questions after bonking.....

medicheng · #1 25-01-2005, 08:36 AM

have you ever occur to u that u flirt and bonk with so many girls, in the end, u r just a hollow self? You are physically satified, but then emotionally u r still not happy?

I do.... do you?

If you are, What should you do?

Find a gf to settle down and marry? hmmmmmm, but how to find a girl who is totally emotionally click with you? And also allow u to bonk and satified you emotionally? I had been thru quite a number of relationships and none work well.....

Oh man, I felt I am too greedy in this, but then after bonking everytime, I think, is this the lifestyle I want all these while?

If you are me, what will you do?

Orgasmic · #2 25-01-2005, 08:57 AM

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Originally Posted by medicheng

have you ever occur to u that u flirt and bonk with so many girls, in the end, u r just a hollow self? You are physically satified, but then emotionally u r still not happy?

I do.... do you?

If you are, What should you do?

Find a gf to settle down and marry? hmmmmmm, but how to find a girl who is totally emotionally click with you? And also allow u to bonk and satified you emotionally? I had been thru quite a number of relationships and none work well.....

Oh man, I felt I am too greedy in this, but then after bonking everytime, I think, is this the lifestyle I want all these while?

If you are me, what will you do?

Theres basically nothing much that u can do. I am like u; in fact worse. After bonking, I feel extremely guilty even if the gal is a super chio babe or something. It has been happening to me since I first started out. PPle talk about horny guys going lusting after gals in the internet and preying on them. BUT there are actually guys like me who REALLY DO NOT enjoy bonking gals. The guilt feeling that i got is something like a kid who skip sch and wander around. After consulting a psychaitrist, i know that i am mentally ill. Kept hearing voice which i tot was real asking me to chat and meet up with pple. Further info about my mental health i wont reveal here for privacy. Just wish to tell some pple out there THAT there are actually guys who do not take pleasure in bonking gals and will even feel guily ....

medicheng · #3 25-01-2005, 09:01 AM

kinda hollow feel right? i also bonk some of my good friends.... but after that i am thinking is this the lifestyle i am seeking? haiz...

Looksee · #4 25-01-2005, 09:09 AM

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Originally Posted by medicheng

kinda hollow feel right? i also bonk some of my good friends.... but after that i am thinking is this the lifestyle i am seeking? haiz...

seems like a catch 22 situation.........but then it could be a pasting pharse tat u r going thru now.........

medicheng · #5 25-01-2005, 09:13 AM

maybe... suddenly wanna give up on my flirtings and so on and lead a life without flirting and bonking.....

thinking about why and what is the reason for doing all these. even good friend also can bonk.....

really losing myself here....

bunny · #6 25-01-2005, 09:13 AM

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Originally Posted by medicheng

kinda hollow feel right? i also bonk some of my good friends.... but after that i am thinking is this the lifestyle i am seeking? haiz...

Sorry dun mean to be philosophical ... but here goes: just my own views ...

Probably need to know what you want in life ... Iwent througha few stages ... and thot that was what I wanted, but when reach there realised that it was not really what I wanted and so make changes and head where I wanted to go ... it always happens ... but must spend time to think about what we want.

Next in terms of the hollowness, when u think u know what u want, then theoretically you should be happy ... eg. gf or wife ... but then not everything is perfect ... gotta accept that, then can begin to enjoy and see the good side of things. When what u have is nto perfect ... then go search to fill in the gaps, but if u happen to find somethig that fits better overall, then it is the individual choice what to do ... some decide to stay on and have flings on the side, but anchored to the family knowing that that is what they want ... some decide to divorce ...

Sorry ... hope I never confuse people here. Cheers

medicheng · #7 25-01-2005, 09:19 AM

maybe it is time for me to change direction, and dun try to flirt with that china insurance mm liao.... haha... no lah, after i did with my good friend, i kept on asking myself, will our friendship ends there? will we still be like friends? or i need to chase her make her my gf to maintain it?

then if i got her liao, wat should i do?

and been bonking all these while I am thinking... so many chio bu, so many ordinary girls out there in the street, you begin to feel that will there be any normal girls out there to be your wife? After u heard so many stories and bonk so many girls.....

hmmmm i am creating headache for myself ba... haha..

please pardon me my dear brothers...

MachoDevilX · #8 25-01-2005, 10:06 AM

Bro,

If you doesn't bonk and just plainly feel emotional towards the girl, I think you probably wouldn't have the feelings of "hollowness". I have changed my satisfaction to satifying the gal's emotional aspects rather than plainly satisfying my own desire. Knowing that the girl is satisfied and happy will make me feel more happy than just bonking her. Maybe you can change your mindset to satisfy her rather than satisfying yourself. Treating the girls with respect by not bonking her will probably make the girl feel more comfortable...

medicheng · #9 25-01-2005, 10:19 AM

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Originally Posted by MachoDevilX

Bro,

If you doesn't bonk and just plainly feel emotional towards the girl, I think you probably wouldn't have the feelings of "hollowness". I have changed my satisfaction to satifying the gal's emotional aspects rather than plainly satisfying my own desire. Knowing that the girl is satisfied and happy will make me feel more happy than just bonking her. Maybe you can change your mindset to satisfy her rather than satisfying yourself. Treating the girls with respect by not bonking her will probably make the girl feel more comfortable...

of i did, showing her the power of my finger.... can see she is in estacy....

bunny · #10 25-01-2005, 10:23 AM

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Originally Posted by MachoDevilX

Bro,

If you doesn't bonk and just plainly feel emotional towards the girl, I think you probably wouldn't have the feelings of "hollowness". I have changed my satisfaction to satifying the gal's emotional aspects rather than plainly satisfying my own desire. Knowing that the girl is satisfied and happy will make me feel more happy than just bonking her. Maybe you can change your mindset to satisfy her rather than satisfying yourself. Treating the girls with respect by not bonking her will probably make the girl feel more comfortable...

Bro MachoDevil ... same same ... i enjoy it when the gal gets a big high ... I also feel good and then the girl will much much more interested to please you in return also ... hahaha ... Cheers

foolish_ · #11 25-01-2005, 10:26 AM

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Originally Posted by medicheng

have you ever occur to u that u flirt and bonk with so many girls, in the end, u r just a hollow self? You are physically satified, but then emotionally u r still not happy?

I do.... do you?

If you are, What should you do?

Find a gf to settle down and marry? hmmmmmm, but how to find a girl who is totally emotionally click with you? And also allow u to bonk and satified you emotionally? I had been thru quite a number of relationships and none work well.....

Oh man, I felt I am too greedy in this, but then after bonking everytime, I think, is this the lifestyle I want all these while?

If you are me, what will you do?

I think it's just a phase in life you are going through. Having had all the sex you wanted, you start looking for the emotional aspect rather than just the physical aspect of sex.

If I were you, maybe you can cool down the sex part and focus for awhile on an emotional relationship. I am sure after a while, the desire for just plain sex will come back.

bunny · #12 25-01-2005, 10:27 AM

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Originally Posted by medicheng

maybe it is time for me to change direction, and dun try to flirt with that china insurance mm liao.... haha... no lah, after i did with my good friend, i kept on asking myself, will our friendship ends there? will we still be like friends? or i need to chase her make her my gf to maintain it?

then if i got her liao, wat should i do?

and been bonking all these while I am thinking... so many chio bu, so many ordinary girls out there in the street, you begin to feel that will there be any normal girls out there to be your wife? After u heard so many stories and bonk so many girls.....

hmmmm i am creating headache for myself ba... haha..

please pardon me my dear brothers...

Then looks like u falling for her already ... there is a saying ... :It is better to have loved and lost than not loved at all." Looks like you are either infatuated or in love ... when I was a teenager ... i was also infatuated althoguh i thot i was in love ... always sit outside and wait for a girl I know to pass by ... and then sneak a peak/say hi! ... But I never followed up ... so I will never know what could have become ...

As for making yr good friend yr gf or wife in future ... actually yr wife should be yr best friend ... just some food for thought ... you will hve to decide what to do ... can only share my experince and views... Cheers .... dun think so much ...like Nike ...Just Do it !!! hahahahaha ... but do what ..,.that u have to decide ... Cheers

emperor · #13 25-01-2005, 10:29 AM

Sex( & girls ) is like food. People have fixed ideas/impressions of what food is suppose to be like. Hence, the following categories:

- meal times are rituals/habits done instinctively whether you need the fuel or not. Oftentimes, the food choices are based on familliarity rather than nutrition or enjoyment. The food has to be high on taste, often enhanced by additives, of sufficient quantity and procedures standardized. If you've always wondered why most food centres have a tacky/crude vibe to it,now you know why. Red light districts are the equivalent.

- choosing/enjoying fast food = choosing porn over reality.

- fine dining denotes choice/variety/experience/ambience/difference. In the flesh trade this equals "better quality"/ hard to find/expensive/recommended girls or sexual encounters.

- home cooked food = sex available from a regular partner be it a wife, girlfriend, mistress or "kept" woman.

- exotic food = kinky or unusual sex.

If you don't eat what you really need or what suits you, you will never be satisfied. Your mind and body pay the price.