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Took a look at it.
Tried searching for the definition of Means testing. But it returned an in alo page. Il probably look for this information later tonight.
Worth a look if I can bypass Aware and use the pro bono services
Thanks once again!
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Originally Posted by sy605181
Hi sis. If ur worry is on legal matter. Mayb u can take a look at this.
Hi
Yes what you said succinctly describes my exact fears. Especially pertaining to my child. For me, bearing the psychological scars is nothing. I'm willing to, for my child. As I have posted before, for various reasons seeking help from family is an issue.
I did ask myself what if my child chance upon the truth many years on later, would I be able to face my child ? I believe in the philosophy that I gave birth to my kid after 9 months of pregnancy, and that since I chose to bring my child into this world, I have a responsibility to ensure she is taken care of regardless of what I have to do. In mandarin they have a saying , Yao sheng Yao hui yang. If u wanna give birth, u need to bring them up is the literal translation.
Should I become an outcast in my child's eyes, look down upon or despised or hated, I'll still bear that cross and willingly bear it. And hope for understanding one day. Even if it never comes, at least my conscience is clear; I did not lie, did not cheat, did not steal to obtain the means to bring my child up.
I believe no one woman grows up with an ambition to be a FL. The many FLs I have read about these few days, I believe is using this as a means to earn an income. Maybe some are in it because they wish to purchase some luxury item etc.
But I believe that even then, these women are all looking to supplement their income or earn more in the hope of a better life. And i also believe longevity of such a "career" is not long term.
Having been from a broken family, you would know no parents steps into marriage with the aim to get a divorce. No woman sets out wanting to be a single mother. Despite those tags of single mother by "choice". At the end of the day, they just want to do good by their child.
Don't get me wrong - I have nothing against women selling sex. Every WL has their own unique problems and reasons to enter into this line. Ok sis, as long as you have given thoughts to all these critical areas and have come to terms with it, I have nothing much to say otherwise except to wish you all the very best.
Are you the potential sugar daddy?? You can post your resume here.
no bro lol, I'm just trying to help up by throwing out idea as I tot being mistress is easier overall. But I never consider the fact that sis has a daughter and cannot stay overnite
there is some chemistry, probably in terms of talking rubbish.
but for the past 6 months things are just normal, after each session, we will just say goodbye and nothing else....we do not even sms each other
it was only a few weeks ago she suddenly changed her attitude towards me and became quite affectionate, which really caught me by surprise by her sudden 360 degree change
as to what am i gonna do about it?
i think nothing...just keep things as per normal i guess, haha.
This situation actually did happened to one of my colleague. He is a regular to one of the local famous spa and sort of developed a very close relationship with a ML. Dinner dates, expensive gifts and suddenly that ml wants to be his gf. He is aware that she has many regular customers for sex and a sugar daddy too.
He said his KC skills very good but ended up still treating her like a genuine gf , plans to have her leave this line and marry her.
Even brought her to our annual D&D and a few colleagues were shocked as they were her regulars too !
The point is no matter what these MLs are just for us to enjoy behind closed doors and leave the KC behind when you leave.
I have full respect for WLs and MLs. But there is still a clear line to be drawn.
Not sure if any man can accept her as a lifelong partner. Thoughts ?
Hi
Yes what you said succinctly describes my exact fears. Especially pertaining to my child. For me, bearing the psychological scars is nothing. I'm willing to, for my child. As I have posted before, for various reasons seeking help from family is an issue.
I did ask myself what if my child chance upon the truth many years on later, would I be able to face my child ? I believe in the philosophy that I gave birth to my kid after 9 months of pregnancy, and that since I chose to bring my child into this world, I have a responsibility to ensure she is taken care of regardless of what I have to do. In mandarin they have a saying , Yao sheng Yao hui yang. If u wanna give birth, u need to bring them up is the literal translation.
Should I become an outcast in my child's eyes, look down upon or despised or hated, I'll still bear that cross and willingly bear it. And hope for understanding one day. Even if it never comes, at least my conscience is clear; I did not lie, did not cheat, did not steal to obtain the means to bring my child up.
I believe no one woman grows up with an ambition to be a FL. The many FLs I have read about these few days, I believe is using this as a means to earn an income. Maybe some are in it because they wish to purchase some luxury item etc.
But I believe that even then, these women are all looking to supplement their income or earn more in the hope of a better life. And i also believe longevity of such a "career" is not long term.
Having been from a broken family, you would know no parents steps into marriage with the aim to get a divorce. No woman sets out wanting to be a single mother. Despite those tags of single mother by "choice". At the end of the day, they just want to do good by their child.
Sincerely hope things turn out better for you.
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This situation actually did happened to one of my colleague. He is a regular to one of the local famous spa and sort of developed a very close relationship with a ML. Dinner dates, expensive gifts and suddenly that ml wants to be his gf. He is aware that she has many regular customers for sex and a sugar daddy too.
He said his KC skills very good but ended up still treating her like a genuine gf , plans to have her leave this line and marry her.
Even brought her to our annual D&D and a few colleagues were shocked as they were her regulars too !
The point is no matter what these MLs are just for us to enjoy behind closed doors and leave the KC behind when you leave.
I have full respect for WLs and MLs. But there is still a clear line to be drawn.
Not sure if any man can accept her as a lifelong partner. Thoughts ?
Here is the thing. Men have accepted WLs, MLs and FLs for ages! Just that society hides it.
It was a common practice to purchase a WL out of the brothels way back in the ancient times in China. It will never die out.
I mean let me put forth the following. Have you ever had sex with a WL only to want know them further? For some guys, having sex is just common or an icebreaker which is a prelude to other things.
Just my two cents worth.
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As divorce is not underway yet which is obvious since I do need to get some sort of income to raise fees for a divorce lawyer. Can't go into proceedings unrepresented.
If fees are the only issue and it an uncontested, I can have you represented by a lawyer at my cost. Least I can do for a fellow sinkie going thru shit.
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If you want to screw another man's wife, take a look at the consequences!
If fees are the only issue and it an uncontested, I can have you represented by a lawyer at my cost. Least I can do for a fellow sinkie going thru shit.
My child is still young so it will be joint custody. But I'm aware he wants to name his parents official caregiver which I really can't. I spent 9 months to carry to full term and gave birth, blood sweat pain was all shed, I gave up my job so that she can have a permanent parent at home and so that neither my husbsnd need no longer take urgent time off if she falls sick when I can't get away from work or stuck in a meeting. I need my parents to be official caregivers and I know of his parents are named as that, the values and potential upbringing would be drastically different from mine.
I also know he has some assets that he has under his parents and siblings' names. I'm aware that a uncontested divorce can be done for a few k. I wish it was so for contested divorce. I would be an idiot to sell myself just cos of that.
The lawyer fees are what scares me. I have consulted a lawyer before and asked questions. I'm aware that the matrimonial home can be delayed in terms of selling in terms of either of us buying the other out.
The same lawyer has cautioned me to gather all the paper proof of assets and to have a clear idea of what I want.
I was told if there were paper proof or paper trail of him providing some source of allowance to me during the time when I didn't work, they could use this to substantiate to judge for a maintenance fee. The maintenance fee is payable all the way til I remarried.
Finances wise it is very complicated. I'm also aware I'll need to capture proof of infidelity. Have gotta hire a pi for that right? I could do it myself but wouldn't that means using different transport to follow, those are cost. Going through his phone and trying to extract data is another issue. I have not been successful in extracting the data.
Anyway the whole thing is just giving me an extreme headache, just thinking of it.
Every night I fall asleep thinking of thei. I wake up thinking of this. Every day, it's like playing office politics and survival of the fittest. Need to keep using brain to outwit outsmart and seek to find ways to gain access.
My advice for any women or even men out there is, people do change. And it will be your downfall when you trust too fully and deeply, thinking that shit will never happen. No matter how good the going is.
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Originally Posted by Nato17
If fees are the only issue and it an uncontested, I can have you represented by a lawyer at my cost. Least I can do for a fellow sinkie going thru shit.
My child is still young so it will be joint custody. But I'm aware he wants to name his parents official caregiver which I really can't. I spent 9 months to carry to full term and gave birth, blood sweat pain was all shed, I gave up my job so that she can have a permanent parent at home and so that neither my husbsnd need no longer take urgent time off if she falls sick when I can't get away from work or stuck in a meeting. I need my parents to be official caregivers and I know of his parents are named as that, the values and potential upbringing would be drastically different from mine.
I also know he has some assets that he has under his parents and siblings' names. I'm aware that a uncontested divorce can be done for a few k. I wish it was so for contested divorce. I would be an idiot to sell myself just cos of that.
The lawyer fees are what scares me. I have consulted a lawyer before and asked questions. I'm aware that the matrimonial home can be delayed in terms of selling in terms of either of us buying the other out.
The same lawyer has cautioned me to gather all the paper proof of assets and to have a clear idea of what I want.
I was told if there were paper proof or paper trail of him providing some source of allowance to me during the time when I didn't work, they could use this to substantiate to judge for a maintenance fee. The maintenance fee is payable all the way til I remarried.
Finances wise it is very complicated. I'm also aware I'll need to capture proof of infidelity. Have gotta hire a pi for that right? I could do it myself but wouldn't that means using different transport to follow, those are cost. Going through his phone and trying to extract data is another issue. I have not been successful in extracting the data.
Anyway the whole thing is just giving me an extreme headache, just thinking of it.
Every night I fall asleep thinking of thei. I wake up thinking of this. Every day, it's like playing office politics and survival of the fittest. Need to keep using brain to outwit outsmart and seek to find ways to gain access.
My advice for any women or even men out there is, people do change. And it will be your downfall when you trust too fully and deeply, thinking that shit will never happen. No matter how good the going is.
Non-contested divorces should be about 2k to about 3k. So not a big deal. I am not sure what contested divorces will run to.
I do seriously hope things go well for you.
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If you want to screw another man's wife, take a look at the consequences!
If fees are the only issue and it an uncontested, I can have you represented by a lawyer at my cost. Least I can do for a fellow sinkie going thru shit.
This situation actually did happened to one of my colleague. He is a regular to one of the local famous spa and sort of developed a very close relationship with a ML. Dinner dates, expensive gifts and suddenly that ml wants to be his gf. He is aware that she has many regular customers for sex and a sugar daddy too.
He said his KC skills very good but ended up still treating her like a genuine gf , plans to have her leave this line and marry her.
Even brought her to our annual D&D and a few colleagues were shocked as they were her regulars too !
The point is no matter what these MLs are just for us to enjoy behind closed doors and leave the KC behind when you leave.
I have full respect for WLs and MLs. But there is still a clear line to be drawn.
Not sure if any man can accept her as a lifelong partner. Thoughts ?
Whether the man can accept her as a lifelong partner will depend on a few critical factors, especially how much of ego and pride he is willing to swallow in the name of "love". If his judgement is clouded at the moment of pleasure, his partner's past will eventually return to haunt him one day.
Speaking of MLs, I know that many of them are still in this line after marriage and getting the coveted PR status. So unless the man is wealthy enough to feed her and her family clan back in China, he is just being delusional thinking that marriage alone can get her to quit the line.
Whether the man can accept her as a lifelong partner will depend on a few critical factors, especially how much of ego and pride he is willing to swallow in the name of "love". If his judgement is clouded at the moment of pleasure, his partner's past will eventually return to haunt him one day.
Speaking of MLs, I know that many of them are still in this line after marriage and getting the coveted PR status. So unless the man is wealthy enough to feed her and her family clan back in China, he is just being delusional thinking that marriage alone can get her to quit the line.
10-03-2016, 07:29 PM
Re: How to KC a WL without being KC-ed by Her
