Relationship with an Ex Freelance

[Vermeer]

Originally Posted by BillyBonke

I did ask her what kind of status she is to me. She also do not know as she also knew me divorcing my wife will means a lot of chaotic change to my life. So we settled on mistress for now.

However it is with your wife, handle it as a separate issue, not with consideration to your 'mistress'.
If you want to split with the wife, do it only because its really bad, not because its bad and you have another girl on the side.

Also, you have spent quite some effort on the 'mistress', could things between you and your wife have been better if you have spent the same effort on it ?

One of my married friend is very philosophical about his wife.
He has dissatisfactions and complains with how his life is now, but he also says, it is because his wife is handling other stuff in life that leaves him free to grumble and complain.

[Sivic]

Atb to ts with his life and hope all is going to get better

[BillyBonke]

Originally Posted by Vermeer

However it is with your wife, handle it as a separate issue, not with consideration to your 'mistress'.
If you want to split with the wife, do it only because its really bad, not because its bad and you have another girl on the side.

Also, you have spent quite some effort on the 'mistress', could things between you and your wife have been better if you have spent the same effort on it ?

One of my married friend is very philosophical about his wife.
He has dissatisfactions and complains with how his life is now, but he also says, it is because his wife is handling other stuff in life that leaves him free to grumble and complain.

Yes what you said make sense. Maybe if i spend the same effort with my wife things might turn out different between us. I married my wife on a rush also because she is not local. I knew her when i was working oversea. When i came back to singapore in order to let her stay here long term and continue with the relationship. We have to get married. But it turn out that she is a good wife who take care of the family well. Its not fair to her and its my fault. I only have care for her due to responsibility. Even if it does not work between me and Gin. I will only stay with her due to responsibility.

Currently i will try to make it work with Gin. There are scary story of Thai Women who drain foreign men of their savings if they have a relationship with them. Let hope i am not one of those victim.

[loner]

It seem you already have your mind fixed on the mistress or her spell already bind you up.

Long term relationship is not going to be easy but it will still work out if the trust issued was sorted out early. Both have to be true to each other.

In actual fact I do have 2 friends who both working in Singapore while their wife staying in Bkk. Thing work out very well for them and they fly over every few months and stay over there. Both also bought a house in Bkk under their wife name.

So have you already travel out to meet her and pls share the Sexciting part which we fellow samster like to read.

[Thesmiths]

Originally Posted by loner

It seem you already have your mind fixed on the mistress or her spell already bind you up.

Long term relationship is not going to be easy but it will still work out if the trust issued was sorted out early. Both have to be true to each other.

In actual fact I do have 2 friends who both working in Singapore while their wife staying in Bkk. Thing work out very well for them and they fly over every few months and stay over there. Both also bought a house in Bkk under their wife name.

So have you already travel out to meet her and pls share the Sexciting part which we fellow samster like to read.

I agree with u bro

[lbb-]

am I the only one that thinks the part of not checking phone and disappearing for 7 hours is suspicious?

anyway all the best bro.

[Oeuvre]

You are late 40s, going into sunset of your life.
She is early 20s ? In U, her whole life in front of her.

She can afford to start over again, can you ?

Are you believing only because you really want to.

[trueno2008]

Originally Posted by BillyBonke

Yes what you said make sense. Maybe if i spend the same effort with my wife things might turn out different between us. I married my wife on a rush also because she is not local. I knew her when i was working oversea. When i came back to singapore in order to let her stay here long term and continue with the relationship. We have to get married. But it turn out that she is a good wife who take care of the family well. Its not fair to her and its my fault. I only have care for her due to responsibility. Even if it does not work between me and Gin. I will only stay with her due to responsibility.

Currently i will try to make it work with Gin. There are scary story of Thai Women who drain foreign men of their savings if they have a relationship with them. Let hope i am not one of those victim.

Suggest you think 10-20yrs later what will happen... I have through similar only to look back what a silly decision. Of cos everyone conviction is different... Best of luck to you and in my opinion, no one can give you a good advise. Your life, one journey and a bet you need to take. Good or bad, have to live it.

[BillyBonke]

Originally Posted by Oeuvre

You are late 40s, going into sunset of your life.
She is early 20s ? In U, her whole life in front of her.

She can afford to start over again, can you ?

Are you believing only because you really want to.

Well if I stay with my current marriage. It’s sole for responsibility and maintaining an image of a happy family.

Even without meeting Gin, I am not happy with my wife. Anyway I believe in marriage anymore.

[BillyBonke]

Originally Posted by trueno2008

Suggest you think 10-20yrs later what will happen... I have through similar only to look back what a silly decision. Of cos everyone conviction is different... Best of luck to you and in my opinion, no one can give you a good advise. Your life, one journey and a bet you need to take. Good or bad, have to live it.

Have thought of it even before I propose to gin about having a relationship. Yes by the time she is 42 I am much older. But I might die a happy man rather than living a life of regret.

Anyway we will leave it to faith to decide.