Are guys generally ok if their partner has multiple sex partners?

Deena · #1 03-09-2011, 02:47 AM

I need some genuine advice from you guys/ladies out there - especially if you have experienced a similar situation.

My bf is pretty much a prude when it comes to our sex life and it's gotten pretty mundane... so I'm thinking of 'exploring new possibilities' - you know, a just-for-sex thing.

My question is... are guys generally accepting to such an idea? Any advice on how I should approach this subject with him?

Thanks so much!!!

warduckie1999 · #2 03-09-2011, 06:13 AM

Hi Deena,

From my own experience, I used to be a very traditional type of guy who cannot even tolerate my girlfriend to be seen going out with guys.
However, when I was exposed to the story in this forum like Peterpan story and watching porn from Thisav.com . I grew an interest in my gf also having multiple partner, but must let me know what happened.

Hope this help!

MasterBates · #3 03-09-2011, 06:44 AM

It depends on which gf. If its my favourite then I don't like to share with others.

sta1100 · #4 03-09-2011, 07:02 AM

Most guy/girl will not like to share their other half with other. Unless they are very open but again there will be some limit on what can do & cannot do

ducal · #5 03-09-2011, 07:06 AM

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Originally Posted by MasterBates

It depends on which gf. If its my favourite then I don't like to share with others.

Same here.

DeathGod69 · #6 03-09-2011, 07:10 AM

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Originally Posted by sta1100

Most guy/girl will not like to share their other half with other. Unless they are very open but again there will be some limit on what can do & cannot do

I share the same view.

My question is... are guys generally accepting to such an idea?

Your guys prefer to who?

Your BF?
I doubt your BF will want to share you with others if he love you. Unless he is very open minded with matter regarding to sex.

Others guy?
They will more then gladly want to become your partner.

Any advice on how I should approach this subject with him?

My advice don't approach this subject with him at all if your subject is to "'exploring new possibilities' - you know, a just-for-sex thing" ...

Else if you want to try approach him with the subject, be prepare for a break-up ...

naturegreen · #7 03-09-2011, 07:59 AM

I share my FB with my one of my buddy. I am ok with it. In fact I have another friend who shares his gf with me as well. If you are interested can PM me but please don't share your bf with me. I am a straight guy.

owl888 · #8 03-09-2011, 09:01 AM

Sharing is fun........lady Deeda I can help u if u wann....pm me. Cheers!

reflexk · #9 03-09-2011, 11:15 AM

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Originally Posted by naturegreen

I share my FB with my one of my buddy. I am ok with it.

Well, sharing a FB is no big deal. You cant be demanding on her anyway.

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In fact I have another friend who shares his gf with me as well.

How did you manage to do that? Curious to know how you guys got into such an arrangement.

Loving_It · #10 03-09-2011, 11:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Deena

I need some genuine advice from you guys/ladies out there - especially if you have experienced a similar situation.

My bf is pretty much a prude when it comes to our sex life and it's gotten pretty mundane... so I'm thinking of 'exploring new possibilities' - you know, a just-for-sex thing.

My question is... are guys generally accepting to such an idea? Any advice on how I should approach this subject with him?

Thanks so much!!!

I believe Singaporean guys will not accept the idea, at least i dont. Same goes for every guy, they will not like it if their GF is making love with other guys. But they sure dont mind if some other girl want to make love with them.

inlaw · #11 03-09-2011, 11:59 AM

ts, if your bf is open, anything is ok, but if her is conservative like me, r/s gone case.

I also want to know how others handle this, always learning in this changing world

inlaw · #12 03-09-2011, 12:01 PM

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Originally Posted by naturegreen

In fact I have another friend who shares his gf with me as well.

Bro really want to learn from you how you do that, can intro your friend to me hehe just kidding, thanks for the sharing

helloworld11 · #13 03-09-2011, 12:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Deena

I need some genuine advice from you guys/ladies out there - especially if you have experienced a similar situation.

My bf is pretty much a prude when it comes to our sex life and it's gotten pretty mundane... so I'm thinking of 'exploring new possibilities' - you know, a just-for-sex thing.

My question is... are guys generally accepting to such an idea? Any advice on how I should approach this subject with him?

Thanks so much!!!

As long as she don't mind me having multiple partners as well I won't mind. Fair is fair afterall :P

Having said that my gf has recently been asking me if I have other partners and ask me to be honest she won't mind. I lie and say no (visited some fls b4) cause scared she wanna test me. But then again our sex life become quite mundane already so I won't be surprised she's asking me this cause she herself want some fun too? Ts can you share what's your feeling like now since my gf might actually be feeling e same way as you?

multiverse · #14 03-09-2011, 12:25 PM

Is it that he's not performing well in bed or something? Perhaps you could talk to him about sex life being not very interesting and try to work things out between yourselves first...if he is genuinely concerned about your satisfaction then I'm sure the problem can be solved. Maybe the sex between you 2 will eventually get better and better and/or he'll be more open to ideas.

I'm sure there's still more stuff you guys as a couple could try together. Maybe sex toys? Seduce him? Tie him to the bed, blindfold him and have your way with him or something. if he doesn't seem interested and don't really want to put in effort into spicing up the sex life then he really is just being selfish. If that's the case, just don't bother about him and do what you want outside. But I don't really think you should tell him.

I don't quite get how someone can be "prude" while having sex though, especially a guy

Just try and let out the inner wild side of him?

My 2 cents worth

fallenmemory · #15 03-09-2011, 12:29 PM

Well... Don't mind if I give my 1 cent advice. (hope it helps in some way...)

Firstly, I think it is kinda unfair to female out there when it comes to stuff relating to sex. I think I speak for my gf and like-minded women when I meant UNFAIR. Below are some of the reason why I think its' unfair, especially in the 21st century context where males and females are of equal status.

Reason no. 1 - Guys have been fooling arounf with other girls, while they expect their girl to stay truth and "solely" theirs. Why can't girl do likewise ? Also, I think it is human rights to live your life the way you want, and not be constrain by what other think or say.

Reason no. 2 - Whenever a girl hang out with other guy, her partner will for a sure give her hell. But when a guy do more than just "hang out" with other girls, they expect their female counterpart to accept it. This is rather unjusted and unfair for females as they have to be "blindly loyal" to their spouse/bf with no abilities/rights to stop them. But when such a thing happen to girls, I believe history will tell you that girl gets the harsher treatment.

So my point is this : I think it is absolutely fair for girls to have fun, as what guys are doing. This is call equality.