Woes of a Cat 40 tirak.

[redlord]

Originally Posted by thekiller

I am not hiding. I am just trying to protect my tirak identity and also I know my parents will not be happy. Sometimes, it is so difficult to give a very win-win situation in life.

Good post , but let me ask you ,one fine day when they fond out the true , what you going to says? you cannot hide ur tirak identity forever .

difficult to give a very win-win situation in life, this i very agree .

[lestat_666]

Yupp, have to agree with Redlord. One day or another, the truth will catch up with you guys. Loss of face is seriously socially disastrous for Thais.

If you want to marry her, marry her in secret in LOS. With your current stated income(i trust its real), you will be a god in LOS. Why bother to put up with all the hassle of living with a WL in SG?

Originally Posted by lestat_666

Yupp, have to agree with Redlord. One day or another, the truth will catch up with you guys. Loss of face is seriously socially disastrous for Thais.

If you want to marry her, marry her in secret in LOS. With your current stated income(i trust its real), you will be a god in LOS. Why bother to put up with all the hassle of living with a WL in SG?

My parents already know that I am seeing her. I am facing the music now.

Of cos I will want to marry her in LOS cos this is the only way. But my tirak and I both agree that the child must be raised in SG. Better education and the child will remain a Singaporean.

The future of moving to LOS will have to wait. I need to be financially stable until the day I die in LOS so I need to earn and save as much as possible.

I hope bros who have been silently reading my posts will learn the woes and joys of tirakship. I hope tru my daily updates abt my current situation with my tirak will make u guys consider if u r ready for tirakship. Look at my complications now. Can u face them? I cannot say that I have cleared all the obstacles that I am facing but I want u bros to know what it is like to be in a tirakship.

[lestat_666]

Oh my, well all the best with that. I hope the situation will abate and your parents will accept that you've found someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.

Good choice about raising the child in SG but don't forget his Thai roots. It cultural rape if he's being stripped of his Thai culture and langauge. Just look at all the other singaporean chinese that cant utter a proper sentence in mandarin... sigh.

I suggest you accept dual-citizenship first(Thai and SG). Once your child finishes his education and is conscripted, its time for your child to go back to LOS. That way, you have the best of both worlds. SG for education, LOS for living. Many expatriates send their kids here for the same reason.

I mean dont make your child become an army slave when you can have the option not too, it'll hurt your tirak's heart to see her son bald-headed and doing nonsensical stunts for 2 full years.

LOS is relatively cheap, even in BKK. Even better if you move in with her in the provincial areas, its like 25 000 SGD for a bungalow in Chiang Mai I think.
The site below is quite informative about the cost of living in LOS.
http://www.stickmanbangkok.com/living.html

Once again, good luck bro

[redlord]

Originally Posted by suteerak1099

Best? perhaps only those that endure the test
some are here to find love nest
whilest others only keen on breasts

1 or 2 posting issues that cause their distress
many enjoy making tirak lovers more depressed
time to time some bros come here to jest

tirakship right or wrong... there's no contest.

tirakship right or wrong got no contest , alot are here to find love nest , there are more after finding love nest getting the most depressed....

Seems like you learn alot huh ?

Originally Posted by lestat_666

Oh my, well all the best with that. I hope the situation will abate and your parents will accept that you've found someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.

Good choice about raising the child in SG but don't forget his Thai roots. It cultural rape if he's being stripped of his Thai culture and langauge. Just look at all the other singaporean chinese that cant utter a proper sentence in mandarin... sigh.

I suggest you accept dual-citizenship first(Thai and SG). Once your child finishes his education and is conscripted, its time for your child to go back to LOS. That way, you have the best of both worlds. SG for education, LOS for living. Many expatriates send their kids here for the same reason.

I mean dont make your child become an army slave when you can have the option not too, it'll hurt your tirak's heart to see her son bald-headed and doing nonsensical stunts for 2 full years.

LOS is relatively cheap, even in BKK. Even better if you move in with her in the provincial areas, its like 25 000 SGD for a bungalow in Chiang Mai I think.
The site below is quite informative about the cost of living in LOS.
http://www.stickmanbangkok.com/living.html

Once again, good luck bro

Thanks bro for the comprehensive information.

I will take into serious considerations. But I notice Thai people tend not to think so far into the future. They only want to settle what happens right here right now. I even told my tirak that we need to plan for next time.

20K SGD is more than enough for a decent house. As for daily expenses. I think $1200 SGD will be more than enough to feed a family for a month.

[singrakthai]

Originally Posted by thekiller

20K SGD is more than enough for a decent house. As for daily expenses. I think $1200 SGD will be more than enough to feed a family for a month.

Wow, SGD$20k more than enough for a decent house? Which part of Thailand do you stay?
Yes SGD$1,200 is enough to feed a family.. a Thai family! Are u going to put ur children through their local Thai school?

Originally Posted by singrakthai

Wow, SGD$20k more than enough for a decent house? Which part of Thailand do you stay?
Yes SGD$1,200 is enough to feed a family.. a Thai family! Are u going to put ur children through their local Thai school?

Northern part of LOS. SGD $20K is really enough.

Like I say, my children willbe educated in SG.

Originally Posted by singrakthai

Wow, SGD$20k more than enough for a decent house? Which part of Thailand do you stay? ::
Yes SGD$1,200 is enough to feed a family.. a Thai family! Are u going to put ur children through their local Thai school?

so cheap. I think I can affod to buy five.

[redlord]

Originally Posted by thekiller

Northern part of LOS. SGD $20K is really enough.

Like I say, my children willbe educated in SG.

you think so far huh? you stable aready ? go rent house and stay with her find out more about her family and else first , dont even think buying house , this dont need much more ...20k bring go thailand , you crazy huh?

[singrakthai]

Originally Posted by thekiller

Northern part of LOS. SGD $20K is really enough.
Like I say, my children willbe educated in SG.

ya right.. ur "Thai peers" told u wan right? SGD$20k for a "decent house"? Thats only around half a million Thai baht... down payment is it? Ur "decent house" got how many bed rooms? House or apartment? Thailand is developing country... not 3rd world country leh...
Educated in S'pore no need allowances huh? No need pay for air tickets to see them? Ur parents will take care of them so no need employ guidance right?

[singrakthai]

Originally Posted by bangkoktonight

so cheap. I think I can affod to buy five.

U interested? U buy 5 apartments and rent out, I help u collect rents?

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by siamcutey

And the lover still feels so lucky and proud over it. U got tell ur achievements to your parents so that they can feel happy for you too.

hehehe
SC

LOL... never knew the need to report lover relationship to folks (if its wife, then how? need to give hourly situational report??)

maybe reporting your tirak matters to your folks, so end up kena pressure from left-right & centre.. which led to your paranoia into buying green apples??

they ask you "where you go?".. you reply "go hospital see patient"...??

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by thekiller

Haiz... I am saying how am I suppose to face them. The fact that they know I go geylang is too shameful.

here's some tips on how you can deal with the situation...:

1) put on chastity belt & swallow the key
2) allow your folks put you in a straight jacket & put you under lock & key
3) have your parents witness while you get accupuncture to block the nerves for testosterones
4) give them a full statement of account for all your (allowance) spending, so they know you spent wisely
5) slaughter rooster & offer to ancestral alter for redemption of face & honor, and swear oath to remain celebate until the day you marry

look, this is a forum for people to share their tirak matters, and most importantly not for your domestic matters.

in doing so... you're getting every1 here implicated for your own misdemeanor...