Which thing 1st for marriage??

[tellmiwhy]

hi to all bros here.

hope i'm not being irrelevant discussing this in here. i've finally decided to end my single life and join the 'family man' by nxt yr end. Was discussing wif my "wife" regarding wat to prepare 1st. to buy our house and make sure everything is okie b4 we hold our wedding ceremony or vise versa (alot of $$ involved so cannot do tis two things at the same time.) my friends ard me all used abt 3 yrs to complete this two things but all tried the both ways. so dunno which is better.

can any bros being thru this advice me on this?

[whiskynaam]

get a house first... that is necesary... n mind blowing banquet will just blow ur bank anyway.... do the practical first lah... many people also do this... imagine... 3 years to pay for a wedding... thats ridiculous.... but then again... thats the norm.... hiazzzzzz.....

[PegasusGirl]

Originally Posted by tellmiwhy

hi to all bros here.

hope i'm not being irrelevant discussing this in here. i've finally decided to end my single life and join the 'family man' by nxt yr end. Was discussing wif my "wife" regarding wat to prepare 1st. to buy our house and make sure everything is okie b4 we hold our wedding ceremony or vise versa (alot of $$ involved so cannot do tis two things at the same time.) my friends ard me all used abt 3 yrs to complete this two things but all tried the both ways. so dunno which is better.

can any bros being thru this advice me on this?

My advice is Marriage 1st, I have seen and heard lot of such cases. If u get a house 1st without going thru customory marriage. As day passes, it become not 'so necessary' to get married. End up quite high percent of them divorce. Just my observation.

[zhivago]

Do accordingly to your budget and wat is needed...

cheers and congratz.

[tittyhawk]

Getting a house after ROM is the norm practice here. But while waiting for the hse to be ready, some people may hold the customary and then move to the hse after that. Timing has to be arranged and worked out in the beginning.

Buying a hse is not gona cost u alot of cold hard cash. But dressing it up, yes it will. Bear in mind, before holding customary, there will be a wedding photo shoot session and it aint cheap either.

And it all depends on planning.

[zhivago]

Originally Posted by tittyhawk

Buying a hse is not gona cost u alot of cold hard cash. But dressing it up, yes it will. Bear in mind, before holding customary, there will be a wedding photo shoot session and it aint cheap either.

cross the causway and travel 2xxkm to Melaka and have the photo session. That would save u some $$.

[big dick]

buy a house first.. and make sure it come with a bed now...

[bart]

You forgot most important thing. Have sex first. Try eveything compatable. BBBG, CIM, Anal all meet standard, then get house or ROM. Up to you.

[RenMinBi]

Originally Posted by bart

You forgot most important thing. Have sex first. Try eveything compatable. BBBG, CIM, Anal all meet standard, then get house or ROM. Up to you

Should be have a girl 1st

[dt3305]

after ROM, apply for house and work together on the budget to do up the house,,,make sure it is within your means and not to do better than your friends or her friends...end up you are the one paying the bill...

go JB to do your photo shoot and you will save alot of money...around S$2000will cover all...for the wedding dinner, plan within your means...know who you going to invite and not the whole world...some wedding dinner you will actually get back a profit but I have seen some friends who are heavily in debt after that...they book table at $888 a table and get 100 tables....most of them give $80 ang pow and only about 70 tables full...

so plan well and dont let the stress spoil the fun...marriage is supposed to be the best time of your life(both of you that is)...

[Bayleaf]

My opinion is different. I feel majority of Singaporean oftn throw their hard earn money into their house throughout their whole life. Anyone remember the OCBC radio advetisement:

Man saying: Ohooooo, i got my own house!
Old man saying: Finnnaaallllly......, its mine ..... ooowwwooow (coughing)
Little gal saying: Granpa, are you ok?

See, not asking you to go OCBC. But if your parents house is available, and if they hope you can stay with them, stay with your parents lah.., make your money useful in other areas first. But by all means, this is a sex forum, don't forget to bonk your wife first before other things happen. We will be happy to hear your first bonk with her.

[tellmiwhy]

Originally Posted by tittyhawk

Buying a hse is not gona cost u alot of cold hard cash. But dressing it up, yes it will. Bear in mind, before holding customary, there will be a wedding photo shoot session and it aint cheap either.

yeah...tats the thing bro. having headache as in to spend the money on dressing the house 1st then after that save for the wedding customary. calculated gotta spend quite a huge sum of money in doing up the house and i dun intend to loan from the bank or take from parents. (tats the bad part.) so onli between me and my 'wife' savings surely not enuff to do the two things together. we were like planning to buy the hse 1st and dress it up but wun stay together 1st coz like the other bro say. 'get used to it' not gd, then we try to save abt 2 yrs and then hold the customary. in the mean time we can have all the photo sessions done during the period.

is tat a gd option? havent tell our parents yet abt our plans...dunno wil kena scolding anot.

[tittyhawk]

Originally Posted by tellmiwhy

yeah...tats the thing bro. having headache as in to spend ......

is tat a gd option? havent tell our parents yet abt our plans...dunno wil kena scolding anot.

Well, seems that u n ur wife is gona to dress up the house within ur own limits...tats a damn good start for a couple...tats planning. Your parents would be more than happy if they know u have this intentions but then again, they may offer to assist.

Plan well ahead and spend within one's own limits is a good start....

On a lighter note, judging from ur remarks, u probably found a financially responsible wife and congrats on ur big day...

[interested]

Hi Bro,

After reading this, I am somewhere just over that hurdle.

I have ballot for a home. Costing around 283K. As much as possible not to use cash but CPF to pay. I have also discuss with my wife to be. She also agreed. Although we haven ROM yet. My House will only be ready around 2008/09.

So in the mean time save up loh. I am not very sure my maths is right or not.
Bros here, who went through do help me on it.

Doing up a house with the basic.. overall OK lets say 20K at least, Toilet, kitchen, masterbedroom do up. with maybe those necessity appliances, fridge, washing machine, stove, heater, A/C, maybe TV.

Then wedding will be around another 20K , i think will be more. Not sure. Bros here do help.

I do hope 40K will be enuff., but I am planning for the worst. As there are many hidden cost. Ang Bao, last min additional tables by mother-in-law. Somemore got honeymoon.

If you can do open a joint acct with your wife to be so everything revolves around the house will be using that account to pay and make it a commitment to save every month.

Then make the matter known loh and compromise on some expectatin if possible.

Congrats and good luck planning

[tellmiwhy]

Originally Posted by tittyhawk

Your parents would be more than happy if they know u have this intentions but then again, they may offer to assist.

On a lighter note, judging from ur remarks, u probably found a financially responsible wife and congrats on ur big day...

yeah...i m also glad that my wife is that mature and responsible enuff.
thanks for the congrats bors!! dunno if any bro here feel like what i m feeling now? (i actualli cant wait for that day when me and my 'wife' going thru the customary.) me nw type also feeling excited as in nt that sort of excited lar.