex with your husband without a valid medical reason is GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE in Singapore and most other juristictions.

Adultry and refusal to have sex are both the same. The latter is usually the cause for the former.

Were there is smoke, there is always fire.

Cheers,
jim

[queeniegal]

Originally Posted by analog

Bro! Agree completely!

Ladies, just so you understand:
1. Fucking someone else is breaking your marital vows,
2. NOT fucking your husband is ALSO breaking your marital vows.

Women do not or refuse to understand point 2. You do not get married to become a monk or a nun. Failure to have sex with your husband without a valid medical reason is GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE in Singapore and most other juristictions.

Adultry and refusal to have sex are both the same. The latter is usually the cause for the former.

Were there is smoke, there is always fire.

Cheers,
jim

Actually I agreed

But again can treat wife like sex tool la..

Must come to a compromise level, guy and gal must be sensitive enough and understanding enough.

Always two way traffic if hubby understanding gal also must know how to reward likewise to the opp... Ha that IMO

[cawca]

IMO..... kids are simply a convenient excuse for women to justify themselves when they fail in their duties. My wife and I have 3 young kids to care for but that has never been used as an excuse for us to cut back on our intimacy. While we've had to make sacrifices and give up certain aspects of our lives, we still manage to have sex every other day to every day.

It is therefore, more likely the psychology and beliefs of the couple that determines the decline in sexual intimacy.

1. Ambition - Women are generally more ambitious than men and this can be seen from an early age. This leads to the view that sex in a couples life should take a 'back seat'. A woman marries hoping her husband will change while the man marries hoping his wife doesn't change.

2. Love n Sex - When the 2 are viewed as entirely seperate entities, sex naturally loses its value. Where a marriage is concerned, it'll be good for the 2 to be viewed as going hand in hand.

3. Ownership - What's the point in marriage when you still refuse to acknowledge that you now belong to your spouse. While those with more 'modernistic' view may frown at this point, I simply do not see the purpose of marriage without this. In fact, this very point has many implications on the directions of a marriage that can be discussed as a seperate topic.

[analog]

Originally Posted by queeniegal

Actually I agreed

But again can treat wife like sex tool la..

Must come to a compromise level, guy and gal must be sensitive enough and understanding enough.

Always two way traffic if hubby understanding gal also must know how to reward likewise to the opp... Ha that IMO

Unfortunately, its all her.
She decides when we have sex and when we don't...period.

Fucking crap if you ask me. I have NEVER once said no if she wants it, she says no 99% of the time.

Rip for for men i fyou ask me.

Government says they want more kids, how to have kids if the wife won't fuck?

Live.
Jim

[analog]

Originally Posted by cawca

IMO..... kids are simply a convenient excuse for women to justify themselves when they fail in their duties. My wife and I have 3 young kids to care for but that has never been used as an excuse for us to cut back on our intimacy. While we've had to make sacrifices and give up certain aspects of our lives, we still manage to have sex every other day to every day.

It is therefore, more likely the psychology and beliefs of the couple that determines the decline in sexual intimacy.

1. Ambition - Women are generally more ambitious than men and this can be seen from an early age. This leads to the view that sex in a couples life should take a 'back seat'. A woman marries hoping her husband will change while the man marries hoping his wife doesn't change.

2. Love n Sex - When the 2 are viewed as entirely seperate entities, sex naturally loses its value. Where a marriage is concerned, it'll be good for the 2 to be viewed as going hand in hand.

3. Ownership - What's the point in marriage when you still refuse to acknowledge that you now belong to your spouse. While those with more 'modernistic' view may frown at this point, I simply do not see the purpose of marriage without this. In fact, this very point has many implications on the directions of a marriage that can be discussed as a seperate topic.

Bro, full marks on all points!

10/10.

Well said.

Cheers,
Jim

[lustarhymes]

I never realised this thread is so interesting...Now i gotta digest the first 50 pages of divine posts before I share my views

[btclow]

Originally Posted by gilagila100

Not so simple sometimes ... this is a very tricky question to answer ...

But I heard this from a lao jiao,

Make love to ur wife ...
Have sex with FL ...

Go chiong, bring $$$ & 2IC but dun bring heart ... No matter wat must go home to sleep

Not everyone is lucky to be able to have sex and make love with the same woman ...

yup, totally agreed. . once family life mess up and that it... all mess up which might include your career..

[GeylangCheong]

Originally Posted by WilliamTang

Some women tend to lose interest in sex
usually after childbirth due just to hormonal imbalance.

If they have this issue, you can try something called Siberian ginseng coffee,
so far this has managed to settle the low sexual libido issue that my current
wife has.

I used to get it from http://siberian.getenjoyment.net

Just google "siberian ginseng libido women" and you can see alot of
infomation about it

Hope this helps you out

The above poduct looks interesting, maybe will give it a go, hopefully my old
sex life will be back

[gloryglory]

I face the same problem as a lot of married man - sexless .Making love to my wife is just like getting a year end bonus.Usually i DIY .Bros can you tell me how to make my wife begging for sex other than eating all those sex products.Last week we make love after she finish 2 glass of wine.She really devour me maybe it's our wedding anniversary.I always hope it's every day like that.Pls advise me.