So Hard and Stressful To Get Pregnant

[Lauhuu]

Sharing my sorrows here bros.

My wife and me are both early 40s and just got married. All these yrs , we didnt talk abt being parent until recently, when a close friend became parents. That triggers sone thought on the joy of parentalhood n maybe, we shd have our own kid.

The prob is, i am ok with or without kids. We finally sopke abt this topic n i told my wife, we can try, but let nature take its own course. I am not very religious but i prefer to leave it to the big boss up there to decide. If have, ok, if not, fine.

We tried for last mth and i felt so so presurised when she told me..we need to "work" later or tonigt. It was sooo stressful n i just wanna get it done n away with. It doesnt help when i am already not high sex drive n that really pushes my limit!

She has put on quite a bit if weight since marriage n started to get lazy working out. Guess to a certain extend, that also reduces my horniness.

She just told me she was feeling sad cos her period came. I was lost for words. Also asked me if i am ok with seeking medical help. I was like wtf?? Initially, we agreed to leave it to nature. Now? Go all out??

I am just worried that the harder she try, the farer i might go to seek escape...

[ray2828]

Ya its stressful i am also going thru the same thing

[lasupkia]

Try to wack on the 13th and 14th day after "Aunty" come. That's how I kanna my baby. I'm also 40s nearing the big 50. But wifey is younger in 30s.

[Thug]

Hi bro. Try not to think about it. Talk to ur mrs. Tell her u r stressed out. Surely both of you doesnt want your child to be conceived under stress. Go for a holiday. Of coz, plan one after her period.

PS Don't get too stressed out.

My wife had a miscarriage 2 months into her first pregnancy and we tried and tried for 6 months or so. Like you, we were stressed and started to panic. What if something went wrong during the miscarriage? What if this and that. We sat down and talk. That calmed us down, letting nature flow and bingo.

Good luck bro. No stress is the key!!

[hungryghost4]

It's only been a month. Best bis not to do too often....bro lapsupkia is right....if both of you wish, consult a gynae to determine your wife's most fertile dates and try just before, during and after that day.

Diet and exercise also plays a part. Best of luck for nation building!

[neil0103]

Try having sex in the morning ur more likely to get pregnant then......n see come creampie vids to get ur motor running :P ......getting to ejaculate in a women's pussy is a turnon!

[coolguy71]

hi .. i seen a report.. the study shows couples show high chances of conceive baby when they make love in the mood of excitement..

For example.. couple who make love in car .. public area.. the fear and excitement of possible getting caught add more hormones to the sex.. thus our 'soldier' are more active..

Another example : Unmarried couple have pre-marriage sex.. are more easy to get pregnant.. as it is forbidden and so wrong.... the thought of excitement.. can have wonder to increase chances of conceive..

Or maybe you and your wife go for a romantic holiday.. the mood is so good.. you are so turn on.. the moment you might just have send your elite soldier into your wife.. and bingo.. 9 month.. 1 cute baby..

Good luck bro...no harm try...

[Lauhuu]

Thks all for the tips!

Fucking stresssssful! Will try to unwind abit.

[gondola1188]

Bro,its diff for yr wife to get pregnant when u r stressed as plannin to get pregnant. My personal experience is to do it without thinkin abt baby. Thats y those teens get pregnant so easily. Bang without stress

[jameschong1]

Originally Posted by Lauhuu

Sharing my sorrows here bros.

My wife and me are both early 40s and just got married. All these yrs , we didnt talk abt being parent until recently, when a close friend became parents. That triggers sone thought on the joy of parentalhood n maybe, we shd have our own kid.

The prob is, i am ok with or without kids. We finally sopke abt this topic n i told my wife, we can try, but let nature take its own course. I am not very religious but i prefer to leave it to the big boss up there to decide. If have, ok, if not, fine.

We tried for last mth and i felt so so presurised when she told me..we need to "work" later or tonigt. It was sooo stressful n i just wanna get it done n away with. It doesnt help when i am already not high sex drive n that really pushes my limit!

She has put on quite a bit if weight since marriage n started to get lazy working out. Guess to a certain extend, that also reduces my horniness.

She just told me she was feeling sad cos her period came. I was lost for words. Also asked me if i am ok with seeking medical help. I was like wtf?? Initially, we agreed to leave it to nature. Now? Go all out??

I am just worried that the harder she try, the farer i might go to seek escape...

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think problem is yr little bro not strong enough to stand hard for long.
can overcome by - no cold drinks, no cold bath, take real man food like beef + Viagra as yr bro may be weak

also put in excitement by f..king in places like kitchen or living room
also change place to h81 to imagine u f,,king prostitute

also also no pcc or outside sex to preserve your small qty of white glue

[zhanyou]

Bro. One more medical fact to understand. Under normal cirumstances, even with the correct timing, the chance of pregancy is 20%. Cannot be so accurate one shot one kill.

More accurate for your wife to plot her body temp rather to rely purely on the 13 or 14 th day.

[japwombat]

I have been thru your stage before. I was only in my 30 and wife is only late 20. Thus we also tried for a few months and I got stress out too.
Anyway I feel that there is no point of u getting stress out over trying for a baby right? Maybe u can tried to go GNC and buy a multi vitamin for men which contain ginseng. Not too sure if it works.. But my wife conceived shortly after I consume for a few weeks. Now baby is already born...

[Nsdselvlian]

Since she is in her 40's, she belong to the high risk pregnancy category. She might want to do a pre pregnancy check to check on her fertility (eggs) or for any cyst/fibroids. The doctor will prescribe her pre pregnancy multi vits/folic acids etc.

As the age increase, the no. of eggs will decrease hence it might even get difficult to get pregnant.

Furthermore, the doctor might give more advise on how to track a woman's cycle days and she might also want to use the online website to track her ovulation days etc. There are signs and symptoms to look out for. A woman might also feel horny around her ovulation.

http://mymonthlycycles.com/menstrual...y_calendar.jsp

if u find it stressful, u might like to do it with her on her fertile day. A normal couple take around 6months - 1yr to get pregnant. Some of my friends take years and u feel the stress for only 1 month.

That is v unhealthy for newly wedded, it will be best to voice out with her. Just go natural. Give yourself some time.

[Lauhuu]

Originally Posted by Nsdselvlian

Since she is in her 40's, she belong to the high risk pregnancy category. She might want to do a pre pregnancy check to check on her fertility (eggs) or for any cyst/fibroids. The doctor will prescribe her pre pregnancy multi vits/folic acids etc.

As the age increase, the no. of eggs will decrease hence it might even get difficult to get pregnant.

Furthermore, the doctor might give more advise on how to track a woman's cycle days and she might also want to use the online website to track her ovulation days etc. There are signs and symptoms to look out for. A woman might also feel horny around her ovulation.

http://mymonthlycycles.com/menstrual...y_calendar.jsp

if u find it stressful, u might like to do it with her on her fertile day. A normal couple take around 6months - 1yr to get pregnant. Some of my friends take years and u feel the stress for only 1 month.

That is v unhealthy for newly wedded, it will be best to voice out with her. Just go natural. Give yourself some time.

Precisely. Onli 1 mth and she is asking me to go seek med help. Shit also need to take off pants.

I am stress more from her wanting to be preg than anything else.

At first say ok, let nature take its coyrse. Now, full speed. Really cb. Give an inch, woman wants a meter!

[ah_heng81]

Originally Posted by Lauhuu

Precisely. Onli 1 mth and she is asking me to go seek med help. Shit also need to take off pants.

I am stress more from her wanting to be preg than anything else.

At first say ok, let nature take its coyrse. Now, full speed. Really cb. Give an inch, woman wants a meter!

I think going to seek medical help is a good idea. I get your point, but do think of it this way, if the doctor advice both of you not to try than you no stress and she also will not disturb you right ? Or maybe they can give proper advice on how to up the chances to get pregnant , than you can get it done with.

Sometimes the more you hurry it just dont come. But when it comes , it's just out of the blue. When i was 21 and my wife was 18 suddenly i make her pregnant, than 4 years later we decided to try for 1 more..... Guess what, it came only like another 4 years later when i was 29 .