Why Are Women Crazy & Why Your Marriage Is Failing

[Notary]

Disclaimer: I'm going to write something very straightforwardly pertaining to the female creatures of this Earth. Sisters of SBF, please know that whatever I am about to say is from a tender heart. Don't hate me, instead, try to see from my point of view and make whatever changes needed that could improve your standard of living as a person with your boyfriend, husband and family.

The female race is a strange creature,
much problems were caused because of them (sometimes by them)
but still we cannot live without them.

[Notary]

Is your marriage failing? Are you dealing with an unreasonable female boss? You loved a girl with all of your heart but she just keeps abusing you emotionally? You’re starting to think that we are dealing with a lot of crazies? Well, read on.



I would like to start by talking about the legendary Premenstrual Syndrome otherwise more commonly known as PMS. According to a news article "Men were right all along. Our hormones DO make us women irrational" written by Ms. Rachel Ragg. It shared a number of real life stories regarding what some women did in the midst of their irrationality.



Example #1: "My mood swings were dreadful. After a row with my husband I drove my car into a wall"



Example #2: "‘When I have PMS, I become the opposite of my usual self,’ she says. ‘I usually see the best in everything and everyone — but for a week every month I become irrational and unpleasant."



Example #3: "In a fit of anger against the husband with whom she’d recently split, she had gathered up every reminder of her marriage, lit a match and set fire to the lot. It was only when it began to get out of control that Martina realised the severity of the situation.‘The flames started to melt the PVC window frames on the house and a section of guttering,’ she says. ‘Luckily, I was able to put it out with buckets of water but I could have burnt the house down."



Example #4: "Suzanne Gilchrist was jailed for more than four years for assault and other offences after claiming she had been suffering a ‘hormonal imbalance’ when she hit a pedestrian in her car and then tore through a town’s streets with him still clinging to her bonnet."

According to Dr Nick Panay, chairman of the National Association for Premenstrual Syndrone and the British Menopause Society, says that "PMS is a problem with a medical basis. The fluctuating levels of female hormones affect the central nervous transmitters including serotonin, dopamine and adrenaline, which influence everything from our mood to our concentration and sleep.



You might be thinking that PMS is just a fragment of hellfire you are experiencing. Could there be other reasons why we are dealing with so much crazy-juice? Well yes, let us look at women’s unreasonable expectations wired in their DNA:



1. Wanting him to pay for things, but still be a financial equal.

We live in a society where women are educated, they too have the power to garner wealth. However, it was naturally conceived in their minds that because of their gender, they need to be pampered. When having a meal with them, you're expected to foot the bills, drive to her location, pick her up, ferry her to the arranged destination and hell, why don't you clean her shoes too? And at the end of the day, you talk about women and men being equal? Check out the Singapore Women's Charter and then you can reevaluate gender equality in Singapore.



2. Wanting him to want to do things.

Do we ever insist our other half to sit beside us and wholeheartedly watch the EPL? Based on this question, look at what women expect us men to do.

"whether it was emptying the dishwasher, or going out with a group of my friends to an event I knew he wasn’t that interested in — it would drive me crazy to think that I dragged him through it. Even if he didn’t complain, and was perfectly reasonable, I needed to go the extra mile and make him pretend to have really wanted to do it. And I can’t really name a woman who doesn’t do this, about one issue or another."



3. Don’t look at other women.

Say what!? Know this girls, when guys look at another pretty babe, it is like you going to Zara staring at their latest range of handbags. It really does not mean that we are sexually stripping her clothing or fantasising on her sucking our dicks. Sometimes, we are just admiring the beautiful creations of God - i'm sorry that you don't look like her but it is not my fault, why get angry with me? The only way we men can stop looking at pretty girls is by going blind. Instead of getting worked up all the time why not try to accept this nature of life?



4. Wanting to build a financial future, but also have a pricey wedding.

"Dear... I want to go to Maldives and then to Europe for our honeymoon..."
"Dear... Let's hold our wedding at the Ritz Carlton Hotel.."
"Dear... Let's go take wedding pictures in the Amazon Rainforest..."
"Dear... I want to look very very pretty in my classy wedding dress, it's once in a lifetime for me you know..?" (not really, at this rate, you're heading for a second and third marriage sooner than you expect)

Enough said.



5. Basing relationship expectations off of people around you.

Hey lady, it does not matter if your colleague is getting married. It does not matter if their diamond ring is bigger than yours. It does not matter if your best friend husband's dick is long and thick. It does not matter if Jane was brought to a romantic date to Marina Bay Sands yesterday and you were brought to Food Republic to have one of the best Hokkien Noodles in town. It does not matter because it is none of your business. You should be contented with what you have and concentrating on building your lives together instead of putting unnecessary stress on your other half.



6. Thinks that their life is a romantic Korean comedy.

For a long time, students were taught on Sex Education that pornography is all an act. Do not expect that your wife to do the things that these women can do. We men know how to differentiate between fact and fiction; we ask of you to do the same. You will not marry a handsome young boy who out of nowhere catches you when you fall only to find out that he is a billionaire's son who is soon to take over his family's riches. He then magically falls in love with you, takes you everywhere in his limousine, flies you around in his private jet and has got a body nicer than Zac Efron's. *bbbrriiiinnggggggggggg....* That's your alarm clock waking you up from your dream.


7. Have sex with me even though I've become lazy, fat and smelly because we made a vow before during marriage that you'll love me unconditionally.

They say that a picture paints a thousand words...

8. Always choose me over your friends.

Women must understand that even though that the Earth revolves around the Sun, they are not the Sun. Our lives goes on even after getting attached, we still have friends. A guy cannot throw away all his drinking kakis and get home before 8:00 PM to watch Wheel of Fortune with you. Of course we cannot go overboard by hanging out with friends every day but taking it easy once in awhile gives you some personal time too.



There are even verses in the Holy Bible that talks about crazy wives, let's look at what God has to say:


Proverbs 21:19
It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman.

Proverbs 27:15
A continual dripping on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are alike

Proverbs 31:10
"An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels..."



Let us look at these quotes on women by some established people:



"Women have a wonderful instinct about things.
They can discover everything except the obvious."
- Oscar Wilde



Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood.
- Oscar Wilde



"Women marry men hoping they will change.
Men marry women hoping they will not. So each is inevitably disappointed."
- Albert Einstein



"The chief excitement in a woman's life is spotting women who are fatter than she is."
- Helen Rowland



There are women who do not like to cause suffering to many men at a time, and who prefer to concentrate on one man: These are the faithful women.
- Alfred Capus



"Sometimes I wonder if men and women really suit each other. Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then."
- Katherine Hepburn

[Notary]

I hope my insights have enlightened you on your situation. It is not about solving your problem with whosoever, it is an issue of choosing the right girl who could think properly. However, in my opinion, the options in Singapore are now very tight. It's like looking for water in a desert but most of the time you'll only see a mirage.



Totally discouraged by what I just said?
Well, at least I'm showing you the truth.
Good luck with finding the right one Bros.

[PleasurableSex]

Is your marriage failing?

[Notary]

Originally Posted by PleasurableSex

Is your marriage failing?

Hi Bro PleasurableSex,



I'm not married

[MoeLanYong]

Yet you want to give advice on marriage?!

[Notary]

Originally Posted by MoeLanYong

Yet you want to give advice on marriage?!

Must you be diagnosed with cancer to give advice to cancer patients?

[jazp]

couldn't have agreed more. except that the women are not crazy. they are just illogical at times. and the problem is that their power after marriage is too great considering their tendency to be illogical.

[Captainoceania77]

Originally Posted by Notary

Must you be diagnosed with cancer to give advice to cancer patients?

Very well said!!!!

[MoeLanYong]

Originally Posted by Notary

Must you be diagnosed with cancer to give advice to cancer patients?

Do you take swimming advice from a non swimmer? Curing cancer is a medical science. Succeeding in marriage is an art.

[ManInCheong]

We guys are the one who spoilt our own women...and their father did lots of it too....
For those who really believed in gender equality, dream on.
We basically pampered our women too much that they had ride on our big and small heads.
p.s. Princess-wannabe is the worst.

[williamtkk]

I agree that women can be illogical. The reason is very simple. Women swayed with the direction of the wind. Whatever situations that would bring them benefits

[Notary]

Originally Posted by MoeLanYong

Do you take swimming advice from a non swimmer? Curing cancer is a medical science. Succeeding in marriage is an art.

If you would have taken reading lessons to begin with you'll understand with absolute clarity that this post does not just deal with marriage issues only. It also touches on boyfriend / girlfriend type of relationships and in general the wacky female psychology. It also does not give advice on what to do with your marriage, it merely states the possible reason towards marriage failure.



In case you need advise on the definition of the word "advice".

According to the dictionary:
The word "Advice" is an opinion or recommendation offered as a guide to action and / or conduct.



There is no where in my post where I said "you should divorce", "you should finger your wife more" or "you should at least have education so that you could read (your wife) properly." These, in case you don't know, are called "actions"



Yes, I would still take advice from a non-swimming if the non-swimmer is very well read on swimming or has got a PhD in Science, Majoring in Water Survival.



And yes, marriage is an art but it is also science, it is also relationship management, it is also business management (handling the finances between the union), it is also human resource management (how to manage people that's within the circle of your marriage, your in-laws, your children and even your maid) and marriage is also psychology.



Would you allow a psychologist to advice you if she is not psycho?
Would you allow a wine salesman to sell you wine if he is not a vineyard owner?
Would you allow a a top business consulting firm like Deloitte to consult your multi-million dollar Char Kway Teow business if they do not own a Char Kway Teow business themselves?




"Truth will always be truth, regardless of lack of understanding, disbelief or ignorance."
- W. Clement Stone

[Notary]

Originally Posted by williamtkk

In Vietnam, men are expected to pay for women. you might think about dates between a man and a woman, and the man is expected to pay for it.

Bro williamtkk,



This is happening in China too. When you go out on occasions, the females expect men to pay. Actually, this is a societal psychology issue where girls generally expect the men to pay since men are labelled as the stronger gender. When I was in Singapore there are a few female friends who would always expect me to foot the bill too, a very disgusting behaviour.



Thanks for bringing up this point - definitely something worth remembering about.

[williamtkk]

Originally Posted by Notary

Bro williamtkk,

This is happening in China too. When you go out on occasions, the females expect men to pay. Actually, this is a societal psychology issue where girls generally expect the men to pay since men are labelled as the stronger gender. When I was in Singapore there a few female friends that always expect me to foot the bill too, a very disgusting behaviour.

Buyers beware.