Bro help! i screw up big time....

[kaizer]

YOU IS DAMN CRAZY! u heng she nvr kao peh kao bu, if not her parents might juz bring chopper come find u. I cannot recalled when was e last time i slapped a girl. but, pls, dont do it again. if not, no free cb kang for u liao.

[mptan]

Bro,

let me share with you a true story. It happen to someone close to me. Just call him Tim. Tim was doing well and his GF was with him for many years. One day, over an arguement, he slap the girl. The girl cried and go home tell her parents. Her dad charge up his house with a knife on his hand. Tim dont dare to come out and his parents had to come upfront to resolve the issue. Luckily police was not called, if not, sure appear front page one.

Years later, Tim got married with another girl. After two years of marriage, he slap his wife when quarrel. She pack her things and left. The next day, her parents called and Tim's parents had to step unfront again to resolve the issue.

After that, i told Tim to go and bring her wife back. But because of face value, he don't want. His wife waited and waited till she cannot tahan anymore and they file for divorce at the end.

I fxxk Tim up cos things doesn't need to turn to this way if he could just control his temper. Don't think just because she is your wife, your sister or your close one than you can lay hands on them. They never owe you anything. Just because they love you and then you can do like that to them.

So now they are separated for three years already. During these years, Tim suffer alot cos he need to fianance the house alone, also to source for half the price of the house to pay to his ex wife as he agreed to buy over her share. Life sucks for him till today. He now everyday also drink and drink just to drown his sorrow.

So bro, if you got a girl who love you, just cherish it. If there is a girl who willing to share with you and also give you a free cb to fxxk, dont screw it up and make life miserable to yourself. Just my two cents...

[Ricorite]

Yes , you have screw up big time.
In fact be prepared for the worst as she is starting to stereotyping u as a wift beater.

Singapore Gals are stubborn and independent, they will not hesitate to leave u if they find you less desirable.

my dear bro, hopefully you can salvage your relation.
I wish u well.

[GLer]

Even though i dun like guys who hit gals, but at least you want to salvage the situation. Good luck to u. It will be damn hard to convice her, unless she really love u v much.

[mccormick]

personally, i'm quite neutral to gal/wife beater... whenever my wife told me her friends' was slapped/beaten by their husband... most of the time, i have no comments... cos we are hearing 1 side of the story and dun really know wat caused the slap... however, i still felt that, a guy shouldn't laid their hands on gals... esp their loved ones...

there are times when i have a very heat up argument/ quarrel wif wife and almost raised my hand... i will jus walk away.... then the cold war started.. cold war is anyhow better than a slap, yah?? after few days... back to loving couple again.. hehehe

thats how i refrain myself for lying my hands on gals...

[doremond]

Hi bro,

It's time like this that u ponder wat u really wan in yr life, may it be yr wife, yr kids or any of yr close ones even yr job, Yr quick hot temper will cost you more that u think. For a person to blow up and slap his gf/wife not one but twice leaves u thinking wat kind of temper and limit you can go. I've been living for the past 7 yrs with my wifie who has a temper that can blow up in the blink of an eye. Her temper has cost her to change jobs like changing clothes and no frds watsoever. I've to tolerate all this for my kids but that is another story all together. Now Back to you, I will strongly suggest that you first beg/kneel, watever u do, urge her and let her know that you are seeking Prof. help (counseller, anger managemet). Let her know that you are sincere abt changing yrself. if u really love her, tell her that u will postpone the wedding plans until she see results of yr changes. Be sincere and accept any punishment melted out to u. But if it is due to losing of face or money, that you are starting this thread, don't waste yr time on her cause once a damage is done, not much can be repair esp when u laid hands on her.

Hopefully u can resolve this issue and win her back thr yr sincerity and willingness to change. Keep this in mind, treat yr spouse/others as how you wans her to treat u. Anger gets to no where!

Cheers

[genesrp]

bro....

Talk to her when everything cools down. Apologise sincerely and give her the assurance that u will not repeat that again.

[shadowlunar04]

It takes a real, true heart to win back your love. Nothing else.

[tanterry]

once hit, you are likely going to hit her again

truth hurts

good luck!

[badboyzbleu]

once u start hitting your wife, u will never stop. as a man we are not as intellectual as woman, thats why we use our most primitive way to retaliate when we are provoked verbally. i always tell my wife, a guy will never win in an argument with a gal. so the best for the gal is to know when to stop. for a guy to hit another guy or gal, you are a loser. u will never go far in life if u have to resort to violence to solve the prob or hitting people becos u cant get hold of yourself. in my previous job, i used to see people causing grevious hurt with or without weapon due to rage. if u cant control ur rage, it will ruin your life. not only your marrige.

[jedycity]

Hi Threadstarted,
All bro have given valuable advises, I don’t comment much. But, I would like to know after 5 days since you have posted and advise given by all.

What have you done? Able to tell us the outcome?

Of course, I wish to hear happy ending.

[canthaveenuf]

I had been following this thread and was really impressed and heartened by the concerns fellow samsters have for the threadstarter. The kind of advise given show what a wonderful brotherhood SBF really is.

However, the curious thing is that the threadstarter hasn't been saying much lately. I am also curious to know what is the status now. Maybe he is busy sorting out the stuff. Hopefully we can hear from him soon.

Cheers