why would people are like that? im confused

PikachuDoraemon · #1 11-05-2013, 03:17 AM

hello bro / sis,

i'm 29f
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i'm been surfing sbf for quite some time and im just curious that why i started this thread. i hope i didn't piss off anybody, no offence

why would man / woman go out to cheat? be it married or attached. no more good man and woman in this world? to stay faithful how hard can it be or they are bored with their wife/hubby or gf/bf?

if is married go outside cheat, why bother to get marry in the 1st place? didn't they promise priest that will take care of each other no matter what?

what type of hubby you are looking for?
what type of wife you are looking for?

how do you salvage your marriage if you happen to know your hubby/wife is cheating outside? if you are man i believe you will be piss off if your wife if she go out cheat but why are you still go out and cheat behind your wife?

no matter what you do, please think for him/her before you want to cheat outside.

thank you for your time

ALonelyPerson · #2 11-05-2013, 08:00 AM

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Originally Posted by PikachuDoraemon

hello bro / sis,

i'm 29f
attached

i'm been surfing sbf for quite some time and im just curious that why i started this thread. i hope i didn't piss off anybody, no offence

why would man / woman go out to cheat? be it married or attached. no more good man and woman in this world? to stay faithful how hard can it be or they are bored with their wife/hubby or gf/bf?

if is married go outside cheat, why bother to get marry in the 1st place? didn't they promise priest that will take care of each other no matter what?

what type of hubby you are looking for?
what type of wife you are looking for?

how do you salvage your marriage if you happen to know your hubby/wife is cheating outside? if you are man i believe you will be piss off if your wife if she go out cheat but why are you still go out and cheat behind your wife?

no matter what you do, please think for him/her before you want to cheat outside.

thank you for your time

Because they know they do have a official partner , so they will try to cheat to enjoy their sex life more .. Try , threaten him that you wish for a divorce.. but this is a risk, better get evidences in case in future really did happened at least you got something to protect yourself against with

For my case , im a guy , i only want a devoted wife who will love me .. Whatever she do what she is in the past do not matter .. it always the current state that matter .. you love the other party for who he is

sane · #3 11-05-2013, 08:21 AM

There are 2 types of people i categorized

- Type 1
Chase after everything that move
Reason to get married - for all the wrong reasons

-Type 2
Those whose heart could only accommodate 100% of love
Reason to get married - think the other half is the right one

When hurt by the other half, there might be a gap/decrease in the heart causing the marriage to weaken and could be easily invaded.
The emotion needs could be subconsciously replace by others or seeking others to replace emotional needs.

If both parties doesn't buck up or put in effort in the marriage or a relationship, it will eventually succumb with or without third party. It takes a lot of love, partience, effort and understanding to maintain a relationship.

Don't pick on a quarrel with your the other half. If you couldn't make a woman happy, give her 幸福 don't marry her. Use your eyes to see the positive side of your partner instead of the flaws. If it's flaws u see only, why be together in the first place?

Don't bring work stress home. Dreaded facing your PMS boss when in a bad mood and communicating is like treading on eggshell, a nightmare?

Imagine treating your partner like that. Don't give anyone bossy attitude, they don't owe u anything. Leave work at work and cherish the little happy times spend with your family. Don't go home and shout at your family like a mad dog.

Happy wife=happy husband=happy family.

A lot of people thought that marriage = own the other person, setting up rules and regulations demanding them to stick to it.
Life is miserable if you do not trust and keep picking on nitty witty issues/cannot let go of what happening in the past. How to live with a person who is hard to get along with?

A person who is easy to get along with will live a happier life.

ALonelyPerson · #4 11-05-2013, 09:08 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sane

There are 2 types of people i categorized

- Type 1
Chase after everything that move
Reason to get married - for all the wrong reasons

-Type 2
Those whose heart could only accommodate 100% of love
Reason to get married - think the other half is the right one

When hurt by the other half, there might be a gap/decrease in the heart causing the marriage to weaken and could be easily invaded.
The emotion needs could be subconsciously replace by others or seeking others to replace emotional needs.

If both parties doesn't buck up or put in effort in the marriage or a relationship, it will eventually succumb with or without third party. It takes a lot of love, partience, effort and understanding to maintain a relationship.

Don't pick on a quarrel with your the other half. If you couldn't make a woman happy, give her 幸福 don't marry her. Use your eyes to see the positive side of your partner instead of the flaws. If it's flaws u see only, why be together in the first place?

Don't bring work stress home. Dreaded facing your PMS boss when in a bad mood and communicating is like treading on eggshell, a nightmare?

Imagine treating your partner like that. Don't give anyone bossy attitude, they don't owe u anything. Leave work at work and cherish the little happy times spend with your family. Don't go home and shout at your family like a mad dog.

Happy wife=happy husband=happy family.

A lot of people thought that marriage = own the other person, setting up rules and regulations demanding them to stick to it.
Life is miserable if you do not trust and keep picking on nitty witty issues/cannot let go of what happening in the past. How to live with a person who is hard to get along with?

A person who is easy to get along with will live a happier life.

A wise words from this bro

PikachuDoraemon · #5 11-05-2013, 09:16 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ALonelyPerson

A wise words from this bro

a sis my friend

PikachuDoraemon · #6 11-05-2013, 09:21 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sane

There are 2 types of people i categorized

- Type 1
Chase after everything that move
Reason to get married - for all the wrong reasons

-Type 2
Those whose heart could only accommodate 100% of love
Reason to get married - think the other half is the right one

When hurt by the other half, there might be a gap/decrease in the heart causing the marriage to weaken and could be easily invaded.
The emotion needs could be subconsciously replace by others or seeking others to replace emotional needs.

If both parties doesn't buck up or put in effort in the marriage or a relationship, it will eventually succumb with or without third party. It takes a lot of love, partience, effort and understanding to maintain a relationship.

Don't pick on a quarrel with your the other half. If you couldn't make a woman happy, give her 幸福 don't marry her. Use your eyes to see the positive side of your partner instead of the flaws. If it's flaws u see only, why be together in the first place?

Don't bring work stress home. Dreaded facing your PMS boss when in a bad mood and communicating is like treading on eggshell, a nightmare?

Imagine treating your partner like that. Don't give anyone bossy attitude, they don't owe u anything. Leave work at work and cherish the little happy times spend with your family. Don't go home and shout at your family like a mad dog.

Happy wife=happy husband=happy family.

A lot of people thought that marriage = own the other person, setting up rules and regulations demanding them to stick to it.
Life is miserable if you do not trust and keep picking on nitty witty issues/cannot let go of what happening in the past. How to live with a person who is hard to get along with?

A person who is easy to get along with will live a happier life.

nice input sis!

sane · #7 11-05-2013, 09:35 AM

Thank bro n sis . Have a nice weekend

Rickey · #8 11-05-2013, 10:44 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sane

There are 2 types of people i categorized

- Type 1
Chase after everything that move
Reason to get married - for all the wrong reasons

-Type 2
Those whose heart could only accommodate 100% of love
Reason to get married - think the other half is the right one

If both parties doesn't buck up or put in effort in the marriage or a relationship, it will eventually succumb with or without third party. It takes a lot of love, partience, effort and understanding to maintain a relationship.

Don't pick on a quarrel with your the other half. If you couldn't make a woman happy, give her 幸福 don't marry her. Use your eyes to see the positive side of your partner instead of the flaws. If it's flaws u see only, why be together in the first place?
Don't bring work stress home. Dreaded facing your PMS boss when in a bad mood and communicating is like treading on eggshell, a nightmare?

Imagine treating your partner like that. Don't give anyone bossy attitude, they don't owe u anything. Leave work at work and cherish the little happy times spend with your family. Don't go home and shout at your family like a mad dog.

Happy wife=happy husband=happy family.

A lot of people thought that marriage = own the other person, setting up rules and regulations demanding them to stick to it.
Life is miserable if you do not trust and keep picking on nitty witty issues/cannot let go of what happening in the past. How to live with a person who is hard to get along with?

A person who is easy to get along with will live a happier life.

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Originally Posted by ALonelyPerson

A wise words from this bro

So well said, sis sane) !...can't find anything else to add....TQ for ur contribution...So, do take heed, bros/sis, of wat the sis has said b4 u enter into any kinda of BGR !...u will hv everything to thank for, if u do...cheers !

sane · #9 11-05-2013, 01:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Rickey

So well said, sis sane) !...can't find anything else to add....TQ for ur contribution...So, do take heed, bros/sis, of wat the sis has said b4 u enter into any kinda of BGR !...u will hv everything to thank for, if u do...cheers !

Thanks bro rickey, u r as kind as ever

PikachuDoraemon · #10 11-05-2013, 05:36 PM

Personally do you ppl prefer ur Partner to be sticky or not? Will you take all his/her time everytime like meeting 1 week for 7 days? Don't even have time or freedom?

My boyfriend is pretty sticky, always wanted to meet, which make me very tired of him. All he was playing game all day but never go out find job to work.

I did give him chances to change but seem like he is not bucking up.

maotaicat · #11 11-05-2013, 06:31 PM

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Originally Posted by PikachuDoraemon

Personally do you ppl prefer ur Partner to be sticky or not? Will you take all his/her time everytime like meeting 1 week for 7 days? Don't even have time or freedom?

My boyfriend is pretty sticky, always wanted to meet, which make me very tired of him. All he was playing game all day but never go out find job to work.

I did give him chances to change but seem like he is not bucking up.

Hi sis, it is just a matter of time when you realized your wishful thinking and
real life are miles apart.

jnudes · #12 11-05-2013, 06:54 PM

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Originally Posted by PikachuDoraemon

Personally do you ppl prefer ur Partner to be sticky or not? Will you take all his/her time everytime like meeting 1 week for 7 days? Don't even have time or freedom?

My boyfriend is pretty sticky, always wanted to meet, which make me very tired of him. All he was playing game all day but never go out find job to work.

I did give him chances to change but seem like he is not bucking up.

Sis, I'm afraid your relationship won't last for too long, unless of course you are willing to work and give him money to spend.

In the modern society it is called 'xiao bai lian' in Chinese. I seen it before in my own eyes in a health center. The gf who is a whore bonks for money. When business is good she could earn $1K easily in one day.

After work the bf picks him up and she gives him all the earnings from the day. During the day while gf is working the bf goes to bonk another gal or gamble using her money given the day before.

When the bf gets sick of her stupid and generous gf, she dumps, beats and kicks her like an animal and he leaves her with another woman. Better you awake now before you become the next victim.

sane1 · #13 11-05-2013, 07:48 PM

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Originally Posted by PikachuDoraemon

Personally do you ppl prefer ur Partner to be sticky or not? Will you take all his/her time everytime like meeting 1 week for 7 days? Don't even have time or freedom?

My boyfriend is pretty sticky, always wanted to meet, which make me very tired of him. All he was playing game all day but never go out find job to work.

I did give him chances to change but seem like he is not bucking up.

This is too extreme. U paying for his expenses?