divorced women/widow will be alone

[sg571958]

Yap, I've my 2 kids with me......was looking for a partner to be their mother for a few years......but comes to a point already given up.

Originally Posted by Edyta

Are your kids staying with u? If they are not, it shouldnt matter too mch if u have. Unless the woman wants kids n you dont want more.

[maxsee]

I think that when you are a divorcee and there are kids staying with you...finding a partner will definitely be an uphill task...I mean not many people are willing to take care of another person's kid....That is the sad truth....

[zan888]

Originally Posted by sg571958

Yap, I've my 2 kids with me......was looking for a partner to be their mother for a few years......but comes to a point already given up.

You can find a divorcee with a kid or kids?

It surprises me after had a bad marriage breakup, people are still willing to take the plunge again! Why not have a gf? Must marry meh? Think signing some certificate is going to bind her for life? Getting married is just to legitimize the children you have together but since she will be 40+ children is unlikely. Do you think a step mum is the best thing for your kids? Few can subsitute real mother's love. If can find an Angel, then you are lucky but I think marrying someone to give your kids a mom is not necessary. I was raised by a single parent and as far as I can know, I am normal and not dysfunctional...hopefully lol

[Yakuza]

Originally Posted by topcook1

Bro is true...whenever I tell a woman I am divorcee, their face change and wont go anymore further. Guess is better to be single.

All tat r discussed, highlighted, personal experience, etc r not 100% happen to everyone .. as wat most of u think .. case in example .. our popular radio deejay married thrice to all 3 young ladies from the same station .. and each time proudly announced the success n breakdowns... proofs that not everyone shy away from divorcee ..

Like wat Edyta said .. there's still a small percentage of ladies love to hv sex. . Some right thru to their age... is just a matter of 2 person's fate of meeting each other that matches their compatibility. But sad to say most of the times are not and often resulted in all the above postings endings. Why?? We always allowed :

1. the initial attraction to rule
2. The small head and small brain to think
3. The heart n feelings to take over completely, although is good, but nvr allow complete control over ur big head.
4. Failure to assess other tell tale signs
5. Failure to check ur birth star compatibility
6. Ignoring both parties background
7. Failure or ignoring each other's capabilities or capacities
8. Failure to plan
9. Refused to live out of hallucinations and wild dreams
10. Too confident of the future thereby rufusing to accept failure
11. Overcome by joy and initial sexual satisfaction
12...... and many many more ...

Complicated? ? Well, tat's life.. ur own LIFE that u r playing with .. .. is nobody's fault .. unless u r being force into it.

A little food for thought

Cheersss...

[sunhuan-con]

Originally Posted by zan888

You can find a divorcee with a kid or kids?

It surprises me after had a bad marriage breakup, people are still willing to take the plunge again! Why not have a gf? Must marry meh? Think signing some certificate is going to bind her for life? Getting married is just to legitimize the children you have together but since she will be 40+ children is unlikely. Do you think a step mum is the best thing for your kids? Few can subsitute real mother's love. If can find an Angel, then you are lucky but I think marrying someone to give your kids a mom is not necessary. I was raised by a single parent and as far as I can know, I am normal and not dysfunctional...hopefully lol

Best solutions is to have more money in pocket. As for marriage is like digging its own tomb. Ultimately we still got to be alone. The life partner wont be dying together unless is an accident. Have more friends and activities will do.

[Edyta]

Originally Posted by sg571958

Yap, I've my 2 kids with me......was looking for a partner to be their mother for a few years......but comes to a point already given up.

Its indeed a challenge when the kids are with u. Men or women no one like to inherit someone elses kids. For me, I have told my kids no new father whatsoever. It doesn't mean if i have a new man he is their dad (unfair to new man n kids). I respect my ex and he is always their daddy regardless of what happen between adults. Kids must know their parents love them. Jmho

[Edyta]

Originally Posted by zan888

You can find a divorcee with a kid or kids?

It surprises me after had a bad marriage breakup, people are still willing to take the plunge again! Why not have a gf? Must marry meh? Think signing some certificate is going to bind her for life? Getting married is just to legitimize the children you have together but since she will be 40+ children is unlikely. Do you think a step mum is the best thing for your kids? Few can subsitute real mother's love. If can find an Angel, then you are lucky but I think marrying someone to give your kids a mom is not necessary. I was raised by a single parent and as far as I can know, I am normal and not dysfunctional...hopefully lol

I agree marriage is to legitimise the kids.

[Edyta]

Originally Posted by Yakuza

All tat r discussed, highlighted, personal experience, etc r not 100% happen to everyone .. as wat most of u think .. case in example .. our popular radio deejay married thrice to all 3 young ladies from the same station .. and each time proudly announced the success n breakdowns... proofs that not everyone shy away from divorcee ..

Like wat Edyta said .. there's still a small percentage of ladies love to hv sex. . Some right thru to their age... is just a matter of 2 person's fate of meeting each other that matches their compatibility. But sad to say most of the times are not and often resulted in all the above postings endings. Why?? We always allowed :

1. the initial attraction to rule
2. The small head and small brain to think
3. The heart n feelings to take over completely, although is good, but nvr allow complete control over ur big head.
4. Failure to assess other tell tale signs
5. Failure to check ur birth star compatibility
6. Ignoring both parties background
7. Failure or ignoring each other's capabilities or capacities
8. Failure to plan
9. Refused to live out of hallucinations and wild dreams
10. Too confident of the future thereby rufusing to accept failure
11. Overcome by joy and initial sexual satisfaction
12...... and many many more ...

Complicated? ? Well, tat's life.. ur own LIFE that u r playing with .. .. is nobody's fault .. unless u r being force into it.

A little food for thought

Cheersss...

The DJ has no kids so less baggage?
All the points u mentioned above many of us have checked multiple of those. We are humans....

[Yakuza]

Originally Posted by Edyta

The DJ has no kids so less baggage?
All the points u mentioned above many of us have checked multiple of those. We are humans....

Yes ..am aware .. was mentioning abt topcook's in my reply..

Originally Posted by topcook1

Bro is true...whenever I tell a woman I am divorcee, their face change and wont go anymore further. Guess is better to be single.

[Yakuza]

Guess u hv read this ..

http://sbf.directory/showthread.php?t=480884

[Edyta]

Originally Posted by Yakuza

Guess u hv read this ..

http://sbf.directory/showthread.php?t=480884

Yup read it. His problem is the reality. Most people view divorcees very negatively. And in Singapore context you marry not just the person but the whole extended family regardless u are malay chinese indian or eurasian. I wish the TS all the best but if he choose to pursue on there are alot of challenges ahead. If let go he might regret. Its between hard rock n deep blue sea. If i were him i would give up. Just dont wana drag so many innocent parties thru the mud.

[july3rd]

Oh dear! here so negative!

Just to share with you all, I know a guy he now in his early 50s. Just re-married 4 years, his wife is late 30s they have a little boy age 3 years old.

His elder son is 22 or 23, youngest daughter is around 15 or 16

When is meant to be it will be. Don't be too upset! I'm sure not all girls are selfish! Good luck!

[zan888]

Boy three years old only still honeymoon period ley lol.

Fall in love is very easy but staying together after is the challenging part. I think we have all experienced this before. So its not about being negative but being realistic

[HCKing]

Originally Posted by sunhuan-con

Best solutions is to have more money in pocket. As for marriage is like digging its own tomb. Ultimately we still got to be alone. The life partner wont be dying together unless is an accident. Have more friends and activities will do.

agree. for a society like ours in a realistic way money will be more reliable than relationships. at least you do not have to worry about your meals if you are left alone when old.

[HCKing]

Originally Posted by Edyta

Yup read it. His problem is the reality. Most people view divorcees very negatively. And in Singapore context you marry not just the person but the whole extended family regardless u are malay chinese indian or eurasian. I wish the TS all the best but if he choose to pursue on there are alot of challenges ahead. If let go he might regret. Its between hard rock n deep blue sea. If i were him i would give up. Just dont wana drag so many innocent parties thru the mud.

this kinda thing takes 2 hands to clap. if their love is strong both parties will be able to manage somehow. but most of the time it's either one party chickened out or the other party got tired of it.