Am I wrong?

[cheryl]

I have had a few FB previously and I recently found my FB from sbf.

I had just previously break up with my bf and fb and was feeling all empty and alone. That's how I met this guy S

S sound like a really fun guy when I met him. He was charming and attentive to me. This was probably why I agreed to have sex with him so quickly. Everything was fine until he told me about this business opportunity and said that he needed a loan. He said he would return to me within 35 days.

I am a professional. I told him to be a gentleman and I gave him a loan agreement to sign. He gave a lot of excuse not to sign, and but constantly telling me about our future together, and how he can easily get many other girls.

One fine day I got fed up. I decided to end the r/s, and tell him its not working out for us. Then when I told him that, he started scolding me, and I am afraid he will start stalking me and hurt me because he can't take rejection.

Any bro or sister that went through similiar incident can give me some advise? 1. Should I go back to him?
2. Am I wrong to just end the r/s?
3. Should I have trust him and lent him the $?
4. What if he starts following me around or give out my number, what should I do?

I'm starting to think that sbf is not a gd place to find FB cos the guys not v mature and emotionally stable.

[69sonice]

Leave him! you are in for good clean fun, you don't deserve the abuse and torture.

[Alantino]

1. Should I go back to him?

no way

2. Am I wrong to just end the r/s?

its okay, it is to protect urself

3. Should I have trust him and lent him the $?

no, unless he agree to sign the agreement in black and white

4. What if he starts following me around or give out my number, what should I do?

just change number will do. report police if he stalks you.

NEVER TRUST this type of scum bag. JIA YOU sistar.

its the same everywhere, there will be 害群之马

[drifand]

you did right. I had flings with people before and this girl asked for money. Luckly I had excuse saying I had none and was owing money to some loan.

I would have done the same with friends as well. Some borrow and never return. Luckly for me those I lend to were really trustable.

I wouldn't have let him borrow the money, regardless of signing that piece of paper.

Change number, get a court order against him if he tries to be an idiot shame the member here if need to.

Oh remember women always have higher rights than man so you have the upper hand. He should think twice.

[Fat Fatt]

Originally Posted by cheryl

I am a professional (??what professional??) I told him to be a gentleman and I gave him a loan agreement to sign. He gave a lot of excuse not to sign, and but constantly telling me about our future together, and how he can easily get many other girls. (you can be sure that's the last time u see your 35k if u really lend him)

One fine day I got fed up. I decided to end the r/s, and tell him its not working out for us. Then when I told him that, he started scolding me, and I am afraid he will start stalking me and hurt me because he can't take rejection. (guess he will not, better spend time look for other people to con)

Any bro or sister that went through similiar incident can give me some advise? 1. Should I go back to him? Nope
2. Am I wrong to just end the r/s? Yes
3. Should I have trust him and lent him the $? No, it's better lending to me. I meant it's the same as lending a stranger because u don't really know him
4. What if he starts following me around or give out my number, what should I do? the police or authorities should help u, but u need to collect some evidence to support ur claim, like SMS etc.

I'm starting to think that sbf is not a gd place to find FB cos the guys not v mature and emotionally stable.

I answered in brackets to ur post. Ur last statement is a sweeping statement, just becos u met a nut case does not mean that all in Sbf are like that. Just that U have not met a good one. N please if u r feeling rich don't give it to gigolos like the one u said, but give it to an old folk home or orphanage.

[Xgenre]

Originally Posted by cheryl

1. Should I go back to him?
2. Am I wrong to just end the r/s?
3. Should I have trust him and lent him the $?
4. What if he starts following me around or give out my number, what should I do?

I'm starting to think that sbf is not a gd place to find FB cos the guys not v mature and emotionally stable.

1. No, guys are easily replaceable here. Start a thread about getting a new FB and thousands of guys will queue to replace him. Don't go back to him, he might take naked photos of you and force you to lend him money in future. That's blackmail.

2. No, you aren't wrong. Once you are uncomfortable, it's better to end it. A woman's instincts are supposedly very accurate right?

3. No, if he's trust-worthy, he will sign whatever agreement you proposed. Then again, is whatever you are letting him sign valid in court?

4. Go to the police. It's harassment. Changing your number would be a good start.

5. SBF is never a good place to find FB. Whatever gave you the idea it's a good place? Why didn't you take steps to protect your online identity?

[guess67]

Originally Posted by cheryl

I'm starting to think that sbf is not a gd place to find FB cos the guys not v mature and emotionally stable.

Gal, I strongly agreed to this statement. I am thinking of finding a FB outside sbf

[Xpress]

When in doubt.. walk away.. Since you posted.. you are in doubt..

Your don't owe him anything.. walk away.. life will be better.. I'm sure..

All the best.. good luck..

[SH149]

Agree with bro Fat Fatt say

Do u know that among SBF members there is actually some really nice gentlemen n ladies n it's just a pity u din get to meet one

Anyway play safe if u meet anyone regardless who he is - especially money issue can be a real headache cause that's yr hard earn money

[acidicavex]

Originally Posted by cheryl

I have had a few FB previously and I recently found my FB from sbf.

I had just previously break up with my bf and fb and was feeling all empty and alone. That's how I met this guy S

S sound like a really fun guy when I met him. He was charming and attentive to me. This was probably why I agreed to have sex with him so quickly. Everything was fine until he told me about this business opportunity and said that he needed a loan. He said he would return to me within 35 days.

I am a professional. I told him to be a gentleman and I gave him a loan agreement to sign. He gave a lot of excuse not to sign, and but constantly telling me about our future together, and how he can easily get many other girls.

One fine day I got fed up. I decided to end the r/s, and tell him its not working out for us. Then when I told him that, he started scolding me, and I am afraid he will start stalking me and hurt me because he can't take rejection.

Any bro or sister that went through similiar incident can give me some advise? 1. Should I go back to him? Nope never turn back
2. Am I wrong to just end the r/s? no comment no ground to comment
3. Should I have trust him and lent him the $? no even btw husband and wife when it come to $$ it need to be clear if not soon it will be part of the issue when fight arise regardless how lovey dovey you are not to mention he is just your FB not even you real relationship partner.
4. What if he starts following me around or give out my number, what should I do?can't help you can change your nos at a small fee w/o breaking the contract term with your telco provider. There is nothing you can do if he decide to sabo you.

I'm starting to think that sbf is not a gd place to find FB cos the guys not v mature and emotionally stable. You just down on luck maybe you can open eye bigger i can see some very nice bros around but maybe they are already taken good luck in meeting a future one.

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[sloppy85]

1> money shld not get involve in relationship as it corrupted or tainted love in first place.. Money is money n love is love should not put together as one. I learn through a hardway..

2> he will sign the agreement if he plan to return u the money.

3> if he is harassing u.. report to police as in sg our police very satki 1 :>

[RAMS75]

Originally Posted by Fat Fatt

I answered in brackets to ur post. Ur last statement is a sweeping statement, just becos u met a nut case does not mean that all in Sbf are like that. Just that U have not met a good one. N please if u r feeling rich don't give it to gigolos like the one u said, but give it to an old folk home or orphanage.

Agree with Bro Fat fatt..

[soccerboot]

Any bro or sister that went through similiar incident can give me some advise? 1. Should I go back to him?
2. Am I wrong to just end the r/s?
3. Should I have trust him and lent him the $?
4. What if he starts following me around or give out my number, what should I do?

I'm starting to think that sbf is not a gd place to find FB cos the guys not v mature and emotionally stable
Sis, I think you did the right thing! His intention is not pure anymore! There is no need for you to go back to him as there are definitely better guys out there! If you let him get his way, there will be never ending of lending! He didn't dare to sign the agreement, he never have the intention to pay it back! If he is giving out your number like Christmas gift then make a police report on it. A guy has more to lose when it comes to reputation! If you start receiving funny calls, just change your number!

Btw, if you need a good guy, I can introduce you to my blood brother. He is really a good catch! Totally responsible except he is a bit shy when meeting up. When you know him better, he will open up and you will find him interesting! Cheers!

[BscBMD997]

Any bro or sister that went through similiar incident can give me some advise?
1. Should I go back to him? ----->>>NO
2. Am I wrong to just end the r/s?---->>> Good thing u end it!
3. Should I have trust him and lent him the $? ---->>> Of cuz dont trust and dont lent him the $$$$!!!
4. What if he starts following me around or give out my number, what should I do?----->>> 999

I'm starting to think that sbf is not a gd place to find FB cos the guys not v mature and emotionally stable. [/QUOTE]

There are mature people here. Dont mark everyone here like this.

[TwinLighter]

Hi Cheryl,
Most bros have already answered your question in your thread , frankly speaking you need not fret too much over that guy. He'll go away after sometime if he knows he arent getting anything from you.

By the way, i'm a 25 m chi guy here, need not really have to become FB eventually, even if can make a friend also would be nice.

Just in case anytime you feel like talking to someone about anything, anything at all. Feel free to drop me a pm

Have a nice day lady.