How to convince my parents about my thai gf??

benjm85 · #1 08-11-2010, 07:38 PM

My parents are traditional people and I don't see them agreeing me to marry a thai girl. I am 25 btw.
However I like to say that my gf is not a FL or in the sex industry. She has a decent job in BKK and decent educational level and understand English.

So guys, any advice??

homeboy2010 · #2 08-11-2010, 07:45 PM

I have a friend married a Thai girl who is an accountant in BKK.
She holds a Degree in Accountancy.

Bring her home for dinner and let your parents see.

LauWu · #3 08-11-2010, 07:50 PM

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Originally Posted by benjm85

My parents are traditional people and I don't see them agreeing me to marry a thai girl. I am 25 btw.
However I like to say that my gf is not a FL or in the sex industry. She has a decent job in BKK and decent educational level and understand English.

So guys, any advice??

Bro, Its not going to be easy to marry a thai gal unless you bring your parents to Bangkok for a short holiday and let her be around with you & them.
In that way, they will understands about her better that its not what they think..anyway, goodluck Bro!

redstorm · #4 08-11-2010, 07:54 PM

Bro, when you say 'you don't see them agreeing to you marrying a thai ger' is it your own assumption, or have they voiced it out?

ekemono · #5 08-11-2010, 08:32 PM

Impregnate her

benjm85 · #6 08-11-2010, 08:44 PM

I understand my parents well enough to have this assumption.

and the idea of bringing them to BKK for holidays sound good. In this way my parents can know what she is really like...

insiderivan · #7 09-11-2010, 01:59 PM

Try to show off her good side to your parent. As long as you both are in love they cannot do anything.

NewMike1304k · #8 09-11-2010, 03:06 PM

First of all, not all Thais or Viets are FL or WL or so on. This is an important fact of life. If anyone thinks to the contrary, he or she has the freedom to think what he or she thinks and you do not need a friend like that. When it comes to family, I think there are other considerations that they are more worried about like the language barrier, the cultural differences and so on. Having a foreign wife is not so easy, incorporating her into a life here or adapting to a life there. These are all relevant considerations. You may think that you can live on love and fresh air, but just ask her to come here and she does not understand English or Chinese and all the TV shows are in languages she doesn't know. For her to be away from her parents and family and all the support structure or you to be in Thailand.

To gain acceptance, you must show maturity in thought and also in choice. Your parents will respect that choice if they see that you understand what you are getting into. Bring her here and introduce her to Sg and your family. Then bring them there and show them where she stays. And when they see that you are truly in love, they should not be too aggravated that you are going to marry a foreign national. I wish you luck.

Gixer · #9 09-11-2010, 03:11 PM

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Originally Posted by benjm85

My parents are traditional people and I don't see them agreeing me to marry a thai girl. I am 25 btw.
However I like to say that my gf is not a FL or in the sex industry. She has a decent job in BKK and decent educational level and understand English.

So guys, any advice??

Dude, go buy her some cubic zirconia jewellery (if you don't want to buy the real thing) and bring her for dinner with your parents and make sure its lots of bling. If your parents think she has money, sure to change their view.

Zoick · #10 09-11-2010, 05:39 PM

If holiday in BKK, where all of you going to stay?

In my opinion, it will be more feasible and effective to invite her to come Singapore as guest to stay in your house. Then you take a few day off from work.

You can arrange for example, making out, ops, i means making breakfast together for your parents, go out shopping together with your parents. Let her help out when your mother preparing dinner (please excuse yourself when they doing that, hei, they need to have girl talk too). Bottom line, arrange more family activities so to let, not only your parents to know about her, and also let her know about your parents.

After that, then you plan for your parents to go over to visit her in BKK.

sammyboyfor · #11 09-11-2010, 05:51 PM

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Originally Posted by benjm85

So guys, any advice??

You should respect the wishes of your parents. They made many sacrifices for you and the last thing want to see is for your life to be ruined by some foreign pussy.

They are older and wiser than you are and can probably spot a scam far better than you can.

NewMike1304k · #12 10-11-2010, 05:30 PM

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Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

You should respect the wishes of your parents. They made many sacrifices for you and the last thing want to see is for your life to be ruined by some foreign pussy.

They are older and wiser than you are and can probably spot a scam far better than you can.

Yea... in this case I also agree with BossSam. In a way, you must also consider the possibility that you may have a negative reaction from your parents, whether just or unjust. What will you do? And like BossSam said, they may smell a scam way before you even get w whiff... But they may also want something better for you.

tansb · #13 11-11-2010, 09:07 AM

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Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

You should respect the wishes of your parents. They made many sacrifices for you and the last thing want to see is for your life to be ruined by some foreign pussy.

They are older and wiser than you are and can probably spot a scam far better than you can.

Well said! Scam or not scam your parents knows it best!

tanmikel · #14 11-11-2010, 10:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Zoick

If holiday in BKK, where all of you going to stay?

In my opinion, it will be more feasible and effective to invite her to come Singapore as guest to stay in your house. Then you take a few day off from work.

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for traditional parents , its not a good idea to let a strange girl (from their point of view) come over and stay .

RTTO · #15 11-11-2010, 05:39 PM

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Originally Posted by tanmikel

for traditional parents , its not a good idea to let a strange girl (from their point of view) come over and stay .

Bro, what did you do to get a negative 545 points?!!??!

Anyway, totally agree with your view.

Bro Benjm85, instead of introducing a total stanger to your parents (knowing their style) and have her staying in your house, bring your parents over to bangkok for vacation and then intro them there. This way, your gf need not stay in your hotel if you can tell from your parents they strongly against it! Just my 2 cents worth. Best of luck to you!