Is there true love between us and PRC WL

[colins]

At the end of the day, when she leaves and you are forced to give back all the feelings, the emptiness is more than what a lot of us can take. All the deficit saved up for that day.

Money or not, they KC with us for a reason. I've came across more than a few WL who doesn't want money for sex. Some, you give them 10k also no use. Some of them purposely avoid you becos they like you. Some of them offer to give you money after going on relationship. I've met all of these cases personally. But I guess if you really want to have a painless relationship, at least know what she's after first. Like that you can decide to continue or not. End early, or dun start at all. You only need to use your big head once, but must use it early.

I found that most of the pain inflicted from relationship comes from only 2 points. First, they leave sg. Second, they stop talking to you. First is of cos, for objective reasons la. Second is like as painful as betrayal, so I guess when you understand why she KC with you in the first place, you can accept that easier, and won't lose your head that much.

I ended my relationship after she went back, and man, that's bloody painful.

[glooper83]

Originally Posted by colins

Actually if you think about it, the girl also knows this. But they have already crossed the mental hurdle, already decided that whatever that happens in sg is going to be history.

It is not easy to let go of them or any normal relationship for that matter. When i broke up with my sg gf, it took me 6mths to finally get over her. The first 3 moths were the hardest. Every single day for the first 3 months were spent in agony and yet i still needed to perform my daily tasks. Its terrible...

What collins said about them, i feel it's pretty true also. I do believe that they are just treating this stint in Sg as a short period of their years whereby they would want to forget. There might be a few among many of them that will return year after year but for the ones that i know, they told me that they simply want to work for one year then go home buy a flat, start a small business that would enable them to live decently. Afterall, they would get married one day.

To them its really a job and all the sweet talk is just part of the job description. They really know how to make people feel 'special' within that 1-2hrs and if they did, they know they will return. 2 parts to their job, completing the task at hand(having sex with you first), and then ensuring that they will continue to have customers(sweet-talk).

[glooper83]

Originally Posted by colins

At the end of the day, when she leaves and you are forced to give back all the feelings, the emptiness is more than what a lot of us can take. All the deficit saved up for that day.

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I ended my relationship after she went back, and man, that's bloody painful.

Take care of that <3. Time will definitely heal all wounds only thing is are we strong enough to last till the wound is covered.

Btw whats KC?

[congo69]

Originally Posted by glooper83

To them its really a job and all the sweet talk is just part of the job description. They really know how to make people feel 'special' within that 1-2hrs and if they did, they know they will return. 2 parts to their job, completing the task at hand(having sex with you first), and then ensuring that they will continue to have customers(sweet-talk).

cannot agree with you more

[colins]

Originally Posted by glooper83

Take care of that <3. Time will definitely heal all wounds only thing is are we strong enough to last till the wound is covered.

Btw whats KC?

It was over about six months ago. 2 weeks for recovery. During the 2 weeks, I work 24hrs stint - sleep 12hrs, work 24hrs again. I move to KL to stay for a while as well.

KC is kum cheng, means 感情 or relationship. Usually denotes how WL ensures repeated customer. But in simple terms, its the bond between humans.

[glooper83]

Originally Posted by colins

It was over about six months ago. 2 weeks for recovery. During the 2 weeks, I work 24hrs stint - sleep 12hrs, work 24hrs again. I move to KL to stay for a while as well.

KC is kum cheng, means 感情 or relationship. Usually denotes how WL ensures repeated customer. But in simple terms, its the bond between humans.

My relationship with my Sg gf was also over around that time. During CNY in fact.. I kept trying to make it up with her for the next few weeks after that. But she was hard like stone. I also tried to put my focus on something else so as not to think about her but every time i was free, my mind would think about her again. Perhaps you can get over it faster than i do, which is a good thing.

Weird thing is lately she seems to be reminiscing about us while i have almost completely moved on. Such is the irony of life...

Thx for explaining KC. I must say that this is one of the 'side-effects' of our hobby. KC to make us feel special, feel good, got the GFE everyone is crazy about. Especially after comparing FRs and seeing what everyone writes, sort of an ego trip if the lady does something extra for you that she does not do for others. Makes the person feel extra special. I think we cannot blame them for it, we are the ones who like the GFE, we are the ones writing the FRs. They may have started the sweet talk, but we carried that into a 'fictitious' relationship on our own.

[Heart Break Kid]

Thank you bro colins & bro longwinter ..both of your advice is priceless

[longwinter]

Originally Posted by Heart Break Kid

Thank you bro colins & bro longwinter ..both of your advice is priceless

u too my bro. l oso find advice by u priceless.

[colins]

Originally Posted by Heart Break Kid

Thank you bro colins & bro longwinter ..both of your advice is priceless

You're too humble. Both you and bro longwinter raised very valid points. True blue cheongsters.

[hurtsogood]

so many priceless comment...

so i got a pretty cuntfusion predicarment, hope some Bro can enlighten

my gal veli direct
say 1 wan 2 get PR so to marry me
oso say giv birth , either party can divorced
oso maary con't to work ktv...
problem cannot afford coz me no bizman
tin dis type of game is not for the ordinary guy in the street
ery nite work say $200 at 20 days / mth = $4k /mth
i dun even hav that nett income!!!

i tot of counter propose that when she earn enugh den look 4 me??
she still got some years to go...

[porcupine]

thanks to all contributors in this thread... especially do u BJ, colins, longwinter, glooper83, heartbreak kid etc....

really words of wisdom & pointers from experienced cheongsters.

sometimes u know u shouldn't cos it only make believe but really "wei qing shuo kun" bo bian

Time heals all heartaches.... I am just a sentimental guy who always prone to fall into the KC trap.

Must wake up.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by porcupine

thanks to all contributors in this thread... especially do u BJ, colins, longwinter, glooper83, heartbreak kid etc....

really words of wisdom & pointers from experienced cheongsters.

sometimes u know u shouldn't cos it only make believe but really "wei qing shuo kun" bo bian

Time heals all heartaches.... I am just a sentimental guy who always prone to fall into the KC trap.

Must wake up.

No tks required, we're here to share & if by sharing, others can learn or pick up a trick or 2, hey that's good ya.
If you're a very easily emotionally swayed individual, strongly suggest you stay away from this WL arena.....cos one day, sooner or later.....you will kenna one 高手that will make havoc for you. Or continue to be like that, sooner of later, you'll be like making a SWORD then you can be the KC superman & return them the KC favour....like wat i have been doing except for one unfortunate unforgettable incident that still flashes in my mind ever so often......take care bro

[colins]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

No tks required, we're here to share & if by sharing, others can learn or pick up a trick or 2, hey that's good ya.
If you're a very easily emotionally swayed individual, strongly suggest you stay away from this WL arena.....cos one day, sooner or later.....you will kenna one 高手that will make havoc for you. Or continue to be like that, sooner of later, you'll be like making a SWORD then you can be the KC superman & return them the KC favour....like wat i have been doing except for one unfortunate unforgettable incident that still flashes in my mind ever so often......take care bro

Yeah I've heard about your story man, so damn detail that it must have came from still-vivid memories. I've met some really good players like your KC superman type actually. I dun quite like them, somehow, free bonk and plentiful FBs sounds a little like exploitation. Anyways, for my standard, I can wait for my future offsprings (hopefully son) to do that.

Bro porcupine, always welcome but my contribution is nothing exceptional. Maybe you would like to share your experience too.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Bro Colins, wat you said actually makes sense, but hey, it's a realistic dog eat dog world we live in.
We KC them, they KC others.....
Men give them money, they splurge it on gucci & LV..us....hehe..damn, there's always a head and a tail......
To me, that's what makes the world go round......

Everybody has a take in this game.....but I respect them all, which ever field they decide to play on....kudos as usual bro Colins

[glooper83]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Bro Colins, wat you said actually makes sense, but hey, it's a realistic dog eat dog world we live in.
We KC them, they KC others.....
Men give them money, they splurge it on gucci & LV..us....hehe..damn, there's always a head and a tail......
To me, that's what makes the world go round......

Everybody has a take in this game.....but I respect them all, which ever field they decide to play on....kudos as usual bro Colins

Actually my WL friend told me that in china, they do visit gigolos or something. Not sure if i am correct cos i was driving at the moment and my chinese is pretty bad. But yeh, i guess the gist of it is, we spend on them, they may spend it on other guys, gigolo or not. They make us 'happy', in return they also need some 'happiness' from other sources. And heck, she asked me 'why not be a gigolo' since can earn so much? I was while driving. Sorry guys, gigolo not equal to selling backside, so pls dun pm me for that. I am a true blue heterosexual only...