Problems cumming during sex, but fine when masturbating

[4554551n]

I've been watching porn and wanking myself for years, and never had problems cumming. However, i've had a few sexual encounters in the past year.

My first time, i came in 30seconds (damn lao kuey i know), even with a condom. But subsequently, i found that i cant cum...even after going nonstop for 10mins+. Even after the girl came, i couldnt cum. And i had to apologize and said i need to masturbate. Which i did, and i came. I always use a condom btw.

Also, when i finger/oral the girl, shes enjoying herself, and im somewhat enjoying myself, but my dick tends to lose part of its erection when im doing that. Such that when shes high and ready to be penetrated, my dick isnt. Is this a common problem? Any ways of fixing it?

[fukbuddy]

Bro,

seems like you are concentrating too much about whether you cum or not.

Bonking is about mutual fun and excitment, don't worry so much about the ending but the process....

And masterbation can decrease the number of times you can cum and amount of cum.

If you have just masterbated, ask a gal strip naked in front of you also diff to cum one lah....

[drider]

The problem is when ur masturbating. u stimulate a diff part of ur penis. also mentally ur tuned to cum when masterbate. so the way to solve this is to have more real SEX! that is all. if not go see a shrink.

[Sex4Love]

your problem maybe due to some kind of performance anxiety, after you stimulate your girl, ask her to stimulate you back in return and guide her how you want her to make you high

Make love more, don't make more enemies

[NokiaUser82]

Wah bro i totally opp of what u're experiencing. Now i need girls to help me wank den "Eh Chut"..i ownself D.I.Y "Buay Chut"...anyway i think the best solution is to see doctor..

[makka111]

Fuck more. Practice makes perfect. Get the girl to suck your cock to make it big right before penetration. It should do the trick.

[freezetheDB]

my cock is hardest during blowjob

this is the best stimulator

[loveme691234]

Originally Posted by 4554551n

I've been watching porn and wanking myself for years, and never had problems cumming. However, i've had a few sexual encounters in the past year.

My first time, i came in 30seconds (damn lao kuey i know), even with a condom. But subsequently, i found that i cant cum...even after going nonstop for 10mins+. Even after the girl came, i couldnt cum. And i had to apologize and said i need to masturbate. Which i did, and i came. I always use a condom btw.

Also, when i finger/oral the girl, shes enjoying herself, and im somewhat enjoying myself, but my dick tends to lose part of its erection when im doing that. Such that when shes high and ready to be penetrated, my dick isnt. Is this a common problem? Any ways of fixing it?

Interesting problem.
Have you tried the doctors yet?

Cheers.

[maxman]

Originally Posted by drider

The problem is when ur masturbating. u stimulate a diff part of ur penis. also mentally ur tuned to cum when masterbate. so the way to solve this is to have more real SEX! that is all. if not go see a shrink.

I also think that thi is a case of conditioning. In the same way, men who frequent prostitutes have difficulty forming a genuine sincere relationship with women.

[HayHot]

Originally Posted by loveme691234

Interesting problem.
Have you tried the doctors yet?

Cheers.

Ya, if you can cum in the doctors, you should be fine......
Else you really have a big problem...

[soulless]

bro also long as u can cum should be ok.. hahah maybe try to play less with ur hands , u will enjoy sex more..

[77guy]

Originally Posted by 4554551n

I've been watching porn and wanking myself for years, and never had problems cumming. However, i've had a few sexual encounters in the past year.

My first time, i came in 30seconds (damn lao kuey i know), even with a condom. But subsequently, i found that i cant cum...even after going nonstop for 10mins+. Even after the girl came, i couldnt cum. And i had to apologize and said i need to masturbate. Which i did, and i came. I always use a condom btw.

Also, when i finger/oral the girl, shes enjoying herself, and im somewhat enjoying myself, but my dick tends to lose part of its erection when im doing that. Such that when shes high and ready to be penetrated, my dick isnt. Is this a common problem? Any ways of fixing it?

I have similar problem too...out of 10 times i f..k, 8 times cant cum, need the gal to mast for me to finish the job.

[Johanna]

Best is stop all your wanking coz the dick skin is getting less sensitive everytime u rub it. Most likely ur dick skin/nerve got no feel while bonking. Try to use your mind to fantasize while bonking....hope it'll help.

[Oralcraz]

Mine is similar but not this bad. During HJ, no problem. During sex, initially very hard on. By the time put on CD, soften and then difficult to get hard again. Sometimes can get back the hardness in 5-10 mins, sometimes just cannot and that's it. Doing raw is no problem. I normally try to maintain my erection when putting on CD by imagining stimulating scenario. For yr case, it could be the condom part that is affecting you. Is either the putting on part that put you off (like mine) or the condom is too thick that it is affecting the stimulation. Try thinner condom. Good luck.

[4554551n]

my FB doesnt like oral unfortunately. And girls do HJ for me like cmi. I do myself then can.