Met someone online but I'm married

[Ladyrain]

I'm not who you claim I am. Minm spoke to me like how other ladies in the forum did so we chatted abit.
I really don't get it. Why are you so helpful towards mr Porscheclub?
In the first place, I don't even need to read the entire thread to understand why he has to curse his father.

[ZhunBo]

Ladyrain, i can see that you have displayed severe mental disorders based on everything you said and proof exposed about you, and now, you can even say I don't even need to read the entire thread to understand why he has to curse his father liddat I am certain everyone reading can see, it's because of this, you jumped the gun, condemned bro Porcheclub, and all this was done unprovoked and you started hurling curses torwards bro porcheclub and do-you-bj. In all fairness and not taking any sides, you ^ only you are the cause and start of this entire confrontation. Shame on you!

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by Ladyrain

I'm not who you claim I am.

Too late, proven beyond a benefit of a doubt liao

Originally Posted by Ladyrain

Minm spoke to me like how other ladies in the forum did so we chatted abit.

I hv read everything and i am disgusted at how u manipulate people and hw you despise people who are working hard making an honest living!
Even if they're not rich, at least they make an honest living unlike u!

Originally Posted by Ladyrain

I really don't get it. Why are you so helpful towards mr Porscheclub?

I help people in this forum, and i'm known for that!
He is just one of those countless ones that I've helped.
Not like u, who only know how to take n take, tats y u dun get it n nvr will!

Originally Posted by Ladyrain

In the first place, I don't even need to read the entire thread to understand why he has to curse his father.

Tats Y u hv proven to everyone ur a brainless moron!
No wonder u can't get a job but need to lelong ur CB.
Guess u really understand the real meaning of cursed now lolzzzz

[hotstuffm8]

trolololol

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Okay....me finally washed up the dishes of last month, my Kimchi was happy and had just returned from a stealth slipped out to a HFJ, hung some flowers to 2 PRC meimeis and back own home

Every family has a sad or unpleasant story. Even an upright official is hard to settle a family feud. (家家有本难念的经, 清官难断家务事)

孔子 ever said: “子所不欲，勿施于人”、“夫子之道，忠恕而已。”

Simply said: 孔子要我们爱人爱己，爱护公物，做天地间的一个好学生.

仁爱的精神就是爱人若己.
孝道的精神就是爱父母若己.
礼义的精神就是爱全众若己.
仁, 孝, 礼的精神合起来原为一义 - 那就是“爱世界等于爱自己”.
我们用一个“爱”字来建设一生，同时建设和谐世界。

Just what is "孝"？ (Of cos, not to be confused with the Hokkein word: "Siao" which means crazy or mad )

孝分三层：孝于天，作天地的孝子. 孝于国, 作国家的孝子. 孝于父母. 我们通常说的孝指孝敬父母, 这很可贵, 同时我们理应知道, 更要做父母的孝子, 这是纯孝,这是大孝, 至极之孝, 也是为人儿女本有之孝.

别把爱错放在妓女 (including siao lang) 身上, 误践自己, 忽视了孝道, 父母之所爱亦爱之, 父母之所敬亦敬之, 孝心是不能等待. Again saying is saying.....As the saying goes: Harmonious family will prosper in all undertakings (俗话说家和万事兴). Relex and chill 吧

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Hi bros, i am fine wif anyone trying to chillax the situation but one just come in here bo gao bo dai curse other people & then me like tat, just bcos she got a cunt so wat?
I am a 认事不认人 person n who the fuck gave this bitch a mouth so fucking smelly even my dog poo smells nicer.
Bro hotstuffm8, i hv spoken to this cunt more than once on the phone, n i am in no way goin to agree wif u on ur perception on this bitch.
Y?
Cos everything about her is ME ME ME ME ME ME ME like the whole mother fucking chee bye world owe her a fucking living.
As long as u do not see her way on any issue, ur wrong.
This is what i call a lost soul, seeing the world the way she wants to see it, not the way as it is!
Like wat my bro LDH always say, this kinda species, fucking wasting our precious oxygen.
Lucky u not PRC singer & bump into me, fucking bitch slap u there n there u also lun lun still hv to say solly then pack up & fuck off home!
Sia Suay singkapolean!

[DO_YOU_BJ]

I hv spoken to this bitch more than once n i am in no way goin to agree that this piece of waste has a good heart.
Look at wat she PMed my GF u know liao.
Dunno head dunno tail come here KPKB
Curse me n another bro
People fuck more cunts than u seen dicks wanna teach people how to fuck?
We got money, we got rep, u leh?
31yr old lao goh liao no job looking for people to BY see mee lan sai poon boh
Buay hiao pai seh, lao guay boo come out n sell n wan 50k from people upfront.
Start ur own church la, maybe u too can finally own a penthouse without sucking a dick for once!

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by Ichigo_Kurosaki

Okay....me finally washed up the dishes of last month, my Kimchi was happy and had just returned from a stealth slipped out to a HFJ, hung some flowers to 2 PRC meimeis and back own home

Remember i told u she was mental lolzzzzz
OWNED!

[gigigagago]

The eyes choose to see what the mind does.

Actually if we all did read carefully, bro porscheclub explicitly mentioned his dad abandoned the family, was irresponsible for his own actions, and left behind a ton of crap for his original family members.

Personally, I'd never know what's the drive behind Ladyrain's barrage of accusations and name-callings. It could be:

- simple case of misreading
- had issues of her own thus blinded her own judgment
- seriously believed that as long as a parent had a child, the child takes full responsibility for every wrongdoings the parent would do/have done.
- all of the above

Perhaps she could have cut losses if she realised her misread, perhaps she didn't and felt that her replies were just. *shrugs*

I have mentioned in my thread before I come from a dysfunctional family. All I can say is, 做爸爸谁都可以; 当爸爸不一定每个都有资格 (Becoming a father every guy is capable of; being a father not every one is qualified to). Every guy is capable of being a father what - so simple just shoot and fertilise. Which healthy male cannot do that? But being a father is a whole different story. Being a father requires the male to perform to the best of his capabilities for the well-being of his family and children.

Many of my friends looked to their father as their role model. I grew up thinking: "I will never be like my father". Sure, during my formative years I was an angry and delinquent wayward kid. But I learnt resilience, sense of responsibility for my mom and younger sis, empathy for people who are suffering, sense of just and working well under pressure (I do it with a grin). Today, I'm in finance industry, with some small shareholdings in a couple of biz with my childhood friends. I won't say I'm rich, but I'm ready to say I'm fairly comfortable. I also learnt valuable moral values that my friends admire and lacked courage to activate.

Will I use everything in my resources to ensure payback from my dad? No, because that will be plain spiteful. But if he came to me playing the "family" card and demand things from me and my family, just because he contributed his sperm, will I reject him? Yes, and to quote big bro DYBJ: "the choices he made shall dictate the life he leads".

This responsibility thing is what I assume Ladyrain is driving at, and I hope she sees it clearer in a different light, now that I put it into my own history as reference. A contribution of a man's bodily fluid doesn't mean he can abandon his fatherly duties and then later come back to claim what's not rightfully his. The only rightful thing is a name on my birth certificate, or in this case, bro porscheclub's.

This tussle need not turn out ugly. Bro DYBJ even gave Ladyrain benefit of doubt as he "could see that she might not be in the best of moods", and reminded her "not to jump into baseless conclusions". But she came back calling him a "boot-licker". This is all in print. Maybe as a non-juvenile responsibility evangelist, she could read back the exchange and decide how she wants to wrap this up, if she plans to.

IMO, I feel bro porscheclub deserves an apology - not for Ladyrain offering her opinion, but for the unwarranted attacks.

[hotstuffm8]

trolololol

[gigigagago]

Originally Posted by hotstuffm8

Totally agree. Personally, I think we should all chillax.

Anyway, I think you're pretty cool for not letting your bad childhood experiences haunt you. Seems like you've come a long way and overcome numerous adversities. Its rather inspiring that you've carved your niche in life despite the odds. Would have upped you but I think I just did that a couple of days ago lol

Haha thank you, and your words are too kind. Some people with lesser resilience will transfer their anger to other people, inflict pain, cause destruction etc. I never believed in that.

Let's not hijack the thread further. Cheers!

[porscheclub]

Originally Posted by Ladyrain

You are joke.
What you are trying to say ultimately is so long as one has money, one can do all kinds of stuffs.

So his dad did only one wrong thing. Being poor and that warrant his son to curse at him. You better remain rich. Lest all your gfs, sugar babes and wives leaves you and cursing you on your deathbed.

Why beat around the bush and write a lengthy post for brainless me?
Oh, so you ain't the only bootlicker for Porscheclub? Wah, so many samsters supporting you ah!
Aiyo
. I'm so scared. I'm a newbie. No supporters.
So I must retreat now and say sorry lest I 死无葬身之地.

And sorry brother, they won't even bother with your corpse.
They will continue to curse you after your death.

Oh yes. You give out your number randomly. I Misplaced your number. Your voice sounded very young though.

Woah! What happened

Miss. You've seriously gone bongus! How I wish Bro BJ is a clone! kekeke

Anyway, a brief summary below.

My family was rather wealthy & grandfather was a hunting mate with the old Sultan of Johor. When my dad left us, he took everything and left us in ruins.

Unlike other women, my mother being the 1st wife did not sue for inheritance but chose to singlehandedly brought us up in Singapore where we don't have relatives & she worked hard with integrity. Still, her friends & relatives shunned us for fear that we would borrow money from them. Even her own bro's wife forbid him to visit us!

We grew up in a rented flat. Our clothes, books & toys were 2nd hand, we were bullied by neighbours and classmates because I have no father. Big deal, it only made me stronger & today we did well, bringing fame to the name and ironically, our relatives welcome us now. It's actually a blessing that we grew up poor.

My father was an incorrigible gambler & lost everything within a few years. Borrowed from everyone and even his own siblings stayed away from him. He even used their addresses for loansharks & failed businesses!

Anyway, he suffered a stroke & was warded in ICU for over 2 months with two operations. Which explains the 6 digit bill. We are fine with paying the bill but it is the way our government handles it, coming after us as if we deserted him. Imagine receiving rude letters & calls inquiring our assets, salary etc. Do you know that you are responsible for your parent's bills even if you are illegitimate?

There's more issues but will not bore you people.

I don't curse him, he is my father but we were forced to stay away from his wake as his leftover baggage will give us a lifetime of trouble. Even his own bro, my uncle told us to stay away. You will never know the bitterness of unable to see your own father for the last time even though he never left a good impression.

So ladyrain, before you fire off next time, there is the other side of a coin.

Sorry to TS for causing so much irrelevant posts. But the morale is, if you want to screw around, make sure you bear the responsibilities and have the ability to settle them. Children are priority. Plan far ahead or it'll haunt you decades later.

[porscheclub]

Oh dear, didn't realised so much trouble were created. Bro BJ, please take a chill too. It's no point getting so worked up on forums.

Have a good weekend everybody

[Ladyrain]

Good morning.
Thank you for elaborating your side even though it wasn't necessary to begin with especially so when I've been spoilt and blabbering spiteful words before, Porsheclub.

I know now that I do owe you an apology. I openly wrote a nasty post on you so I guess it's only right I openly do an apology to you too.

Dear Porsheclub, I am sorry. Next time, I'll flip to the other side of the coin first!

Sorry!

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Being an outsider, it's always difficult to make definite statements or to provide definite answers when it comes to matters of the heart cos the heart of the matter is that every family has a sad or unpleasant story and truth is more than just one side of the story. Then again, as every cloud has a silver lining, every sad or unpleasant situation has a positive side to it as well.