What to do on Sunday?

[starbucks]

Hi bros. Need advice. I have been cutting down my Sunday havocs with DHs. So far, I went cold turkey for 3 Sundays by doing housework n keeping busy. The DHs also took it as a sign that I no longer wanted to meet n did not contact me since. This Sunday I suffer strong withdrawal syndrome, can't resist temptation and went back to my old ways. Anyone successfully cut off all CCAs and stayed clean? I felt I need more than housework on Sundays to keep me occupied. Any advice from personal experience? Pls dun ask me go church, do volunteer or other textbook advice. Thank you!

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[anikisan]

What's DH?

If u are referring to finding FLs for sex, then I had been in your shoes once. Well, it's not a form of sex addiction (at least for me) but it's more of a routinised craving for some weekends, especially when I feel lonely when my kakis all not free. So I just book FL and then go home, makan and have some drinks and that is a 'good' weekend leow. Work hard at work and then rinse and repeat. After some time, i realised that this is not very healthy as since my kkb is satisfied every weekend, i don;t have the desire to go out and meet new girls (for marriage la, as i still young and still want to get married someday) and so I just settle for quick and easy release. My wallet also suffering as I'm just an average income earner in sinkiepore.

So, what i did was to meditate in ur own religion (whatever it is) + go for a brisk walk then jog then run and basically u exercise until u cannot make it and see beh shag then come home, shower, dinner and sleep early. i can guarantee u ur horniness will disappear when u exercise a lot. of coz, in the long run, exercise will raise ur testosterone levels and make u even more hornier, but i devised a system to like, fuck every 2-3 weeks when i cannot take it and slowly lengthen it to 1 month and longer. net net it's still better than blowing away $180-$200 per weekend.

hope this helps bro

[francisloh1976]

Originally Posted by anikisan

What's DH?

i believe he means domestic helper.

[Peacekeeping]

Originally Posted by anikisan

What's DH?

If u are referring to finding FLs for sex, then I had been in your shoes once. Well, it's not a form of sex addiction (at least for me) but it's more of a routinised craving for some weekends, especially when I feel lonely when my kakis all not free. So I just book FL and then go home, makan and have some drinks and that is a 'good' weekend leow. Work hard at work and then rinse and repeat. After some time, i realised that this is not very healthy as since my kkb is satisfied every weekend, i don;t have the desire to go out and meet new girls (for marriage la, as i still young and still want to get married someday) and so I just settle for quick and easy release. My wallet also suffering as I'm just an average income earner in sinkiepore.

So, what i did was to meditate in ur own religion (whatever it is) + go for a brisk walk then jog then run and basically u exercise until u cannot make it and see beh shag then come home, shower, dinner and sleep early. i can guarantee u ur horniness will disappear when u exercise a lot. of coz, in the long run, exercise will raise ur testosterone levels and make u even more hornier, but i devised a system to like, fuck every 2-3 weeks when i cannot take it and slowly lengthen it to 1 month and longer. net net it's still better than blowing away $180-$200 per weekend.

hope this helps bro

I can’t do it. Every weekend I need to release my inner beast to stay sane as a single.

[84gunner]

Originally Posted by anikisan

What's DH?

If u are referring to finding FLs for sex, then I had been in your shoes once. Well, it's not a form of sex addiction (at least for me) but it's more of a routinised craving for some weekends, especially when I feel lonely when my kakis all not free. So I just book FL and then go home, makan and have some drinks and that is a 'good' weekend leow. Work hard at work and then rinse and repeat. After some time, i realised that this is not very healthy as since my kkb is satisfied every weekend, i don;t have the desire to go out and meet new girls (for marriage la, as i still young and still want to get married someday) and so I just settle for quick and easy release. My wallet also suffering as I'm just an average income earner in sinkiepore.

Reminds me of 20 years back when I was going through divorce...

I was working 2 - 3 jobs back then, main job doing IT in a factory in the day, on some evenings, go teach night classes, on other evenings, work as bartender in pubs. My main / day job people didn't know about my evening jobs, but my colleagues in the pubs knew about my situation & were very supportive.

It's partly for the financial needs back then (divorcing in sg, the legal fees, credit card debts, etc), but also mentally, to focus on positive stuffs rather than when free, can think of the unhappy or even dangerous thoughts! I kept myself so busy I slept only 3 - 5 hours a day almost everyday! This way, I have little time to think of negative or dangerous thoughts!

After sorta "stabilised" on such routine for some time (a few months I think), I think mentally I'm sorta "stabilised" too. And then I realised the last sex I had was few months ago, and felt some urge again. This is 温饱思欲。

Still going through divorce proceedings, no gf, no fb, therefore the best option was GL. So I went GL on 1 Sunday evening, went through the SOP wham-bam-thank-u-ma'am. After the session, I felt kinda revitalised!

Then I went to 1 of the coffeeshops nearby for some food, can't remember whether it was char kway teow or prawn noodle or fish ball noodle or something like that, + a drink (can't remember it's 100 plus or 冬瓜茶 or coke). After that, it felt like kinda really enjoy life! (like that called pampered life?) !?? Yes, my weekly work routine was tough & very tiring, and even though that session was SOP, it kinda made me feel pampered! I also kinda felt relieved that my kkb is still normal, after the depressing period.

After that session, I told myself, continue that tough & tiring routine, yes, I need to, for the same reasons. But I think it should be ok for me to pamper myself with 1 such session every weekly or 2 (keeping in check my financial situation). Of course, after the current problems are solved, I can look forward to a more normal life & future. Of course, having experienced Women's Charter, will have phobia of sg gals, regardless of who's right or wrong!

Coincidentally, few weeks after that session in GL, a buddy of mine was also going through divorce, he also talked about no sex for some time & some urge. Immediately, we both jio each other go GL, then went through the SOP, and then also some food at 1 of the coffeeshops. We began to have more "luxury", after the bonking session, go for different food. Example, last week had fish ball noodle, this week prawn noodle, then next week maybe hokkien mee. Imagine this is the "spice" or "luxury" to us back then!

After 3 - 4 rounds of such "routine", my buddy said, seems such routine can be addictive, hahaha. We both are victims of sg's Women's Charter, our exes didn't know exactly what they wanted, but just "copy" their peers for the sake of they also have, ie, about time & age to have bf, they also have, about time & age to get married, they also get married. But future? Like that lor. We both knew, we have very deep psychological scar (even phobia, luckily no phobia for sex or women, hahaha).

Not long after that (slightly more than 1 year I think), our divorce cases concluded, we had job offers in other countries (we both went different countries) & moved on with our lives ever since!

No regrets about leaving / quitting sg, we are both doing well now, settled down with our own families, even during the pandemic, we are both also doing well, which we are happy for each other!

[ace stud]

Originally Posted by starbucks

Hi bros. Need advice. I have been cutting down my Sunday havocs with DHs. So far, I went cold turkey for 3 Sundays by doing housework n keeping busy. The DHs also took it as a sign that I no longer wanted to meet n did not contact me since. This Sunday I suffer strong withdrawal syndrome, can't resist temptation and went back to my old ways. Anyone successfully cut off all CCAs and stayed clean? I felt I need more than housework on Sundays to keep me occupied. Any advice from personal experience? Pls dun ask me go church, do volunteer or other textbook advice. Thank you!

Erm... any particular reason why you need to go 'clean'? Also, why only DHs?

[unsung80]

U need to come over and help me do my housework after you finished, enough to keep your mind off DH!

[starbucks]

Thanks for all the advice and sharing. Perhaps i should exercise or do more brisk walks on Sundays. Or just sign up gym n go hoot the machine. Sweat out clear the mind.

[Jabba]

Keep yourself busy.I took up another part job to stay away from trouble.It really helps.i cut down to maybe once in 6 mths

[starbucks]

Originally Posted by Jabba

Keep yourself busy.I took up another part job to stay away from trouble.It really helps.i cut down to maybe once in 6 mths

1 in 6 months is an accomplishment. Thanks for the idea. Appreciate.

[84gunner]

Originally Posted by ace stud

Erm... any particular reason why you need to go 'clean'? Also, why only DHs?

infected with STD(s) ?

[hhlover]

Originally Posted by starbucks

Hi bros. Need advice. I have been cutting down my Sunday havocs with DHs. So far, I went cold turkey for 3 Sundays by doing housework n keeping busy. The DHs also took it as a sign that I no longer wanted to meet n did not contact me since. This Sunday I suffer strong withdrawal syndrome, can't resist temptation and went back to my old ways. Anyone successfully cut off all CCAs and stayed clean? I felt I need more than housework on Sundays to keep me occupied. Any advice from personal experience? Pls dun ask me go church, do volunteer or other textbook advice. Thank you!

If u r single y need to cut down havocs with DH.. u can jus enjoy life with DH.. having sex once a wk is healthy.. but if u r married.. jus spend more time with yr family on sunday tat all..

[ace stud]

Personally, PC gaming helps to clear the mind off sex especially those games that requires grinding for resources.

[tnkaki]

Originally Posted by starbucks

Hi bros. Need advice. I have been cutting down my Sunday havocs with DHs. So far, I went cold turkey for 3 Sundays by doing housework n keeping busy. The DHs also took it as a sign that I no longer wanted to meet n did not contact me since. This Sunday I suffer strong withdrawal syndrome, can't resist temptation and went back to my old ways. Anyone successfully cut off all CCAs and stayed clean? I felt I need more than housework on Sundays to keep me occupied. Any advice from personal experience? Pls dun ask me go church, do volunteer or other textbook advice. Thank you!

Bro, direct your DH msg or contact to me, I helps you to follow up and will update you regularly on their progress, hope this helps.....cheers bro