Undergrad Investigator needed

[50shades]

Hi, my guy ended our r/s abruptly
I ask if there's someone else he says yes. Then he stops replying
But I don't believe it.

Any nus engin guys here don't mind being csi, can help me keep a lookout for him on campus. Take pics if he's sighted with the "girl" and stuff
I know it's not going to help salvage our r/s but at least if I know more what he isn't telling me, I can be at peace with myself. I've given a lot to him.
Any kind souls?

First and foremost, thank you for your kind gesture.
Pls include your <sch>, <fac>, <year?>, <how u plan to help>
That would help make things easier for me.
Enjoy your post-midterms weekend. :)

[sammyboyfor]

Why bother? You're just wasting your time and causing yourself more heartache.

Look forward. The rest is just water under the bridge.

[bigbrudder]

Hi, my guy ended our r/s abruptly
I ask if there's someone else he says yes. Then he stops replyingz
But I don't believe it

Any nus engin guys here don't mind being csi, can help me keep a lookout for him on campus. Take pics if he's sighted with the "girl" and stuff
I know it's not going to help salvage our r/s but at least if I know more what he isn't telling me, I can be at peace with myself.
I've given a lot to him.
Hope a kind soul can help.
Thanks

He isn't worth your time. Best is to show him what he is missing out by spending time with me. ;)

[G.T.O]

He has moved on, and you've not.
He is happy, and you're not.
Direct your energy elsewhere for your own good & happiness.

You're right to say with csi evidence, you won't get the r/s back.
You say you just want to be at peace with yourself.
What makes you so sure the materials you get, will give you peace?
I can tell you for sure, it's not a sure thing.

Big bro here has given you golden advise in just two lines. Take it & move on.
Cheers to a happier life.

[efftee]

There were probably small signs in the relationship to show that it's ending.. There's no such thing as abruptly.

Like most have said, let it go. Because so what if you found out? That the girl is prettier than you? Or it's your friend's friend? It doesn't matter.

If there's no girl, and he's lying to get out of the relationship, then what's the point in finding out the truth?

[Beagle]

Move forward with your life. There are much better guys out there for you. Look things on the brighter side. Cheerios

[Max77]

Next time u wanna actually gain something tangible from a love relationship after breaking up, try marrying the guy instead.

If Im not so outdated, u'll get half of wadever hes having. Cheers

[50shades]

Thanks big bros for yr kind advice.
Although we did many things, dating isn't one of them.
None of his frens knew about me.
It just sucks that I've been there for him for sucha long time
He gives reasons why he can't date me - school, parents etc
Yet now he's seeing someone?!
Am I so undesirable? I just like to have Answers so that I can seek Closure as he's not giving me my Answers.
So if by chance, any year 1/2/3 engin undergrads are keen to help, lemme know.
Thanks in advance.

[frozenlock]

no point investigating more when you know it's going to hurt u further

[tonyseng]

TS, don becos 1 tree give up whole forest.

[50shades]

Thanks for your advice & suggestions. Call me stubborn but I'm just curious to know.

What do you wish to get from that?
It is useless[/QUOTE]

Don try to investigate further.. Just it go.. it is jus part and parcel of life.
Life is short so don waste time harping onto the past[/QUOTE]

I read yr post. well if u wan go muay Thai session sweat out n make on keep healthy n fit. Dun get mi wrong u train I mostly may not b same timing wit u jus share wit u . Hav a nice day earth is spinning life goes on[/QUOTE]


I read before, when you are angry and bitter, it hurts you rather than the person you are angry about
Because the other person does not feel your anger or bitterness. so you bear all the pain yourself
In fact he is probably enjoying himself
Trust me i know what i am talking about....
Feel free to talk to me if it helps, can share my experience[/QUOTE]

Hi sis, I am 28 years old male local Chinese, and I have read your plight.
Hope you stay strong :][/QUOTE]

[Obeliskseamus]

Let her have her way.

She won't let it go until she's got an answer.

[ConnerDoReMe]

Can jus post for foc services.. Lolx
Any heroes taken up the task?

[bad^boi]

what for ?
just move on.. no point..
u wont come to terms with yourself one lah
u just wanna convincen that he's with someone else and he's done you wrong. CONVINCE - that's the word.

Forget it. don bother. juz move on.

[50shades]

Why is it so easy with guys? Simply send a text to break up & expect the girl to find someone else. Any girls' perspective here?

'You said move on, but where do I go?'

[acidicavex]

Many said the same move on. Frankly you look at a missing.piece to complete your puzzle. Sometimes the saying goes it pay not knowing the truth. It can be a cruel, painful, might even scar u for your future r/s.
Good luck

[kendom7]

Many said the same move on. Frankly you look at a missing.piece to complete your puzzle. Sometimes the saying goes it pay not knowing the truth. It can be a cruel, painful, might even scar u for your future r/s.
Good luck

To the Sis who started this tread, I just want to say I have also gone down this path or rather "dark alley" before, and I was too dying to find the reason/s behind why out of the blue to be dumped with no apparent logical reasons from the other party. I struggled for awhile, and finally decided to give up to know the truth after quite sometime, and do trust me once you let it go, better things will come your way.
People always says the truth hurts, but then sometimes it makes you even stronger. Take care coz there is more in life for you to go searching, and that is true Happiness.
Cheers.

[50shades]

Thanks for those who PM me & are in a position to render help because u work/study in the campus.
I've limited inbox so can kind bros offering advice just comment on my thread instead of PM? Thanks again!

No matter what happen I just hope you can let it down. Does it really matter if u find out he got another girl. In the first place he keep u underground n no1 knows abt u already show he is not serious about u. No point going to make itself feel so hurt now. I believe u can get a better guy that treasure u.
Hope u take care always n stay strong. I believe many will try to help u out over here[/quote]

[t123]

Been heartache for most r/s I am in. Know the answer is good at least can bring to closure. Hope u be strong, it took me recently after 2 years to recover after being a Robert.

[VaeVictus]

Maybe you unknowingly got into the "friendzone" since you've been readily been there for him.

[otamay]

Many reasons for the breakup, becoz there are no rules on how breakup should be done.:mad:

Maybe he has a new found love,
maybe you are no longer loving.
maybe you are not tender enough...and so on....the list goes...

So after finding out the truth can you withstand to get hurt again?
becoz the truth always hurt.

TS reconsider seriously your action and decide what in life you want.:D

[maxsee]

What's the point on finding out about what happens....Not long ago...i left my gf the same way...told her coz we got different life path...but at the back of her mind she keep thinking there is 3rd party involved....so she keep trying to dig out a girl that never exists...

End of the day...I don't understand, what's the point of finding out...there will never be any so call peace of mind...one must learn when to let go and move on with one's life.....:D:D:D

[Ryoshohei]

I think it's all about closure. While it makes perfect sense and it's true that what many of the people here is saying (especially about what's next after knowing), we must understand different people work differently. Perhaps for this lady, the only way she can ever be at peace with herself and move on is to know the whole story. Only by knowing and seeing evidence for herself, that yes, that guy is a jerk who now has another girl, can she let down the stone in her heart and move on.

What we can only advise or help is to share with you our experiences in going down similar paths. We cannot tell you how to walk because it is your life, and you alone can make decisions for youself. After knowing the story, it is good to find something useful like a hobby or sport to keep yourself pre-occupied. Bottomline is enrich yourself, enjoy yourself, and be happy knowing you now have more options to play with.

[50shades]

Thank you for all of your kind words and advice.
Sadly, we were never an item. If I were his gf and we broke up, I won't have much regrets b/cos at least we had been through things and I can relish on those fond memories.
Unfortunately, none of his friends/family knew about me. I met him online last year. We got feelings for each other instantly but shortly after, he dismissed it as just infatuation & want a clean break. So I compromised to be 'frens' instead. Later somehow, we became FBs but I still have feelings for him. Recently, he kept questioning me if we are truly FBs. Then just few days ago, he "break up" with me over sms, saying he's seeing some one else now. He stopped replying me. I've many Qns boggling my mind b/cos the last time we met, it went perfectly. No glitches. I just want to convince myself with a pic of them togt if "the someone else" really exists. I'm feeling very despondent that despite me always being there for him for so long, i never stand a chance to be his GF? Am i so undesirable? :(

[Turtle]

I'm feeling very despondent that despite me always being there for me for so long, i never stand a chance to date him? Am i so undesirable? :(

How old are you? 50shades remind me of a book about a man in his fifties... keke

[50shades]

Yes, 50 shades is indeed a book title
No, I'm not 50

Thanks for your PMs guys. Some express their willingness to help out 👍 but they aren't from the campus or right fac, I dunno how u can help.

Just like to clarify I'm not searching for a replacement FB, so don't write in with that intention. This is 100% voluntary. I don't have anything for u, except to be your friend who owes u a big favour.

[wally888]

Sorry to disappoint, not sure how many male undergrad surf SBF and also willingly expose themselves for some "voluntary work". My guess they can do voluntary work to gain ECA points rather than helping a forgone cause.

Suggest u give them some motivations, e.g. monetary or pay in kind, etc. :D

[helldarknessqaz]

Yes, 50 shades is indeed a book title
No, I'm not 50

Thanks for your PMs guys. Some express their willingness to help out 👍 but they aren't from the campus or right fac, I dunno how u can help.

Just like to clarify I'm not searching for a replacement FB, so don't write in with that intention. This is 100% voluntary. I don't have anything for u, except to be your friend who owes u a big favour.

It's midterm week now right?
You should be concentrating on your midterms.
Not sure if I can help but...
I am from comp eng. :eek:
But what's the point?
It's better to move on and concentrate on your mid term tests. :)

[50shades]

Thanks for ur concern but I'm not having any tests.
Isn't comp eng in computing? I think he's taking mech/indust eng but haven't chosen specialization yet?

Sorry to disappoint, not sure how many male undergrad surf SBF and also willingly expose themselves for some "voluntary work". My guess they can do voluntary work to gain ECA points rather than helping a forgone cause.

I'm grateful for their help so it will be discreet.
It won't take much, just keeping their eyes peeled when in sch, & snap a photo if suspect is seen acting intimately with a girl.

For the record, it's CCA era now, no longer ECA.

[diputs1269]

How can a person just disappear like that, so irresponsible of him. :mad:
TS got the right to know the situation she is in.
Hope he can face the his action bravely.
Hope TS can be strong as life is full of challanges. :)

[50shades]

Thank u for your jab of confidence!
Looking at some of the comments here do make me feel like a sore loser, a stalker even. Guys & girls are programmed to think differently. I don't hold on to hope that we would get back togt -whether the "someone else" exists or not (b/cos we never were togt in the 1st place).
It's like how u go for interviews, they seem all promising, but u never hear any outcome from them. So u take initiative to ask, they refuse to tell u why u fail the interview, why u aren't good enough, why the other chosen candidate is better than u etc.
I just want a closure, a full stop, instead of hanging midair. Idk how long I'll get over it or when will I ever have the confidence in a guy to love again.

[prettymannequin]

Thanks big bros for yr kind advice.
Although we did many things, dating isn't one of them.
None of his frens knew about me.
It just sucks that I've been there for him for sucha long time
He gives reasons why he can't date me - school, parents etc
Yet now he's seeing someone?!
Am I so undesirable? I just like to have Answers so that I can seek Closure as he's not giving me my Answers.
So if by chance, any year 1/2/3 engin undergrads are keen to help, lemme know.
Thanks in advance.

BABE. Sorry if this sound super harsh but the truth is: He doesn't want to be in a relationship... with you. He's just got no interest... in you.

It doesn't even matter whether there's another girl or not. It's not gonna happen between you guys anyway. Give it up. He's not worth your pining.

Closure 是自己给的，不是别人赐的。

[50shades]

" He's just not that into me"

God I hate that movie.

I wish he doesn't give promising signs or drag that long.
1 year.
He could have given us a chance & when we end us, I'd be convinced we didn't work out. Rather than not having tried. 50 yrs down the road, when I'm on my deathbed, my last Qn would still be how things would have turn out if I were given a chance.

[FatSpider]

SBF forum is not your personal army
maybe can try flowerpod or edmw

[prettymannequin]

" He's just not that into me"

God I hate that movie.

I wish he doesn't give promising signs or drag that long.
1 year.
He could have given us a chance & when we end us, I'd be convinced we didn't work out. Rather than not having tried. 50 yrs down the road, when I'm on my deathbed, my last Qn would still be how things would have turn out if I were given a chance.

Babe, the thing is you were never a candidate running to become his girlf... He doesn't owe you any chances to get together. So you need to stop thinking that you ever stood a chance, cause you were simply around for him to fuck and fuck off, which was exactly what he did.

[50shades]

Sorry :x
Just find edwm very hard to navi
Flowerpod : I dun want yet another girl to be involved

[Marlb0r0]

you already know that you are his FB, you are nothing but a sex tool him. i know you 不甘心 but from the start you already acknowledge its a no string attached RS.

anyway you can just sneak in to the campus and spy on him, makes the whole operation more exciting.

[kinny]

No point dwelling over it. You haven't found the right one. Move on and many more good things will be coming your way. Cheer up! ;)

[kinny]

No point dwelling over it. Move on and you will have many good things coming along you way. Cheer up! ;)

[50shades]

you already know that you are his FB, you are nothing but a sex tool to him.

anyway you can just sneak in to the campus and spy on him, makes the whole operation more exciting.

It's an open campus. There's no need to sneak in.
Why does he need a sex tool when his is already big enough.
FBs to me is Friends with Benefits, not Fuck and fuck off Buddies. It's just sad that he's so extreme, taking out both the fuck & the friendship

[yang punk]

Dear 50
Your relationship from the little you divulged seems to be one way traffic. From the start he already told you there was no attraction but you wouldn't let go and used sex to entice him. You offered the FB relationship or he asked for it?

Well if you took the initiative then don't blame him for not rejecting free sex. To him it's just having sex (cover the face and fuck the base) but to you it's making love! Same act but 2 different emotions involved.

Perhaps to him you are just not good enough for him that is why he is embarrassed to be seen with you. It's your own fault that you can't read the writing on the wall. Lucky for you he is strong enough to walk away from you now rather than get entangled with you in say a loveless marriage and then cheat on you.

Trust me when a man does not love you it is near impossible to force love on him. Don't delude yourself, save your self respect for someone who reciprocate your feelings.

Would you rather he say it to your face, "fuck off you ugly possessive bitch, get out of my life, I can't stand the sight of you!"

Sorry to be so harsh to you. Hope it will save you further heartbreak!

[kgbkgb]

You simply refuse to face up to reality and I know you never will. The reality is staring right into your face yet you chose to ignore. He has had some pleasure out of you but he's not in the least interested in you. That I'm sure you already figured out. You're just his closet toy, to be thrown away once he got tired. Anyone could see this clearly. You mean you can't? Please leave him alone and do yourself a favour. Get real and get a life.

[demonhunter]

Thanks big bros for yr kind advice.
Although we did many things, dating isn't one of them.
None of his frens knew about me.
It just sucks that I've been there for him for sucha long time
He gives reasons why he can't date me - school, parents etc
Yet now he's seeing someone?!
Am I so undesirable? I just like to have Answers so that I can seek Closure as he's not giving me my Answers.
So if by chance, any year 1/2/3 engin undergrads are keen to help, lemme know.
Thanks in advance.

None of his friends knew about you because he has no intention of making you his GF .
1) he thinks you not up to standard
2) he has the opportunity to hook more girls
3) he is making use of your body to get off
4) You are the follower in the relationship , you give in to whatever he wants

Anyway , he already said he has another girl .
Although it might be hard to overcome the feeling of "ive been played " but its time to let go and move on..

Most guys given the opportunity will behave this way ...

all the best .:)

[Wintermelontea]

TS,

First thing first...welcome to SBF.

This is gonna be somewhat harsh. And I am not on the emotional high. Just from a normal guy's perspective. Period.


Face it! You are THE girl (during the time he wanted you, fucked you and only physically and lustfully used your body) and yet all those times you do not know you have been taken for a ride? Read, no introduction to friends, family, his personal life per se. Any girl will have their buzzers sounding loud and freaking clear?

Alright, so you are smitten...lovestruck.

I have read all your posts. The answers are all there. Yes, you replied to your own curiosity and you singlehandedly did your own closure. Yet, you refused to admit and seek further clarifications, investigations (help from NUS Engine people blah x3).

Many bros/sis voiced and countered your views. Nothing works.

Look lady, the only thing left for you to do is perhaps storm into one of his lectures and confront him directly in his face. No amount of investigations, talk, self pity, "oh, you poor thing..." will benefit you and your crushed egoistic nature and natural self.

Lastly, you enjoyed the fuck sessions and now missed it? Cool...find another and make sure he stay. Otherwise, learn to let it go, take a deep breathe and smile.

Have a nice day.

[prettymannequin]

No amount of investigations, talk, self pity, "oh, you poor thing..." will benefit you and your crushed egoistic nature and natural self.

YES buddy you caught the egoism going on too! I was just about to tell TS how self-entitled she sounds. Everything she said about "my guy", "our relationship", "not giving me my answers" just reeks of one-sidedness and self-entitledness. And even making use of SBF bros to carry out her little investigation... it's kinda crazy.

[Johnston]

There comes a time when a dying man must die
as a sleepy man must sleep
and he knows that it is wrong
as well as useless
to resist.

let it be, miss.
there's someone else out there.
someone who will sit by you when your down
etc etc

[50shades]

My problem is caused by a guy. Since 9 out of 10 in the forum are guys, it's expected you will speak up for your kind.

In that case, I'm pretty much done with my thread.
Please refer to post #1 (http://sammyboyforum.com/showpost.php?p=10593812&postcount=1) if you are keen to be my pair of helpful eyes.
If not, hold your horses & thread is closed.

[demonhunter]

Since 9 out of 10 in the forum are guys, it's expected you will speak up for your kind.


No wonder you got dumped !!!

Now i understand why he does not intro you to his family and friends .

:D


:D

[Wintermelontea]

My problem is caused by a guy. Since 9 out of 10 in the forum are guys, it's expected you will speak up for your kind.

In that case, I'm pretty much done with my thread.
Please refer to post #1 (http://sammyboyforum.com/showpost.php?p=10593812&postcount=1) if you are keen to be my pair of helpful eyes.
If not, hold your horses & thread is closed.


Hey lady,

Do not get us or I for that matter wrongly.

Let's put things into perspective, shall we? MAYBE a bit of rational and agree-to-disagree communication?


1. You asked for help from SBF bros or sis and all along, you provided only your perspective? Right, you are scorned, dumped and pretty much used. Then again, do you know why? Of course, you wouldn't! Otherwise, why come in here to ask for help >>> Read first post per your reply above.


2. Why and really just why should your ex give you a reason other than you being selfish and one-sided from what I can see...still is? You are pretty much a FCP in the making. Let me ask you this, are you even open to the idea of getting fucked in the face without having any answers to your questions? I.e, sometimes there ain't any reasons nor logic to leaving someone. Loving someone is logical? Head knowledge versus heart/emotions?


3. If the whole world think or react like you, we may be doomed. Why? Simply put it, there seemed to be no real communication whatsoever, other than "I think you are wrong and I am right" agenda. Look, finding out answers to why he left you when you could have prevented it...why ask now when all's gone? I think I have the answer to your ultra urgent request/need:


I want to satisfy and make peace with I, Me, Myself because I think I am too good to be dumped!


Yes, my horses have been all along been in the stable. :)

[Wintermelontea]

YES buddy you caught the egoism going on too! I was just about to tell TS how self-entitled she sounds. Everything she said about "my guy", "our relationship", "not giving me my answers" just reeks of one-sidedness and self-entitledness. And even making use of SBF bros to carry out her little investigation... it's kinda crazy.

:) nice observation. I hope TS can see this point of view too.

[50shades]

http://img3.uploadhouse.com/fileuploads/19099/19099763af56b23fdabce2bb86a63c2c1be81c46.jpg

Thread is titled "UI", not "PI".
I'm not investigating adultery by my husband so don't try to monetize from my situation.


http://img2.uploadhouse.com/fileuploads/19099/190997626b39960cbe707552c50e50e3af8299c4.jpg
Pls do not pretend to offer help with skulduggery afoot.

http://img7.uploadhouse.com/fileuploads/19099/1909979771b9ed6b7f931d337efda45385f8abea.jpg
The purpose of this thread isn't a roundabout way to advertise for a replacement FB. I doubt u want to be in this guy's situation when u quit me right?

[evoque]

Thanks for ur concern but I'm not having any tests.
Isn't comp eng in computing? I think he's taking mech/indust eng but haven't chosen specialization yet?



I'm grateful for their help so it will be discreet.
It won't take much, just keeping their eyes peeled when in sch, & snap a photo if suspect is seen acting intimately with a girl.

For the record, it's CCA era now, no longer ECA.

PM me 10chars

[die.cockstand]

I'm sorry to learn that TS

May you find your closure and be at peace soon

[nextview]

http://img3.uploadhouse.com/fileuploads/19099/19099763af56b23fdabce2bb86a63c2c1be81c46.jpg

Thread is titled "UI", not "PI".
I'm not investigating adultery by my husband so don't try to monetize from tiny situation.


http://img2.uploadhouse.com/fileuploads/19099/190997626b39960cbe707552c50e50e3af8299c4.jpg
Pls do not pretend to offer help with skulduggery afoot.

http://img7.uploadhouse.com/fileuploads/19099/1909979771b9ed6b7f931d337efda45385f8abea.jpg
The purpose of this thread isn't a roundabout way to advertise for a replacement FB. I doubt u want to be in this guy's situation when u quit me right?


TS, you will find alot of guys over here trying to help, but some of them there is hidden agenda. you need to know that this is sex forum some of them use small head to think


anyway you seem to like me 2 years ago, i was so persistent to find out the reason, i have been question her for 3 month but didn't get any answer, but 1 year later she was with a guy when she denying when she was together with me.

but now i'm still kicking and found another good gf :D very good with her family now and will be marry in another 1-2 year later.

dont think too much, soon or later you will find out


just a guy dont need waste too much time, forget him and find a new one

[50shades]

http://img8.uploadhouse.com/fileuploads/19103/19103788f427ba85a7b0eff497dde1399d9b480d.jpg

Weirdest pm ever.
S/he wants me to send the Facebook link & pics of my ex-guy.
Yet s/he won't answer my Qn, so mysterious I can't even ask which year s/he is in!
Is this a joke? I need to be discreet too.

[50shades]

It's pretty creepy the number of fake nus engin peeps I got writing in to help.
Last time u were from NTU, all of a sudden after my thread, u are a nus student now, really? :?

[waiwaiz]

let her do wat she want everyone...........we'll once young n stubborn b4 arent we.....:p all d best..

[gargar78]

Post pics of your sexy times with your ex-FB? So we can see how this player look like.

U sound like a pretty sexy girl I must say
Lucky bastard dunno how to cherish u :mad:

[darrenown]

Lol.. Here got nothing but wolves.. U can only find fun friends but no true frends here especially for a girl.. Cos once u say u r someone fb a flock of wolves will go to u..

In my humble opinion, I suggest u let go, but if u can't let go then all u can do is let time heal..

Gd luck gal.. Hope u get a nice bf soon.. But nt to get a bf from here..

[50shades]

After a disastrous potential bf-turned-fb experience, i won't even want to consider getting a rebound, replacement bf, let alone FB.
So pls stop writing in asking to make friends, saying u got contacts in the sch, all with the intention to run for FB. Dun waste your time.

Wishing I can go for a short midweek getaway, to get-away from all this sorrows...:(

[prettymannequin]

Takes time... chin up babe!

[yandaodr]

One sided love ... You need a girl who gets it to wake u up... Spend more time on improving yourself instead of always trying too hard on another person who doesn't even care about you.

The fact that he wasn't even dating you says it all doesn't it?

[Snowsweet]

Gal its useless...

If he never even introduce you to his friends or anything for entirely a year ya together but tells you about his daily bits n pieces... he really nvr even like u before he's just using you as a venting machine

Ya kind shd be easy to get out of it.... coz hes just using you... dont you feel angry abt it? Instead still pinning for him??

If you said he treated you nicely, caring for u to perhaps to e extent texting ya frens up to look aft you etc... shows you off to his best frens n colleagues kind, dates you openly thus creating fond happy memories tgt and dumps/ignore you abruptly... and ya puzzled .. y things turn out tis way ...

I or shd I say most of us can understand... but its not... tis guy nvr had the intention to bring you into his circle of life

Just forget it n just focus on the way he treated you like shit to forget him asap