Sibei sianz with life.. non-relationship stuff

ilurbu · #1 20-06-2009, 12:00 AM

Having been retrenched for months on end, I cannot bear but continue to grit my teeth, tighten my belt and swallow my pride.. I have succumbed to accepting monetary gifts from my gf, asking for help from my parents and teaching English for $20/hr.

I have many plans ranging from photographic practices, car modification garages, nanotechnology programs but all requiring relatively massive amounts of greenbacks in these economically confused times.

Confused because people are not even sure what the hell's going on. Like drones, they repeat "downturn, recession, economic disaster, financial tsunami", I wonder if they know that certain aspects of life doesn't need to change and many more aspects of operations do not need serious sacrifices? I might sound like I say this in spite but I suppose I'm not for one to judge since I'm on the receiving end of the downsizing hammer.

Distribution of wealth is never fair and how can we obtain an edge? That is the proverbial million dollar question. There are people poorer than I am, richer than I am.. everybody's shit is worse than the next one in line.

Thanks to SBF, I'm just popping by for a rant...

andyk · #2 20-06-2009, 12:14 AM

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Originally Posted by ilurbu

Having been retrenched for months on end, I cannot bear but continue to grit my teeth, tighten my belt and swallow my pride.. I have succumbed to accepting monetary gifts from my gf, asking for help from my parents and teaching English for $20/hr.

I have many plans ranging from photographic practices, car modification garages, nanotechnology programs but all requiring relatively massive amounts of greenbacks in these economically confused times.

Confused because people are not even sure what the hell's going on. Like drones, they repeat "downturn, recession, economic disaster, financial tsunami", I wonder if they know that certain aspects of life doesn't need to change and many more aspects of operations do not need serious sacrifices? I might sound like I say this in spite but I suppose I'm not for one to judge since I'm on the receiving end of the downsizing hammer.

Distribution of wealth is never fair and how can we obtain an edge? That is the proverbial million dollar question. There are people poorer than I am, richer than I am.. everybody's shit is worse than the next one in line.

Thanks to SBF, I'm just popping by for a rant...

=> Sori to read your post,BRO ! Hang in there ok ! U are definitely somebody since your gal fren & parent love U so much ! Why not plan how to spend Father's Day this weekend ? Enjoy ! Andyk

ilurbu · #3 20-06-2009, 12:17 AM

Oh.. just another one to share with you guys here..

I remember the first time I had a Wall's Magnum ice cream stick. Smooth Belgian dark chocolate crisp over a frozen vanilla centre. I saved up 2 day's worth of lunch money for it. I remembered it well.. $2.40 mind you. I ran to the nearby provision shop just outside the school's sidegate during a mid-morning recess. Encased in it's glorious golden foil, I trembled with anticipation after weeks of ruthless television marketing bombardment. The Magnum crackled as I gingerly opened the correct end of its packaging. I was greeted with a generous rounded handle with its name pyrographed proudly right in the middle.

In the hot tropical afternoon, the chocolate coating promptly began to sweat and that worried me deeply. I took a careful bite and felt the thicker than others chocolate coating break away. The reverse slab fell off completely and beyond the speed of my reflexes, met the drab concrete floor. My 13 year old heart sank. It was the singular most traumatic event that a frozen confectionery has ever inflicted upon me. Till this day, I eat Magnums with vigour and conviction.

ilurbu · #4 20-06-2009, 12:20 AM

Thank you Bro AndyK for your kind words.

I can only surmise that the air must be nice up there where you are...

I was further up north for the past 3 years and I'm still looking for opportunities to get back to the "real" motherland capital. hehe..

DO_YOU_BJ · #5 20-06-2009, 12:46 AM

Life...what is life?
Life is what you want & obtaining wealth and your every desire????
That makes you complete?
Health is wealth..and most importantly, the one most important aspect that completes your wealth , is your family.
Many people seek false wealth and thus, they are never contented.
Look in, not out to seek your fulfillment and you wont feel so empty.
As to a job and starting a new biz, this is all in the mind & how you actually place them strategically to get your funds rolling in will depend on your own self.
I know people who lost their jobs for almost 4yrs, couldnt get 1 in the 1st 2 and was almost devastated by their self pity and low morale.....
But this bloke forgot, his wife works, still encourages him and never once looked down on him, his mother buys makan for him everyday for breakfast & lunch...not forgetting, the wife still puts 10bucks in his wallet everyday afraid he might need it for something.....fyi, his wife only draws 3k a month.....but why only he feel pity for himself?????
EGO dude...EGO......this is what makes a man & what destroys a man......
If you're so enterprising, try freelancing, it'll definitely pay more than being on a salary, of cos, that's if you really got the stuff......
My last piece of advise to you is something I've posted here thousands of times already & trust me, someone in your mental state should engrave it in your mind.....
什么都是死的，人是活的！
If you can understand this, nothing will bother you anymore.....
Take care my friend, you choose to lead your life, but life can never make you choose what you dun wanna......

ilurbu · #6 20-06-2009, 01:15 AM

真谢兄台良言，

I will heed them well. I do look for fulfillment but alas, fellow humans do fail us as they lose faith in you.

And as you said it, I am alive and I am indeed freelancing now. Guess I'm just jaded by the fragility of human faith in one another.

命运虽然在我手中但缘分只能可愿不可求。。我已想开所以不会再忧郁了。。

DO_YOU_BJ · #7 20-06-2009, 01:24 AM

Read the last sentence of my siggy dude.....
That will determine what you mean by fate.....
Seek for self reliance and not reliance for acceptance from others....
Seek for self acceptance and not from others.....
People who live like these, tons around actually, live not for themselves but for others.....
Boils down to self fulfillment again.....

Flinger2 · #8 20-06-2009, 01:41 AM

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Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Read the last sentence of my siggy dude.....
That will determine what you mean by fate.....
Seek for self reliance and not reliance for acceptance from others....
Seek for self acceptance and not from others.....
People who live like these, tons around actually, live not for themselves but for others.....
Boils down to self fulfillment again.....

Hi, I can't read the golden rules, can you decipher them for me please. thank you. appreciate it.

miloluv · #9 20-06-2009, 01:46 AM

haiz.. true.. makes me the realise that the simplest and closest things in life are the most easily forgotten ones.. even though was a victim but sometimes an arm around my shoulders and soothing words makes me feel that long forgotten warmthness of someone that really cares.. i may be down but not out, if my family do not give up on me, i should not too..
I am touched by your words and advice bro..
thanks

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Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Life...what is life?
Life is what you want & obtaining wealth and your every desire????
That makes you complete?
Health is wealth..and most importantly, the one most important aspect that completes your wealth , is your family.
Many people seek false wealth and thus, they are never contented.
Look in, not out to seek your fulfillment and you wont feel so empty.
As to a job and starting a new biz, this is all in the mind & how you actually place them strategically to get your funds rolling in will depend on your own self.
I know people who lost their jobs for almost 4yrs, couldnt get 1 in the 1st 2 and was almost devastated by their self pity and low morale.....
But this bloke forgot, his wife works, still encourages him and never once looked down on him, his mother buys makan for him everyday for breakfast & lunch...not forgetting, the wife still puts 10bucks in his wallet everyday afraid he might need it for something.....fyi, his wife only draws 3k a month.....but why only he feel pity for himself?????
EGO dude...EGO......this is what makes a man & what destroys a man......
If you're so enterprising, try freelancing, it'll definitely pay more than being on a salary, of cos, that's if you really got the stuff......
My last piece of advise to you is something I've posted here thousands of times already & trust me, someone in your mental state should engrave it in your mind.....
什么都是死的，人是活的！
If you can understand this, nothing will bother you anymore.....
Take care my friend, you choose to lead your life, but life can never make you choose what you dun wanna......

ilurbu · #10 20-06-2009, 01:52 AM

Bro DYBJ,

everything is hunky dory when you still have support. as you have described your guy who's down and out for 4 years, I heart goes out to him.

It'll be a test of the mettle once you're all alone. This I'm going through but you know what? I was told once that there's a saying, he who is pitiful, also has a hateful side of him.

Regardless of how pathetic we are, I believe we should stand up and battle on.

When the going gets tough, the tough has to get going.. as taken from a nice song..

Flinger2 · #11 20-06-2009, 01:53 AM

Bro,

I am not sure about your experience, but so far in my career life, I have been either cut /company close down / dept close down/ etc..etc.... like 4 times. This time around so far so good.

But every single time, I survived bro. Also, I work in a very niche field so its hard ot find a job here, but I eventually did somehow.

From all these, I learned that no matter what, you have to learn to be self -sufficient, plan and make sure that you are not at the mercy of any company, boss etc....

I am sure when all these passes, and it will pass, you will look and realize that you learned some lessons in life that will make you progress further.

Just don't lose heart....have confidence and trust your yourself. You will move ahead sooner or later.

Take Care Bro.

DO_YOU_BJ · #12 20-06-2009, 02:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Flinger2

Hi, I can't read the golden rules, can you decipher them for me please. thank you. appreciate it.

The 4 Golden Rules in life:
1) 不要背叛自己>>Do not betray yourself
2) 不要出卖自己>>Do not sell out yourself
3）不要骗自己>>Do not lie to yourself
4）不要对不起自己>>Do not do things that you'll be sorry to yourself

DO_YOU_BJ · #13 20-06-2009, 02:19 AM

Actually, in life, there're many instruments that affect our lives....
Some we can control, many we cant.
You can live within the system of things and thus, you'll always be in a fix of what's gonna happen next.
Or, you can live around it but not in the system.
You may not be in total control, but your mind rules your life.
Even as a collateral damage, it may not even affect you mentally.
Bro, being alone isnt all that bad, if you've got no excess baggage around ya, that's a BONUS!
Honestly, if all circumstances are equal, i'd rather be alone and left to my own devices to do wat i wanna rather than have excess baggage around me that i'll be very stressed out by just looking at them.
See now, how the unemployed man was blessed to have a supporting family behind him & you're also blessed wif no excess baggage to worry about.
That's why i say, everything is dead, we're alive.
There's always a silver lining, it's just whether you're MENTALLY CLEAR enuff to see it....

seoseo · #14 20-06-2009, 02:30 AM

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Originally Posted by ilurbu

Having been retrenched for months on end, I cannot bear but continue to grit my teeth, tighten my belt and swallow my pride.. I have succumbed to accepting monetary gifts from my gf, asking for help from my parents and teaching English for $20/hr.

I have many plans ranging from photographic practices, car modification garages, nanotechnology programs but all requiring relatively massive amounts of greenbacks in these economically confused times.

Confused because people are not even sure what the hell's going on. Like drones, they repeat "downturn, recession, economic disaster, financial tsunami", I wonder if they know that certain aspects of life doesn't need to change and many more aspects of operations do not need serious sacrifices? I might sound like I say this in spite but I suppose I'm not for one to judge since I'm on the receiving end of the downsizing hammer.

Distribution of wealth is never fair and how can we obtain an edge? That is the proverbial million dollar question. There are people poorer than I am, richer than I am.. everybody's shit is worse than the next one in line.

Thanks to SBF, I'm just popping by for a rant...

Similar to me tonight, once in a while, you get into that kind of mood.
I think almost everyone here goes through up and down in life. (Lucky those that never)

Because of my work, I meet a lot of people and I think lucky for me, I am the kind easy to make many friends. People who are successful, not successful, rich or poor, we all face up and downs. (Of course, in my view, with more money can solve many problems, though you will still face problem with money nonetheless)

I just find that a similar path or characteristic these people bear are, they work hard, of course work smart beyond that, they never give up in face of adversity.

While, I wouldn't say I am the most successful person around, I think I achieve what I wanted so far in my life. It always could be better isn't it?

Buy your first car in life, then we want more, perhaps that luxury car is next? After the luxury car, you want a supercar, and so on and so forth.

Does money alone makes you happy? I think it does not.

Actually, you are already wealthy. You have a girlfriend who helps you out, which means she think you're worth it to help. You have parents who still willing to help you out, which means you are good enough and they have not given up on you.

To me, it's wealth not everyone has. A lot of times, many people takes things for granted, our family is a given, however, they could be the best gift in life that you ever have.

I wish you luck. Hang in there for one can never be down in life, if you never give up. The moments will be tough but you are tougher than it is. Sink or float, it's in you. There are people who become rich during economic crisis, perhaps you could be one of them? An adversity, could be an opportunity.

ilurbu · #15 20-06-2009, 02:39 AM

This is so cool.

out of town for so long, still brothers here are like super counselors.

I thank all who contributed tonight and let us move on now from our dreariness.

2:35am, and I'm completely recharged by fellow brothers here.. sibei 感动!

I sincerely thank all from the bottom of my heart..

This is most wonderful.. hehe.. young man here will look forward to sunshine and self love in the coming sequel of life!

Mucho Gracias to Bros DYBJ, AndyK, Flinger2, seoseo.. you guys make me smile.. do not feel pity nor sympathy for me for that will not help me stand up.

Let's rock and roll now!