Your sexual interest with girlfriend/boyfriend

[cunningness]

Hi brothers and sisters,

few months back, my gf due to being afraid she will be pregnant after we had sex even if we use condom, we have come to a conclusion to not have sex only after we're married.

Just like to ask how fellow brothers and sisters keep the flames alive w/o sex. I have been masturbating a lot and when my gf and I are into foreplay, I do not feel anything or I will be soft very quickly.

Sigh. I do not wish to cheat behind her back and find sex buddy but sometimes just kept thinking about it.

[BlueDemon]

Originally Posted by cunningness

Hi brothers and sisters,

few months back, my gf due to being afraid she will be pregnant after we had sex even if we use condom, we have come to a conclusion to not have sex only after we're married.

Just like to ask how fellow brothers and sisters keep the flames alive w/o sex. I have been masturbating a lot and when my gf and I are into foreplay, I do not feel anything or I will be soft very quickly.

Sigh. I do not wish to cheat behind her back and find sex buddy but sometimes just kept thinking about it.

Bro,

Think you need to stop thinking of sex and stay away from sex/masturbation for a while. When it comes, it will comes.

Most probably you are too nervous. Find something to do for the time being.

[BiRd13]

I will say that since you both have come to a conclusion that only have sex after married, then abide to it

Not sure why you get soft during foreplay. You may need to see a doctor for such. I don't know for others, but when my partner touch my sensitive area (especially dick), I will for sure got hard... Sometimes accidentally touch may get hard too. Of course if continuous touching/stroking/caressing, will definitely maintain the hardness till release. No?

I had an ex whom we did not have sex during the first 2 years. At most, she only HJ or at times BJ (Maybe once a month) for me. I can touch any part of her body, but not pussy. During this period, I did not find any other to release by having sex with others. As I'm those that when get into relationship, will not find any other woman for sex... Unless single different la

[singlegal]

Sex is wonderful! Never be worried and feel guilty about it unless you have done something sexually sinful.

My boyfriend and I have wonderful sex and even at times exchange partners but we take extra precautions to maximize the feels of having sex. Sex urges are normal and I do not understand why keep it as though it was a heavy burden. Of course morally it's good to be loyal to your loved one but we definitely need to spice up our sex life every now and then.

Remember having sex is pleasures, not burden whether mentally and physically.

[simifly]

Bro cunningness, yr girl hinting u to marry her lah.
She must be thinking u test drive so many times liao,
still dont want put yr pen on the paper.

[ladylove]

ex boyf and i were like that too..

but i think varying the place helps a lot. bedroom foreplay without sex gets very routine after some time. car, public toilets, cinemas etc etc can be quite sexciting. sometimes with a little booze involved helps too

as for you getting soft easily hmm i don't really know why cuz ex boyf and i will always finish the job haha. maybe try not to masturbate and wait for her to help you?

[cunningness]

Thanks to all brothers and sisters for the advices.

Yea, Gf has been hinting me on which age to get married and discuss about BTO and all sorts of thing but I wanna make sure I can give her and our future children a good life before inking on the certificate. Lifetime commitment man, must really think carefully.

I guess everytime when we foreplay, she always choose to be horny so accurately on the days I masturbate. I guess I need to drop the frequencies of masturbation before I rely too much on my own hand instead of hers.

Anyway, I wish all of you a great day ahead ya?