Gers Are Still Gers

[OceanEleven]

Originally Posted by shengge

Bro,
One thing cannot deny that, these days girls are looking more towards comfort when looking for their Mr Right.
Cheers!
SG

Looking for more comfort is acceptable but then if all responsibilities to solely fall on the guys’ shoulders, I think it is pretty unfair then. One has to understand, a sound family does not only lies upon one man and there are many other minor details that require the participation of others as well. If all rest on one’s shoulder, problems bound to appear sooner or later and he will be likely to be burn out faster as well.

[iloveoversea]

Originally Posted by OceanEleven

Sometimes I wonder what is so fun in asking for Ang Bao, continue to drag and waste time as well. If the couple can afford then perhaps it's fine but if they already walking on thin line, then I dont see the happiness behind it.

Well maybe its treated as an compensation for the time they spent.

So how we know guys are always on the losing end?

Women's time = money = gifts or dinner

Men's time = brotherhood = beer

So drink up, Cheers

[jng1103]

Originally Posted by OceanEleven

Looking for more comfort is acceptable but then if all responsibilities to solely fall on the guys’ shoulders, I think it is pretty unfair then. One has to understand, a sound family does not only lies upon one man and there are many other minor details that require the participation of others as well. If all rest on one’s shoulder, problems bound to appear sooner or later and he will be likely to be burn out faster as well.

well said bro. The only problem is that our kiasu society has shaped men to over pampered their women with gifts, suprises, etc... for the sake of their women. Some guys even drained their credit card for expensive gifts and overseas vacations. That's silly. This kinda investment is definitely NOT worth it. Many times we heard guys bursted their credit cards for expensive dinners with their 'potential' women and got dumped once they could no longer afford. Sigh...

I got few ladies who seek for comfort lives without a sweat. They wont upgrade themselves with higher education, neither do they save to invest for retirement. Frugal is the last thing comes to their mind. Forget about living below their means, dats impossible. Plain lazy bummers, I would say.

[Reaper]

From my personal point of view...marriage is only about 1 thing.....COMPROMISE

CHEERS

[Rof|maoxz]

Originally Posted by iloveoversea

Well maybe its treated as an compensation for the time they spent.

So how we know guys are always on the losing end?

Women's time = $$ = Gifts or dinner = Shopping = Holiday's = tight controlling of hubby's life

Men's time = Dictated by Women

So drink up, Cheers

Where's the beer man?

[Deep Blue]

Originally Posted by Reaper

From my personal point of view...marriage is only about 1 thing.....COMPROMISE

CHEERS

If we need to compromise to be together, then why be together in the first place? I would rather think it is more of a sacrifice. Compromise needs to draw lines, set rules, lay grounds, end of day, just another sad relationship to go back to.

[Reaper]

bro....to me ...having to compromise is just a nicer way of saying sacrifice.....it all depends on how u define sacrifice..tats all....

isnt being together already a form of compromise on your / her part??? u are giving something up to be together right??

CHEERS

[beck7777]

Originally Posted by Reaper

bro....to me ...having to compromise is just a nicer way of saying sacrifice.....it all depends on how u define sacrifice..tats all....

isnt being together already a form of compromise on your / her part??? u are giving something up to be together right??
CHEERS

i agree.. its a give and take situation.. but of cos cannot 1 side give all while the other party just sit and take... actually there are pros n cons of being attached.. its all personal view.. how many bros here dare say they never complain when they cant find gf but oso complain when attached... its just that which type of girl we end up with... there are some lucky bros here managed to find really sweet and understanding gf while some others are not that lucky.. but for me, marriage is a totally different stories... it seems to me most married bros here have more complains... scary sia... dunno what will happen to me next time when its my turn to get married...

[OceanEleven]

Originally Posted by jng1103

well said bro. The only problem is that our kiasu society has shaped men to over pampered their women with gifts, suprises, etc... for the sake of their women. Some guys even drained their credit card for expensive gifts and overseas vacations. That's silly. This kinda investment is definitely NOT worth it. Many times we heard guys bursted their credit cards for expensive dinners with their 'potential' women and got dumped once they could no longer afford. Sigh...

Who wants to be constantly giving and giving? Even if one can supply can support, he will have second thoughts, let alone when trying to make ends meet?

[Toyota Honda]

Originally Posted by jng1103

well said bro. The only problem is that our kiasu society has shaped men to over pampered their women with gifts, suprises, etc... for the sake of their women. Some guys even drained their credit card for expensive gifts and overseas vacations. That's silly. This kinda investment is definitely NOT worth it. Many times we heard guys bursted their credit cards for expensive dinners with their 'potential' women and got dumped once they could no longer afford. Sigh... .

I used to pamper on my last gf so much... I remembered theres this particular prawn noodle stall thats very popular and it comes in $3(small prawns), $5(Big prawns) or $8(King sized prawns). And everytime I go and eat with her, We will spend in total $8. Cos I ordered $5 one for her and I myself eat the $3 as she is one who enjoys good food, especially prawns. At times, I would even give up my prawns for her and eat just the noodles.. Now leh, happy happy just dump me...

Originally Posted by jng1103

Frugal is the last thing comes to their mind. Forget about living below their means, dats impossible. Plain lazy bummers, I would say.

Now I am smart with my current one. Went to Jalan Kayu one late afternoon see her eat one egg prata and another special flavour one for tea time costing $5 while I just down 2 teh tarik in order not to overspend. When she ask if I took heavy lunch, I said I took brunch which costs only $0.70. Say I ate the banana leaf wrapped nasi lemak with cucumber and egg, adding that I told the uncle to take away the fish to deduct $0.50 from the original $1.20pricing in order to save money.. She started weeping right there saying that I sayang her so much, save $0.50 on myself but splurge $5.00 on the special flavoured prata to satisfy her curious appetite. Ended up gave me a sextifying time when we went home..

[iloveoversea]

Originally Posted by Rof|maoxz

Where's the beer man?

This remind me of something i just heard

in a pub
Single guy 1: give me a tiger

Single guy 1: give me a baron

Single guy 1: give me a stout

Attached guy 1: can you give me a coke please

[FDSeah]

Gals is will ask for more...if u give her $10 she will ask for $100 next time..

My gf and i are getting marry soon..and she want to buy acar soon after we marry...i told her that it is abit tight for me if we buy acar after we marry cuse i have spent most of my money at the wedding..Then she say:"then how i go around if i got ababy??" Wait till u buy acar then we have baby!!

Fuck man...must buy car then have baby???what the hell!!!

[OceanEleven]

Originally Posted by FDSeah

My gf and i are getting marry soon..and she want to buy acar soon after we marry...i told her that it is abit tight for me if we buy acar after we marry cuse i have spent most of my money at the wedding..Then she say:"then how i go around if i got ababy??" Wait till u buy acar then we have baby!!
Fuck man...must buy car then have baby???what the hell!!!

They never seem to be never short of absurd logic. Need a car to ferry the baby? So what’s next? Buy a house because the dustbin that comes with it is nice? Makes one ponder hard what had all those years of education gone to.

[Rof|maoxz]

Originally Posted by iloveoversea

This remind me of something i just heard

in a pub
Single guy 1: give me a tiger

Single guy 1: give me a baron

Single guy 1: give me a stout

Attached guy 1: can you give me a coke please

I tot coke cost no less den beer?

[Rof|maoxz]

Originally Posted by FDSeah

Gals is will ask for more...if u give her $10 she will ask for $100 next time..

My gf and i are getting marry soon..and she want to buy acar soon after we marry...i told her that it is abit tight for me if we buy acar after we marry cuse i have spent most of my money at the wedding..Then she say:"then how i go around if i got ababy??" Wait till u buy acar then we have baby!!

Fuck man...must buy car then have baby???what the hell!!!

At first I tought is ahchar!

FD, I do not know yours is a local woman. But it seems that if you married a local girl with a traditional and conservative mindset. You can never escape paying for high customary dinner, bridal services, hefty angbaos to the MIL/FIL. At the very least for the malaysian brides, our damage are halved for the currency exchange. As for car, it's monkey see monkey do lah. What justifiable reasons to have a car in order to have a baby? Women do have comical yet dim-witted excuse to yearn for something. It's a "everybody have... So I must also have or excel better" sinkology.

Of course there are good MILs/FILs around.