Can u fuck n forget?

[dyelook]

Originally Posted by discordpiggy

i publicly apologised to those who were and/or were not sincere to me in sbf. because eons/moons ago i was cheated and betrayed. the heart never got a chance to even warm up so it had remained cold till today

it is easy to stay cold. dis associate yourself with the world. can you do it? been hiding for too long that i cannot count since when...

if i ever got a chance with the one this lifetime, of cos he will be well rewarded with all the kirks and fantasies.

er.... any queqe numbers or application forms to fill?

[TheSeeker]

Originally Posted by dyelook

er.... any queqe numbers or application forms to fill?

LOL! See sis, got an interested bro already..

[dyelook]

Originally Posted by TheSeeker

LOL! See sis, got an interested bro already..

haha... she got tons of admirer here...

[TheSeeker]

Originally Posted by dyelook

haha... she got tons of admirer here...

Ahh I see.. I should be flattered getting replies from a popular sis..

Lol, I personally do not get involved in all the admirers and stuff so pardon me for not being in touch..

Bro, make sure you don't lose that queue ticket/application form ahh..

You might just be that special one for sis..

[urgg]

Originally Posted by dyelook

girl also got Ah Joh Ah Yow oh..
girl also use them when bored oh..

ps: bro urgg... ts girl also you know hor? lu ai woo ts si boh? if mai i qq k?

Bro I not qualify to woo her.. u can try.. TS is a elegant lady..

Best of luck!

Have a beautiful saturday to all!

[discordpiggy]

Firstly, FACE PALM! no offence!

Originally Posted by TheSeeker

Sorry to hear that sis..

One must have loved deeply, got hurt a great deal to end up being on the opposite side.. That is perfectly understandable, at least that excuse kept me going for the past 14 years..

The amount of years you kept going is the amount of years i removed myself from the society. I only associate myself with booze and 1 gf. any guy who gives me his contact goes to the bin during that period.

Originally Posted by TheSeeker

Fate works in mysterious ways, you'll never know when the one appears.. It's all about keeping your options open if you are up for it.. I sincerely hope that someone comes along your way.. Do share if he appears, so we can all be happy for you..

I sadly belong on the exact opposite because I no longer harbour hopes for that to happen..

sorry, my fate does not give me any chance of hope. hence when i said chance, it is as good as NIL. Happiness do not live in my world. Solitude stays. Hence I am still in a shut down mode.

Originally Posted by TheSeeker

My heart is harshly cold specifically to romance only..

An example:
There is this sales agent at cycle & carriage who is exceptionally friendly toward me. Got to know her from a friend when I got my car, she takes the trouble to be there when I send my car in for servicing and was exceptionally nice unlike the other car owners who did not have their agent there to tend to them..

She would invite me to movies, gatherings, parties and would text me regularly.. When I felt she was getting a little too close for comfort, I switch contact number and service centers to avoid her completely..

So, to your point.. The reason for these momentarily falters are the result of me not disassociating myself from the world..?

Can't it be restricted to romance only?

regardless she takes the trouble to attend to you. end of the day it is called customer service and if any, hoping to earn more commission or get into your pants. (pun intended lols! )

You reciprocated. By attending to her. Replying to her messages. Clearly shows that in capability to dis associate yourself from the society or world.

what happened to you if I did not read wrongly is that your ex left you for someone and she was subsequently abandoned. this is what I called KARMA.

most people do not cherish what they have and they left to get back 10 fold of crap. it is not your fault so why are you doing this. if she left you its on her own accord. you moved on.

I had been cheated, betrayed and verbally been abused by various men/few women and not just one. The betrayal of trust and honesty, in addition to the verbal abuse due to how I look, still lives in the shadow of me on a daily basis till now. This betrayal/abuse allows me to dis associate and ignore the society

I had to learn to communicate with humans which is the hardest part and forcing myself to live in another country to hopefully make a change, but it still did not work, only for a short while as I wanted to see how people's reaction and compare cultures. After which, I automatically switch back to hide mode. Unfortunately, I am still unable to program back due to the fact that I have not made decent progress or contact to the society. I would usually avoid, ignore and take flight if someone wants to talk to me with full defence up. That is what a cold heart has left me – human robot.

My questions still stand, are you able to dis associate yourself to the society and limit to your work only? And reject any social communications and invitations?!

cheers!
hiding at the Dark side
discordpiggy

late for my meeting with a uncle who knws abstract and dark, evil, gloomy stuff!

[discordpiggy]

Originally Posted by dyelook

er.... any queqe numbers or application forms to fill?

got. u must fill in forms with yes to these questions:

1. weight - fat like 75-80kg
2. round tummy
3. small beady eyes like steven seagal lols!
4. absolute joker
5. foodie/drinks
6. likes BBC knowledge/discovery channel and dark arts
7. smokes
8. gamble
9. been to prostitutes before
10. drives (sorry i need this cos i carry heavy bags so need your help)
11. can give me pocket money, jobless now no choice
12. travels widely and very often
13. have coloured hair - aka lau beng
14. likes bbbj
15. likes BDSM

i think thats all i can think of at the moment!

[senters89]

brothers n sista,

There always ppl you cant forget it life, sometime i fill stuck also, i will try to go on a next rs but just being afraid betray again. I know i can be immature in RS because of insecurities.

Looking at my best buddy and her gf. her gf nv mind him saving money, not buying her branded. They are working hard together to save for the BTO and wedding dinner. I am really jealous, I had nv met a gf like this before, i always ask when will this type of R/s happen to me. I had always been spoiling my exs, whatever they ask for and they wanted, it will always appear in front of them very soon. However, I will also feel scare and low self confident when the number of Zeros in my bank are disappearing. I know i am petty stupid. I once dated 3 girls but i still feel lonely.

Now i just act like a poor man hoping for some one like this will appear.
Heart is cold also.

Senters89
Ego is man biggest enemy

[TheSeeker]

Sorry Edyta bro, it seems like I have unintentionally diverted some attention away from your original discussion..

I apologise..

Here let me try to get it back on..

Originally Posted by Edyta

There is a saying that men see sex as a physical act. Ideally, it should have the emotional components to feel like good sex.

I am no expert on the matter and is only sharing from my capacity as a fellow bro.. Sex generally is a physical act that in my opinion derive from lust.

Ideally, with emotions/love balanced into the equation, sex becomes love-making.. Love making in my opinion goes a lot deeper as it does not only involved physical pleasure but that of intimate affection and love as well.

And yes, the difference lies in our ability to compartmentalise our feelings..

Originally Posted by Edyta

So are u the type who can fuck n forget?
1. Yes sure! Visit FL, complete transaction and leave
2. No sometimes I get entagled in messy situations with FLs

It depends on the situation and both you have described above can and have happened..

To take myself for an example,
I have in my attempts to avoid my ex-gf, slept around with hired escorts..
Some of these escorts are very attractive/nice ladies and things may be very different if I had met them under different circumstances.

By means of circumstances, I mean if I had no emotional baggage and not society views of the escort profession.

Originally Posted by Edyta

In a different situation where the woman is not a FL, but a friend or a colleague, would u use them for sex then fuck n forget?

No, it is ethically wrong to use any female regardless a friend or not for sex to fuck and forget..

The only exception would probably be WL/FL as that is that is their line of work for monetary trade.

Originally Posted by Edyta

Is comparrmentalising feelings helping you achieve the "fuck n forget"?

Please share your views. Thanks

Yes, it does..

[Edyta]

Originally Posted by discordpiggy

I can.

its mission accomplished. job done.

too many moons ago... when the heart turns cold...

Hi sis thanks for sharing, v rare to have a lady who could.

[Edyta]

Originally Posted by dyelook

girl also got Ah Joh Ah Yow oh..
girl also use them when bored oh..

ps: bro urgg... ts girl also you know hor? lu ai woo ts si boh? if mai i qq k?

no lah i don't have male versions of ah jow ah yow. I am curious how u manage them. are they v open minded non emotional? (vfew women are) or u don't really share personal info abt your life with them so things are just physical?

[Edyta]

Originally Posted by urgg

Bro I not qualify to woo her.. u can try.. TS is a elegant lady..

Best of luck!

Have a beautiful saturday to all!

beautiful weekend!
u advertising me? hahaha

[Edyta]

Originally Posted by senters89

brothers n sista,

There always ppl you cant forget it life, sometime i fill stuck also, i will try to go on a next rs but just being afraid betray again. I know i can be immature in RS because of insecurities.

Looking at my best buddy and her gf. her gf nv mind him saving money, not buying her branded. They are working hard together to save for the BTO and wedding dinner. I am really jealous, I had nv met a gf like this before, i always ask when will this type of R/s happen to me. I had always been spoiling my exs, whatever they ask for and they wanted, it will always appear in front of them very soon. However, I will also feel scare and low self confident when the number of Zeros in my bank are disappearing. I know i am petty stupid. I once dated 3 girls but i still feel lonely.

Now i just act like a poor man hoping for some one like this will appear.
Heart is cold also.

Senters89
Ego is man biggest enemy

There are many good women out there.
U need to take time to slowly choose. People unfold, u typically can see her real intention, level of love for u as time goes by. U will find the one. Best of luck!

[Edyta]

Originally Posted by TheSeeker

Sorry Edyta bro, it seems like I have unintentionally diverted some attention away from your original discussion..

I apologise..

Here let me try to get it back on..



I am no expert on the matter and is only sharing from my capacity as a fellow bro.. Sex generally is a physical act that in my opinion derive from lust.

Ideally, with emotions/love balanced into the equation, sex becomes love-making.. Love making in my opinion goes a lot deeper as it does not only involved physical pleasure but that of intimate affection and love as well.

And yes, the difference lies in our ability to compartmentalise our feelings..



It depends on the situation and both you have described above can and have happened..

To take myself for an example,
I have in my attempts to avoid my ex-gf, slept around with hired escorts..
Some of these escorts are very attractive/nice ladies and things may be very different if I had met them under different circumstances.

By means of circumstances, I mean if I had no emotional baggage and not society views of the escort profession.



No, it is ethically wrong to use any female regardless a friend or not for sex to fuck and forget..

The only exception would probably be WL/FL as that is that is their line of work for monetary trade.




Yes, it does..

Thank you for taking the time to answer in such great details n in all honesty i can tell.

U validated the point that fuck n forget a friend is wrong. I see so many of such men but they are strangely guiltless. They have hurt the women they do this to. I wonder why they don't just go n hire a professional? fl, escorts etc,at least thats a money transaction, no moral obligations beyond paying.

As for the point u say about your emotional baggage. I would say, you can choose to put it down. Please don't mistaken, I am not belittling the suffering you went thru. It has been 14 yrs, you punished yourself so.long that you didn't allow yourself to be vulnerable to fall in love again. To fall in love you need to be emotionally vulnerable cos u allow the other person to affect how you feel. If you can put down this baggage, the wall u build around yourself will lower, u can then let a special someone enter your life and make u happy romantically again. The ex is in the past, no one can rewind the clock to go back. All the "what ifs" are pointless. Let it remind in the past. Move on. All the best.
btw i am female not a bro.

[orangeproud]

Sometimes, I feel to be alone of myself is the best. Although surrounded by friends, can feel the loneliness as I see a lots of hypocrite faces around. They with u bcos they can't find better, richer friend now, they with u bcos they know u can tolerate their bad tempered & nonsense, they with u as now they r down in luck everyone ignore him, they with u as they r ex-imh patient, have emotional problem, those better quality ones dun wan befriend with them, so they just befriend with u until the rich ones, handsome ones, pretty ones come, they bye bye to u......Have u ever encountered those so called "friend" in front of u treat u as a friend, but u also can feel they look down on you? Why befriend with someone u look down at? Can't find friend bcos of psychological or mental problem? So treat u as spare Tyre friend waiting for those with good qualities friend come.

Human is the most hypocrite creature. Sometimes, the more fake u r, the more people like u.